re: I may have aborted..

Quoting HisIsolde:" Ha...ha... umm.. yeah. Sorry. I was reading all of the other comments and had a dumb airhead moment. Sorry!!! Thank you for showing me my (stupid) mistake!! Appreciate it.  "

All gravy baby. I saw that and was like ... Damn hope that's a mistake!

Quoting DeanJade&Maksims Momma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting HisIsolde:</b>" I have a male friend who found out that his ... [snip!] ... a miscarriage behind some1s back??? How is that her fault??? If he knew she was preg, she wouldn't have had the misscarriage???"

I fixed it. Sorry. I was reading all the other comments about miscarriage and abortions and just stupidly wrote miscarriage. My mind was on another comment while writing this. Sorry!!  

Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" All gravy baby. I saw that and was like ... Damn hope that's a mistake!"

Yeah, I would hope so to if I saw someone else write that.

It might be YOUR body but it's still HIS baby. He has every right and then some to be angry with you for killing his child. Thankfully, you weren't pregnant.. but I wouldn't be upset with him for caring about the life of his child.

Quoting Layla-and-Faith:" It might be YOUR body but it's still HIS baby. He has every right and then some to be angry with you ... [snip!] ... killing his child. Thankfully, you weren't pregnant.. but I wouldn't be upset with him for caring about the life of his child."

You mean THEIR FETUS.

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" You mean THEIR FETUS. "

using a different word might make you more comfortable but it doesn't change how important or unimportant the potential that future was to him.

Quoting Layla-and-Faith:" It might be YOUR body but it's still HIS baby. He has every right and then some to be angry with you ... [snip!] ... killing his child. Thankfully, you weren't pregnant.. but I wouldn't be upset with him for caring about the life of his child."

Yes, he had a right to be upset about, but since it didn't happen, he needs to let it go and move on with life. There's no reason for him to keep making her feel like smurf because of something that might have happened.

Quoting HisIsolde:" I have a male friend who found out that his girlfriend (ex now) had a abortion behind his back when they ... [snip!] ... if he is willing to take on full coustody and have your rights taken away, then you should at least consider that option.  "

The thing is it's not just about the potential baby, it's about the pregnancy too. Why should a man have a say when there are significant health risks involved that don't affect him? My liver was damaged and I now have diabetes for the rest of my life directly resulting from my last pregnancy due to pre-e and gestational diabetes. There's also complications from childbirth or c-sections which can easily result in death. I get wanting to be fair but it's not ever going to be equal, a man has no role in pregnancy outside of conception and has no risk whatsoever. IDK but I can say after the complications I had with my last pregnancy along with the fact I was so close to rupturing my old c-section scar my Dr freaked out on me there's no way in hell I'd ever consider carrying a baby I didn't fully intend to raise.

<blockquote><b>Quoting 12.21.07¤04.18.13:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brittany Riot:</b>" I'm sorry for what you're going through. ... [snip!] ... I have a wonderful boyfriend who wants to adopt my daughter after we're married. We are expecting our first together in April."</blockquote>




Yayy! He's an awesome man! I wish more men were like that, and congrats mama!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" It might be YOUR body but it's still HIS baby. He has every right and then some to be angry with you ... [snip!] ... killing his child. Thankfully, you weren't pregnant.. but I wouldn't be upset with him for caring about the life of his child."</blockquote>




You don't abort babies, you abort fetuses. A baby and a fetus are NOT the same thing.

ETA: Potential future? I just had a C-section 7 months ago. Even if i did want another baby, there's a chance that my scar tissue would've ruptured, killing me and the "baby". Sorry, but I'm not going to jeopardize the well being of my two living children, and leave them without a mother, because of a fetus. Especially an unwanted one.

Quoting she nan igans:" Not trying to be rude, but being pregnant isn't parenting. It's much different being an actual parent, ... [snip!] ... great during pregnancy, but when it's time to actually be a father they are horrid. One doesn't mean the other will be true."

Exactly!

When my friend got pregnant her bf said he would be there for her and baby and do everything a man is suppose to do as a responsible father , barely a month after the baby arrived he WAS GONE! Didn't want to give up late night partying for diapers and overnight feedings, he didnt want to give up his freedom,going out,sleeping in, and doing what he wants for a demanding baby and YES they are demanding(changing diapers,feedings,baths,doc appts,and just dealing with the fussiness a baby has) It was too much for him.

You DON'T know what kind of a FATHER your dh/so/bf is gonna be UNTIL the baby actually arrives. Being pregnant is the easy part for the man.

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I'm trying to look at it for his situation. Would you have told him about the abortion before hand? ... [snip!] ... as permanent as abortion ,even though I get the last say. YKWIM? Partners talk it out and communicate instead of acting alone."

agreed.

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" He needs to get over it. Seriously getting pissy over a fetus that never existed is not worth ruining ... [snip!] ... trump the "life" of a fetus. And, coupled with a recent C-section, I can see why you wouldn't want to carry the pregnancy. "

agreed...again  

Quoting 12.21.07¤04.18.13:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brittany Riot:</b>" I'm sorry for what you're going through. ... [snip!] ... I have a wonderful boyfriend who wants to adopt my daughter after we're married. We are expecting our first together in April."

You still are a strong, awesome woman.  

Quoting Brittany Riot:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Layla-and-Faith:</b>" It might be YOUR body but it's still HIS ... [snip!] ... the well being of my two living children, and leave them without a mother, because of a fetus. Especially an unwanted one."

LOL.. I had a c-section 8 months ago, too.. Do you know what the chances are of your scar tearing? less than 3 percent.. even less after a year.