:( Getting an abortion.
posted 29th Sep
I've been feeling strange the last week or so. Very tired, sort of nauseous, feeling really hungry, then not hungry at all. I had a bad feeling that I was pregnant, especially because my period is now 6 days late, but I kept trying to tell myself that my body is still regulating itself from my last pregnancy. I took 2 tests this evening, both of which came back saying "pregnant." I'm 7 months postpartum with my son, my first child. I am 22 years old, and my fiance and I are currently living with his parents because we lost our apartment when my fiance lost his job in July.
I have decided to terminate this pregnancy because I can't afford it, and my body hasn't yet fully recovered from my first pregnancy, and I want to focus on taking care of the child I have and get my life more stable before having another.
However, even though I've made my decision, it does hurt :/ I never wanted to have abortion. I fought to keep my son when everyone pressured me to abort him, but I knew I was meant to have him and I kept him. So doing this now, when over a year ago I didn't want an abortion, sucks. I don't really have any friends outside of the internet anymore, since they all mostly stopped talking to me during my pregnancy with my son, so I could use some support :/
I'll be calling Monday to set up an appointment, and we're telling my fiance's parents tomorrow.
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Good luck hun. Be strong. Do what you think is right for you. Don't let anyone else get to you
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This has to be hard but your doing it for a very unselfish reason, just remember that. I wish you luck that things go good for you.
quoteI have 1 child & live in
Texasposted 29th Sep
I was soooo anti-abortion until I had DD.
I am a single mom, so I know how hard things are right now.
A few months ago, I hooked up with my first love, and got pregnant. I was in the decision-making process of deciding between abortion, adoption and keeping it.
I ended up having a miscarriage. :\
Remember, this is YOUR choice and anyone who is not supportive is not a true friend.
Good luck, and if you need a friend, im here.
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Sorry you are going through this. I had an abortion last year. I don't regret it in the least bit. You do what you need to do. You know what you can handle. If you need to talk I am here. Also a bit of advice... I wouldn't tell your fiances parents about it. People tend to get uppity about things like that.
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Are you sure you're pregnant? I didn't see anywhere in your OP that stated you tested and got a positive test. Just wondering.
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Be strong dear. It's a hard thing to go through, but it's what you need to do for you and your family.
There are a lot of supportive people on BG. It's a good place to come if you need to talk to someone.
quoteI'm TTC since August '11, have 1 child & live in
Ohioposted 29th Sep
Its ok to hurt and it's ok to grieve. I hope you feel better.
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Good luck with your decision!
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I hope you feel better soon. If you feel like this is best, then it is. You have to focus on your baby here before bringing another into the mix. Stay strong and you have BG ladies for support if you need it. <3
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Yes, I took 2 tests :/ Both positive.
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Thank you so much everyone for your support
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Quoting Jacquie Gallo:" Yes, I took 2 tests :/ Both positive."
Sooner the better hun. *hugs*
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*hugs* you do what is best for you and your family.
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I know, that's what I'm saying. Clinics are closed on Sundays, so I'll have to call Monday, and hopefully get an appointment ASAP.
I don't really want to tell my fiance's parents, but we have to, since we're gonna need their help paying for some of it :/ I currently only have $280, which I know isn't enough for it.
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