Quoting Back to Noob Status:" My thing is...would he have REALLY been there for you and this third child of his/yours? Men are fickle. Their word doesn't mean smurf."
Quoting Brittany Riot [WAL]:" I have no idea. He would have wanted it, and would have wanted to be there, but he's not realizing that ... [snip!] ... women don't care.. blah blah blah. He wanted to tell me what to do with my body, because hes a dumb ass and thought he could."
Quoting she nan igans:" Not really. Lots of men bitch, it doesn't mean he would have done anything about supporting the kid."
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I'm trying to look at it for his situation. Would you have told him about the abortion before hand? ... [snip!] ... as permanent as abortion ,even though I get the last say. YKWIM? Partners talk it out and communicate instead of acting alone."
Quoting FroggysMommy:" This. My ex didnt want me to abort (I didnt want to, its besides the point). He promised to help and ... [snip!] ... around since her 1st birthday. So yeah, just because a dude WANTS a child doesnt mean he will be there or is a good father."
Quoting Brittany Riot [WAL]:" I would have never done it without his knowledge. I told him about it, and that I felt like that was ... [snip!] ... and our family. Not to mention that I had a C-Section 7 months ago, it would be risky to carry another baby this soon anyway."
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" He needs to get over it. Seriously getting pissy over a fetus that never existed is not worth ruining ... [snip!] ... trump the "life" of a fetus. And, coupled with a recent C-section, I can see why you wouldn't want to carry the pregnancy. "
Quoting 3 little monsters:" I guess I understand him feeling helpless in the situation and that can make anyone angry. He's had time ... [snip!] ... to the idea that it's something they own. I'm not sure if I'm really saying what I'm thinking in a way that makes sense, LOL. "
Quoting HisIsolde:" I have a male friend who found out that his girlfriend (ex now) had a miscarriage behind his back when ... [snip!] ... if he is willing to take on full coustody and have your rights taken away, then you should at least consider that option. "
Quoting Cariad (SuperKink):" How does one have a miscarriage behind someones back? I understand not telling someone about a miscarriage but I don't see how that's going behind someones back. I hope you meant abortion"