re: why don't people understand......

Yes!!! People act like I'm not allowed to be bummed out by the fact that my reproductive system sucks! "Be thankful for the child you have", they say. I AM thankful! Just because I want another child doesn't mean I don't appreciate the one I have and it doesn't make me unworthy of having another one!

I feel you..I had a mc in June and everyone kept saying..well at least you have you're boys..you can try again etc..I just wanted to scream to the world I didn't want another I wanted my angel..and now we are TTC again and everyone is saying..oh you should wait blah blah blah ..I hate it

<blockquote><b>Quoting DifferentDay:</b>" is your kid happy? healthy? well-adjusted? etc. Then I'd consider you a good mom. And... why do you have ... [snip!] ... And... why do you have to prove them wrong? screw them! do it for you instead but as I said above ^ you're prolly a great mom."</blockquote>



Maybe not proving to ppl I'm a good mom but maybe God or who ever is in charge. Like what am I doing wrong? To not be aloud to parent another child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee:</b>" Yes!!! People act like I'm not allowed to be bummed out by the fact that my reproductive system sucks! ... [snip!] ... I want another child doesn't mean I don't appreciate the one I have and it doesn't make me unworthy of having another one!"</blockquote>



Exactly.

And its not like we're ttc hard core like documenting everything charts,etc. Bc I gave up on that. They say stop trying, How is that possible.

I'm do close to calling it quits, but Wednesday I have surgery where they're going to look at my reproduction system parts laproscopicly. I'm freaking out. They're looking for endometriosis and then if that's what's causing painful sex and infertility thenthat's something else that may hold us back. I don't kids after 30..... So my clock is wastin away for unknown reasons. :/

I need some who understands what I go thru every day how it feels . And know I'm not trying to be selfish.

just bc you want the opportunity to have another baby and be a wonderful mama doesn't make you selfish. So what if you have healthy kid(s) now. Doesn't lessen the heartache a woman goes through after a loss. Try not to listen to those who are negative around you. Easier said than done I bet, but all that negativity is doing is bringing you down and making you feel smu*ffy. Good luck with your exam tomorrow hope they can give you some answers, but moreso praying it will be good news.
emily- my MIL is like that... "you shouldn't rush to have another bc you'll increase your chances of losing that one too... etc etc." I hate that reason ppl give! And the whole "be grateful for what you have" I wanna punch some in the face for that one!

Quoting Miss. Tiff:" That I can have a living child yet die to have another child with out people thinking or making me feel ... [snip!] ... friend when I'm gone, am I wrong? How do I get others to understand where I'm coming from? Does any one else experience this??"

That is definitely not selfish. I have 4 other sisters and I love having sisters! I don't know what I would do without them! But some people I guess view that differently, I would pull out the card of I want a big family like the olden days lol! I know I want this baby, and then I won't want another one for a few years, but I know I want another one most likely! But I would just tell them that is your desicion and that you feel you are ready for another one because you love being a mother.

<blockquote><b>Quoting DifferentDay:</b>" just bc you want the opportunity to have another baby and be a wonderful mama doesn't make you selfish. ... [snip!] ... etc." I hate that reason ppl give! And the whole "be grateful for what you have" I wanna punch some in the face for that one!"</blockquote>



Atleast I'm not crazy not the only one. I have been very good at throwing out the negative ppl but ppl just say smurf and they be helping but they're really not.  
Before I often wonder ” how could some one steal some ones child, now I can see why. I work at a gas station and I drooll over every baby that Congress thru there not to mention the cute bellies obvisouly filled with a baby. Its driving me.

I've lost 2 and another one would send me over the edge. Its been a year since my last baby was removed Fromm me and I've delt with the loss but my craving my baby fever and and clock are in full force. In the mean time I try to pretend I'm not hurting that much inside let life do its things, I feel hopeless. And I'm learning to come to terms with whatever is in store for me but its so hard! Bc I know what could make me feel WHOLE. Maybe that baby won't replace my other babies but fill this hole in my heart for them.

I can completely understand!! I'm going through a similar situation! Everyone keeps telling me that god knows when its the right time and maybe another child is not what he has in store, but I'm thinking WHAT?? We have been dealing with infertility issues for years. At first it was my fault (endometrosis and precancer) then I got that fixed and we conceived after we got married. I decided to start TTC when my son turned 2 years old, I kept blaming myself for not conceiving and then we found out my DH has a low sperm count. So we've been dealing with meds, bloodwork, ultrasounds and inseminations. The RE wants us to use IVF because he thinks that would be the best option, but I don't have $9,000 in cash lying around to give him. So I am on a deadline too...well I've set for myself. I don't want my children to be a big age gap in ages, so I've decided to give it another year and then quit trying to expand my family. I just don't want a big age gap and my son not want anything to do with it. So I've been going back and forth to the RE every month trying to get pregnant. Now I'm on my second round of IUI and I get inseminated this wednesday, hoping it will finally take! The RE told me if we don't use IVF then I should get a donor, but that is not going to happen! I have so many emotions because of this. I sometimes feel incompentant and feel like I'm letting him down because he wants a sibling so bad because he talks about it all the time.
If anytime you want to talk I'm here  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ryans Mommy TTC #2:</b>" I can completely understand!! I'm going through a similar situation! Everyone keeps telling me that god ... [snip!] ... him down because he wants a sibling so bad because he talks about it all the time. If anytime you want to talk I'm here  "</blockquote>



although our stories are different they are very similar. It took 3 years tc my DD. Rounds of clomid didn't even work. And now I'm ready again and its not happening.   but everyone else I know seems to be pregnant. I wish you lots of sticky dust! I hope you, get your baby soon.

So I have to be at the hospital in an hour for my procedure. I'm getting nervous my palms are sweating and I'm....... Trying to NOT worry.

Update: had my laprascopic.procedure today. They found endo and scar tissue removed/fixed what there was next step is my F/u appt in 2 Weeks about my future plans.