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re: I may have aborted..

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posted 29th Sep

<blockquote>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:" LOL.. I had a c-section 8 months ago, too.. Do you know what the chances are of your scar tearing? less than 3 percent.. even less after a year."</blockquote>

I didn't know that. My OB just told me to wait 18 months, so I am. There were several other reasons why I would've aborted though.

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I have 2 kids & live in Campbellsville, Kentucky

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Atticus & Rhys's Mommy

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posted 29th Sep

It's your body so you have the choice. It never happened so I dont see the point in dwelling on it

With that being sad, I can see why he'd possibly be upset about having an abortion it would be his child too. I would never have one unless I spoke to my husband first, and yes I had medical issues with both of my pregnancies. I had pre e with my 1st, induced, hemmoraged.....my 2nd PIH and hemorraged yet again giving birth. Even with my medical issues, I would still discuss it with him before hand. But thats just me, I dont think men should have a final decision, but I do think they should have some say in regards to the fetus considering it is half of them. Granted every situation is different, if its a one night stand or some guy you just met a month ago, not saying thats YOUR situation but just in general I suppose.

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I have 2 kids & live in Westfield, Massachusetts

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Brittany Riot

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posted 29th Sep

<blockquote>Quoting Atticus & Rhys's Mommy:" It's your body so you have the choice. It never happened so I dont see the point in dwelling on it With ... [snip!] ... if its a one night stand or some guy you just met a month ago, not saying thats YOUR situation but just in general I suppose."</blockquote>

I've been with my SO for 5 years, in October. I wasn't giving him a choice, or asking permission. I was just letting him know ahead of time, that if I WAS pregnant, that there was no way possible that we could keep it. I was going to abort because I didn't feel like keeping the baby was the right decision for me. I have two other kids that I didn't want to take anything away from, emotionally or financially.. along with about a million other reasons. I just don't really like him continuously throwing it in my face, I guess, especially since I wasn't pregnant to begin with.

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I have 2 kids & live in Campbellsville, Kentucky

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Brittany Riot

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posted 29th Sep

Also, if any of my replies sound bitchy, I GENUINELY don't mean for them to. I suck at wording stuff properly. Please don't take offense ladies.

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I have 2 kids & live in Campbellsville, Kentucky

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thisunrest

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posted 29th Sep

<blockquote>Quoting Brittany Riot:" I had a pregnancy scare a few months back. It was my fault, and I felt like smurf for it.. I should've ... [snip!] ... abort, because I wasn't pregnant, do you all think that I still have a right to be extremely pissed off over the crap he said?"</blockquote>

Uhm,YES!
Tell the jack-wagon that once HE gestates, then he can make that call or he can go make babies with someone else.

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I live in India

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Brittany Riot

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posted 29th Sep

<blockquote>Quoting thisunrest:" <blockquote>Quoting Brittany Riot:" I had a pregnancy scare a few months back. ... [snip!] ... Uhm,YES! Tell the jack-wagon that once HE gestates, then he can make that call or he can go make babies with someone else."</blockquote>

Your wording of that reply made me happy. Lol. I think if he ever had to gestate, he would've wanted to abort too. xD

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I have 2 kids & live in Campbellsville, Kentucky

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Layla-and-Faith594 posts

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posted 30th Sep

Quoting Brittany Riot:" <blockquote>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:" LOL.. I had a c-section 8 months ago, ... [snip!] ... know that. My OB just told me to wait 18 months, so I am. There were several other reasons why I would've aborted though."

Yes, I see a fertility specialist. They recommend waiting a year but even if you get pregnant in the first year it's a very, very small chance and that's pretty much only if you go for a VBAC (which what I'm planning). So the chances of it happening are very small.

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I have 2 kids & live in Nova Scotia

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A, E & W's mommy

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posted 30th Sep

Quoting Brittany Riot:" <blockquote>Quoting Atticus & Rhys's Mommy:" It's your body so you have the ... [snip!] ... I just don't really like him continuously throwing it in my face, I guess, especially since I wasn't pregnant to begin with."

Your right, he shouldn't be continuously throwing it in your face. But to me that sounds like he's trying to bait you, like he wants to talk about it and is trying to push you into talking with him about it. Maybe he isn't finished expressing how he feels on the topic. Because regardless of the fact that you get to make the final choice doesn't change that that makes him feel helpless about the outcome of something that he still has an emotional response to. I can't think of anyone who wouldn't be angry over being helpless to change something that majorly affects them, to not even be allowed to have their opinion matter on the subject. It's not really a mute point because it didn't happen, it could still happen, and something like that can be a make it or break it issue for a relationship, it sounds worthy of discussion to me

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I'm due October 24th & live in Bulgaria

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Layla-and-Faith594 posts

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posted 30th Sep

Quoting Brittany Riot:" <blockquote>Quoting Atticus & Rhys's Mommy:" It's your body so you have the ... [snip!] ... I just don't really like him continuously throwing it in my face, I guess, especially since I wasn't pregnant to begin with."

quote: because I didn't feel like keeping the baby

See what I mean.. most abortions are because a woman simply "feels like it"

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I have 2 kids & live in Nova Scotia

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A, E & W's mommy

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posted 30th Sep

Quoting Layla-and-Faith:" quote: because I didn't feel like keeping the baby See what I mean.. most abortions are because a woman simply "feels like it""

that quote is taken a little out of context. She may have used the word 'feel' but it was used to support a medically based concern

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I'm due October 24th & live in Bulgaria

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posted 30th Sep

I haven't read through every thing, but I've gathered that no abortion took place yet he still throws it up in your face. I can understand why he'd be upset. Yes, the choice is ultimately yours, but it would have been his child as well. He would have had every right to be upset if you had aborted, but you didn't. So I feel that it's time for him to let it go, there is no need to dwell on something that didn't happen.

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I live in Neilton, Washington

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kelsey054online

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posted 30th Sep

Quoting Kayla [ ]♥:" He has a right to be upset, but you have a right to be pissed off at him for it... I would have assumed he'd take full responsibility of a kid you didn't want?"

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I have 1 child & live in Kentucky

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posted 3rd Oct

How long did you go without your period when you thought you were pregnant?

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I live in Kansas

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HisIsolde

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posted 5th Oct

Quoting A, E & W's mommy:" Your right, he shouldn't be continuously throwing it in your face. But to me that sounds like he's trying ... [snip!] ... happen, and something like that can be a make it or break it issue for a relationship, it sounds worthy of discussion to me"

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I have 2 kids & live in Louisiana

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Brittany Riot

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posted 8th Oct

<blockquote>Quoting Jfjj8/28:" How long did you go without your period when you thought you were pregnant?"</blockquote>

I was a little over a week late.

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I have 2 kids & live in Campbellsville, Kentucky

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