My finacee and father of my baby might be going to rehab

So found out the other day that my BD might be going to rehab for 120 days, im due march 8th. There is a big possibilty he might even miss the birth of our first child which isn't fair. I find myself crying to sleep because we have rarely been apart since i was 15. My mom has never wanted us together so im sure she is happy about it. I dont know what to do anymore. Nobody i talk to is truly my best friend and all the people that came and hung out with me everyday stopped when they found out i was pregnant. Honestly i feel alone..

I would think it would be more important for him to get the help he needs, so that he can properly help raise my child...than to miss the birth, and not have the issue resolved.

Would you prefer him go to rehab or be high watching his baby born? I'd rather know that he was trying to better himself. Lots of dads can't be around for the births of their children.

It's sounds like it's much more important for him to go to rehab.

eta: If he goes and gets it over with, he'll be back before you're due. Come on now.

If he needs to go to rehab I would just be happy that hes going. You and the baby will be there when hes better. Let him get the help he needs and dont discourage it.

you would rather he remain addicted then go to rehab and get clean?

Is he being court ordered or is he choosing to go? What drug/ drugs does he do?

Quoting EasyComeEasyGo:" I would think it would be more important for him to get the help he needs, so that he can properly help raise my child...than to miss the birth, and not have the issue resolved."

I agree...

He is being court ordered, he took some a sleeping pill because we have both been under a lot of stress and he tesed positive for something that was in the pill, his probation officer believes he has "problems" because his mother and sister were killed in a car accident but his only problem is her. There is no addiction there what so ever I live with him I should know and his probabtion officer called me a liar.

I'm really sorry  
It makes 100% sense to me that you don't want to be separated from him especially while pregnant, and I understand it will be very hard on both of you if he's not there for the birth.
Just realize that if he is doing hard drugs it's best for everyone if he gets the help now!

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" He is being court ordered, he took some a sleeping pill because we have both been under a lot of stress ... [snip!] ... is her. There is no addiction there what so ever I live with him I should know and his probabtion officer called me a liar."

120 days seems excessive for this one-time incident, IMO. What was he on probation for?

Im sorry you are going through this hun. I feelhe is doing the right thing and it seems like he wants to better himself for you and your child. I hope you have a good support group during your pregnancy. I am here to talk if you need it. I wsnt pregnant but did spend 13 long months away from my husband while he served our country so I know too well how hard it is to be apart.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jamiee Flathers:</b>" He is being court ordered, he took some a sleeping pill because we have both been under a lot of stress ... [snip!] ... is her. There is no addiction there what so ever I live with him I should know and his probabtion officer called me a liar."</blockquote>



That's a really smurffy situation  
He wouldn't get sent to rehab over failing one drug test though I wouldn't think so as long as he passes the next one he should be fine!

Him being on probation doesn't sound like such a great thing either though  
He needs to get his act together if he hasn't already.

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" He is being court ordered, he took some a sleeping pill because we have both been under a lot of stress ... [snip!] ... is her. There is no addiction there what so ever I live with him I should know and his probabtion officer called me a liar."

They wouldn't give 120 days for nothing....obviously something more is going on.

Quoting Becky☮Will:" I'm really sorry   It makes 100% sense to me that you don't want to be separated from him especially ... [snip!] ... if he's not there for the birth. Just realize that if he is doing hard drugs it's best for everyone if he gets the help now!"

Thank you. And yes it will be hard.  , his p.o was all like i want you to work full time but ask for less hours so you can go to pathways(a grief/drug councling place) its like she wants him to go to jail..

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jamiee Flathers:</b>" Thank you. And yes it will be hard.  , his p.o was all like i want you to work full time but ask for ... [snip!] ... full time but ask for less hours so you can go to pathways(a grief/drug councling place) its like she wants him to go to jail.."</blockquote>



Wait so he won't be living there it will just be certain hours certain days?