why don't people understand......

That I can have a living child yet die to have another child with out people thinking or making me feel as if I'm not blessed, or that I take DD for granted?....
Bc yes I know I'm blessed and even blessed more than others.
But I'm blessed less than others. That make sense?

Just bc I want another child badly doesn't mean I love DD any less, or I'm ungrateful....
I feel like my family is is incomplete, I feel my DD should have a sibling like.a best friend when I'm gone, am I wrong? How do I get others to understand where I'm coming from? Does any one else experience this??

I have the opposite problem. I get told I'm selfish for wanting LO to be an only child. People will talk no matter what. Just do what you feel is best for your family.

I somewhat see where you're coming from but my personal opinion, is that if I was in a position like yours, I would much rather be around to watch my child grow up than to give her another sibling.

Yes I 100% understand. My doctor told me earlier this year that it would not be safe for me to get pregnant again and obviously that has been hard on me and everyone says to just be thankful I had one child.

you're not gonna change their minds. let them think w/e they want to you're not wrong for wanting another don't let anyone tell ya differently. yeah you can be 'grateful' for what you have but so what? if you can have more and you want more I don't see a problem. I fought my family on this issue for a year, they think I should be "happy" with 1. screw that. just bc they can't/don't have more doesn't mean I should be limited esp. just bc they "say so". Either they'll come around or they won't. best of luck to you though

Yea I know another woman that has one child and doesn't want more, she's married stable etc. but I don't care that she only wants one its her life.

that's what it comes down to... ppl try to force their beliefs like how many kids to have on you, tell them to stuff it. It took my mom 3 yrs to get it through her head I'm gonna do what I want. Now she's trying to explain it to the rest of the family lol bc they don't get it. oh well. not my place to explain it to them. and it's not yours either. do what you want. otherwise you'll regret following someone else's plan for you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" I somewhat see where you're coming from but my personal opinion, is that if I was in a position like yours, I would much rather be around to watch my child grow up than to give her another sibling."</blockquote>


How am I not being around to watch her grow? When I'm died I'm died her dad will die sometime and I have a close bond with my sister and that's who I'd turn to. When my parents pass, who else would understand?

Quoting Miss. Tiff:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" I somewhat see where you're coming from but ... [snip!] ... sometime and I have a close bond with my sister and that's who I'd turn to. When my parents pass, who else would understand?"

I thought you meant that you were told you could possibly die conceiving/having another child. Guess I misunderstood, sorry!

I would just not tell anyone that you are TTC. They can't put in their input if they don't know, right?

Thank you all for the positive words.
I hate hearing ” Atleast you have DD” yes that's true but why is it ok or ppl spread their legs everywhere with babies they don't care for but.... I.should settle. Bc I have fertility problems Drs don't seem to care to want to bother with bc the lady in the next room has a new born.

Its killing me. And if I fail at anything it will be giving up on ttc, completely. By tying my tubes.
That's my ultimate fear/failure.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" I thought you meant that you were told you could possibly die conceiving/having another child. Guess I misunderstood, sorry!"</blockquote>




No I'm just having trouble conceiving and then keeping babies. Its ok.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:</b>" I would just not tell anyone that you are TTC. They can't put in their input if they don't know, right? "</blockquote>




They just know its been on going for 2 yrs, every one knows we want another. :/ but I can't help feeling the way I do dreaming.wishing.hoping.and praying. Trying toprove I'm a good mom.

is your kid happy? healthy? well-adjusted? etc. Then I'd consider you a good mom. And... why do you have to prove them wrong? screw them! do it for you instead but as I said above ^ you're prolly a great mom.

Quoting Miss. Tiff:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BoogerBear's Momma:</b>" I would just not tell anyone that you ... [snip!] ... we want another. :/ but I can't help feeling the way I do dreaming.wishing.hoping.and praying. Trying toprove I'm a good mom."

Why do people thing your a bad mother?