Quoting nooch:" i felt like tht for a very long time but now nothing, i am not angry at him, i am sad for him that he truly doesn't know what he is missing by not being in her life"

I never really looked at it that way. My babys daddy dumped me the day after I told him I am pregnant. He came back a few weeks later and told me if I had an abortion, or gave the baby up for adoption, he'd get back together with me. I didn't take him up on his offer. I just yelled.

Quoting alli marie ♥:" I never really looked at it that way. My babys daddy dumped me the day after I told him I am pregnant. ... [snip!] ... abortion, or gave the baby up for adoption, he'd get back together with me. I didn't take him up on his offer. I just yelled. "

Good for you! Freaking dead beat asshat >.<

Quoting nooch:" i agree but he has mental issues (depression,anxiety, has tried to kill himself before) and i have ... [snip!] ... have the confidence in himself to be a parent even though he was a good father when he was in her life. does that make sense? "

Sorry to say, you are making excuses for him. I suffer from depression and anxiety and it has made this pregnancy VERY difficult. My SO has depression and mild PTSD, but he's still busting his rear end to supply for me and our little girl.
On that note, my SO has proved himself, showed that he wants to be there and that he will do whatever possible to give his daughter the best life possible, but do you really want someone in your daughters life who uses their metal illnesses as an excuse? He needs to step up and be a man or learn to wrap it up. I am so sorry you are having to go through this and I really hope he mans up for his daughter's sake. Don't go chasing him unless it's for child support.  

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" Good for you! Freaking dead beat asshat >.<"

I know! His family tries to be supportive, but they are trouble makers.

Quoting Laneys*Mama:" Yeah, but I would think that would be more of a reason not to let him around her? I don't know. I have ... [snip!] ... too afraid to call, but maybe he's waiting on you to extend the offer for him to see her? Just be 100% sure it's what you want."

yeah i thought bout his mental illnesses and i don't think he would do anything to harm me or the baby, i would be more worried about him harming himself. he's on meds or atleast he was when we were together, don't know if he still is.

i know for 100% that i want him in her life, just not sure how to go about it.

Quoting alli marie ♥:" I never really looked at it that way. My babys daddy dumped me the day after I told him I am pregnant. ... [snip!] ... abortion, or gave the baby up for adoption, he'd get back together with me. I didn't take him up on his offer. I just yelled. "

well he was never like that so are situations are different, yuck i don't see how men can be so smurfing heartless tho

Quoting alli marie ♥:" I know! His family tries to be supportive, but they are trouble makers. "

He's lucky it wasn't me. A guy comes to me saying he'd be with me if i aborted his baby .... i'd end up in smurfing jail.

I hope you plan to rail his ass for child support.

Quoting  LiveLove2012(::" Sorry to say, you are making excuses for him. I suffer from depression and anxiety and it has made this ... [snip!] ... to go through this and I really hope he mans up for his daughter's sake. Don't go chasing him unless it's for child support.  "

i can't go after him for cs, i didn't put him on bc and dhs can't get a hold of him so there is nothing i can do.

Quoting  LiveLove2012(::" Sorry to say, you are making excuses for him. I suffer from depression and anxiety and it has made this ... [snip!] ... to go through this and I really hope he mans up for his daughter's sake. Don't go chasing him unless it's for child support.  "

I don't think she said HE was using his mental illness as an excuse. She said that's why SHE feels he hasn't been there.  
Not everything is about child support where children are concerned.

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" He's lucky it wasn't me. A guy comes to me saying he'd be with me if i aborted his baby .... i'd end up in smurfing jail. I hope you plan to rail his ass for child support."

Oh, I do.  
He has an awesome job, so I'm going to hit him hard where it hurts most.

Quoting nooch:" i can't go after him for cs, i didn't put him on bc and dhs can't get a hold of him so there is nothing i can do."

What is dhs? And if you have him home number, can't you give them that to get a hold of him? He doesn't need to sign the bc, he just needs to submit to a DNA test, which can be court ordered.

Quoting alli marie ♥:" Oh, I do.   He has an awesome job, so I'm going to hit him hard where it hurts most. "

Cs is based on what you make as well.

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" Cs is based on what you make as well."

Which is basically nothing lol

Quoting alli marie ♥:" Which is basically nothing lol"

Well then you should get a pretty penny ;)

Quoting Laneys*Mama:" I don't think she said HE was using his mental illness as an excuse. She said that's why SHE feels he hasn't been there.   Not everything is about child support where children are concerned. "

thank you, i didn't know how the correct way to word my response but you took it out of my fingertips.

and i honestly don't care about cs, dhs has tried to go after him since i am on daycare program called families first but they couldn't get in contact with him and he isn't on bc