Married to a hardcore gamer.

I knew what I was signing up for when we got married. During my pregnancy if he wasn't at work or in bed, he was on the computer or the Xbox playing one of his many games. Now we have an 18 month old and one due in March, and it's pretty much the same. He does help with DS...he works night shift and I work a weird mid-shift so he watches DS from about 10:30Am-2PM when MIL picks him up after work. I pick him up at 8:30 PM and stay up with him til about 11 so he can have a snack and have his bedtime story, bath, etc. On the weekends I am usually the one dealing with him but DH will get up and fix a sippy or change a diaper if I am cooking or cleaning. DH does almost all of the cleaning during the week since I work a weird shift so I really cannot complain about him not helping, I guess I just wish he would help in our marriage as well. We have sex plenty, but it's pretty much the only contact we have. We went out for the first time in about 5 months last saturday and all I got from him was a quick dinner and a redbox movie before he went back to his game. I had to watch the other 2 by myself and fell asleep on the couch before he ever even got up to go to the bathroom. I have talked to him about it and usually he just brings up how much more he does around the house than me and makes me feel guilty so I drop it. I guess maybe I should just be thankful for what I have and not complain, I know a lot of women who have to bed their husbands to help with kids or housework. I just wish he put as much time into me as he does everything else. I can't really say I'm "neglected", I get sex whenever I want it and he will cuddle up for short periods of time (usually to butter me up so he can put the moves on me, but still)...I guess I just want more of an emotional connection. We don't really talk, and when I text him from work or something he never answers back. He talks to all of his game buddies though. I guess I'm just not interesting enough. I do play the same game he does but I have terrible HG with this pregnancy and usually don't feel like getting on. I would never ask him to stop playing, I know everyone needs a hobby or something they enjoy. I happen to enjoy watching Food Network, he enjoys video games. There is really no point to this post, just wanted to type out my feelings. It's pretty long so I don't really expect any replies. I don't have a journal so I decided to put it here. If you did read, thanks lol.

This is why I hate video games. Luckily, my DH was never too into them, but I know way too many relationships that the guys tune out for hours playing a stupid game. Its so childish. I can't imagine growing up and having my dad playing by himself all day long. Dads need to be MEN, not little boys playing.

I would do what a friend of mine did when she got sick of her DH playing video games all the time...she smashed up the game system to bits

My SO is the same way. He literally is ADDICTED to his online game. I have tried not to say anything because he works 7 days a week and right now is the main provider... but I swear, he even gets online to check his game when he comes home during his lunch break   We wakes up, plays his game, goes to work, comes home for lunch, checks game, goes back to work, comes home, plays game, then goes to bed.

We don't really have sex that much. He doesn't help out a lot in the house. (Again, I don't say anything because he brings in the $$ right now, so I try to keep the house kept)... but it's obnoxious.

Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:" I would do what a friend of mine did when she got sick of her DH playing video games all the time...she smashed up the game system to bits"

Nah, thats a waste of money...I'd go sell it when he wasn't home at least!

Quoting *Berrrr:" My SO is the same way. He literally is ADDICTED to his online game. I have tried not to say anything ... [snip!] ... (Again, I don't say anything because he brings in the $$ right now, so I try to keep the house kept)... but it's obnoxious."

I'm sorry, but that is such a sad view of your relationship. Just because he makes money, he is allowed to choose games over spending time with his family? That is utter ridiculousness. You work in the home, he works outside of the home. You are equals, he is not more deserving of playing because of money.

Quoting Meg and Nora's Mommy:" I'm sorry, but that is such a sad view of your relationship. Just because he makes money, he is allowed ... [snip!] ... You work in the home, he works outside of the home. You are equals, he is not more deserving of playing because of money."

Well I guess it isn't that he chooses his game over his family. He'll play around with us, but he works 2nd shift. And since I'm home, I typically let him sleep until 10-11am before waking him up. He has to be to work by 2 and leaves by 130. He doesn't get home until 1045-11pm... by then we're in bed so he plays his game then.

But it does drive me insane. He just literally doesn't have time to go do anything else, or friends to do anything else with. So I try not to say anything about the game.

I'm engaged to a gamer, and we have a little one due to be here in February.
He is an amazing guy, so loving and caring, and always does everything for me.. but the minute he is on the games he becomes a completely different person.
He will get on at 10 am and then not get off until 4 am the next morning.
I don't understand what is so interesting about those stupid games.
I told him he's going to be a father, it's time to grow up, but he just doesn't seem to want to do anything about it.