so.....

I've lost 10 pounds so far by diet and exercise

but I'm still big

I'm 5'6" & 230 pounds

here's a girl I found on the public website that helps me see myself more clearly & we have like the same body


here's the public website that you can go & look up people like you as well.
http://www.mybodygallery.com/index.html
Do you think my size is really bad or can I still look cute this way??

I think it's possible to look cute at almost any size. When I met my husband, I was just starting to find my confidence. I was 5'3" and 223 lbs, down from nearly 300.

Six years later and after two kids, I'd found my way back up to 217 and I feel the lowest of low. I try to remember how confident I felt when I met him, I should feel even BETTER now... but I think it's all in my head at this point.

I don't take the extra time anymore to make myself feel pretty because I don't feel like I'm worth it. I need to work on it.

Quoting tinana +2:" I think it's possible to look cute at almost any size. When I met my husband, I was just starting to ... [snip!] ... I don't take the extra time anymore to make myself feel pretty because I don't feel like I'm worth it. I need to work on it."

THIS is me too. I feel so ugly & fat  

I agree that I think you can look cute at any size. A big part is self confidence.

Quoting she nan igans:" I agree that I think you can look cute at any size. A big part is self confidence."

ya i really need to work on having some.

Quoting M0MMAS ™ ツ:" ya i really need to work on having some."

Losing weight won't change how you feel about yourself. You really need to learn to love yourself first, then worry about losing weight. If you lose weight, but don't first love/respect yourself, then losing weight won't change how you feel about yourself, you know?

Self confidence is key! I think you are beautiful! You can 100% look cute at any size!

This is me a few hours after I had my daughter, and the part I hate MOST about my body is my arms...

Ugh, they are so flabby and gross  

I look at this picture and SWEAR that I will never eat again, but then I get hungry, and eat half the kitchen.

I think I've got an eating problem......

Also, it's not just how you look. That's the important part of loving ones self. When you love yourself, you WANT to treat your body better. You end up wanting to exercise, to move more, to eat better food. It's hard to care for something you hate, you know?

Quoting MissyMom0812:" Self confidence is key! I think you are beautiful! You can 100% look cute at any size! This is me a ... [snip!] ... SWEAR that I will never eat again, but then I get hungry, and eat half the kitchen. I think I've got an eating problem......"

me too. I love food.

Quoting she nan igans:" Losing weight won't change how you feel about yourself. You really need to learn to love yourself first, ... [snip!] ... you lose weight, but don't first love/respect yourself, then losing weight won't change how you feel about yourself, you know?"

ya I kwym.

Quoting M0MMAS ™ ツ:" "

You're beautiful! If you want to change, then you can, but that doesn't mean you can't be happy and accept yourself as you are now.

I'm also mid-losing weight. I've lost about 20lbs so far and I've got a ways to go to reach my goal. You have to think of it as a journey and a lifetime change. 10lbs is amazing! And you can look great and be proud of yourself at every weight, because you're stronger and healthier now then you were 10lbs ago, so I say be proud!

Quoting she nan igans:" You're beautiful! If you want to change, then you can, but that doesn't mean you can't be happy and ... [snip!] ... and be proud of yourself at every weight, because you're stronger and healthier now then you were 10lbs ago, so I say be proud!"

aww thanks.

I look at that pic & I'm like EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW

Quoting M0MMAS ™ ツ:" aww thanks. I look at that pic & I'm like EWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW"

Most of us are very critical of ourselves, and that's something that needs to change. BTW, are you really from Upland?

Quoting she nan igans:" Most of us are very critical of ourselves, and that's something that needs to change. BTW, are you really from Upland?"

ya