re: My finacee and father of my baby might be going to rehab

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Next time have him take vitamin melationin to go to sleep. "

good idea i didnt think of that! (: i will have to look around at walmart or something

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" good idea i didnt think of that! (: i will have to look around at walmart or something"

They have them at walmart.   You should have done research.. time to let him be a grown up and deal with his actions.

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" okay well get this im not saying its not his fault he was going to test positive for a pill his step ... [snip!] ... she thinks he is mentally scared from the death of his mother and sister and is trying to make a life for me and our baby."

Actually no, it IS your fault (not yours personally but 'you' as in both of you). Neither of you should be taking prescription medication that isn't prescribed to you, but ESPECIALLY when you are on probation and are constantly drug tested. So its not "nobodies fault" it is your fault. End of story. I would love to see the judges reaction when your excuse is "it wasnt my fault". Unless he was tied down and force fed the pill then yes, yes it was.

My husband is in law enforcement so I will tell you right now, she doesn't "hate" him she is doing her job. Her job is literally to keep control of CRIMINALS who are usually pathological liars, and, well, criminals. How many times do you think there have been people in her office saying "I didnt know" or "I didnt do it" or "it wasn't my fault!" and lying about it? How many family members have done the same?? Almost all, I'm sure. And she doesn't know you, she has no reason to just automatically assume you are telling the truth. She needs to be a 'bitch' or tough, if she isn't she will be manipulated and walked over and possibly even lose her job. You need to see outside of the bubble you are in right now and look at the big picture.

I know you don't see him as a criminal, because you know his heart and all that jazz. You're right, we aren't all perfect.. but not everyones imperfections land them in jail or on probation or in rehab, you know? If he's been comitted of a crime he is a CRIMINAL. And you need to not baby him, and push him to stand up and handle the consequences for the things he has CHOSEN to do, KWIM?

As far as councelling goes... That kind of sounds like a traumatic situation. Even if he isn't ACTING like hes hurt/upset/mentally twisted from what happened doesnt mean that he is just fine!! That is something that hurts EVERYONE no matter what age or walk of life and I think getting help for it is a very good thing.

I hope you guys both do some growing up before the baby is born.

Ive been here. if you ever need anyone to talk to. please feel free to come talk to me. me and my fiance have been together since we were 15. we are now 22 and have a son together. the majority of our relationship he was addicted to heroin and he even died in my arms(by the grace of god he was revived) almost my entire pregnancy he was in prison. and after i had my son (thankfully he was able to be there) he straightened up a little was still drinking and what not so he had to go back to rehab which was tough for me. thankfully now he is straight and narrow and a great dad. i have literally been through hell and back. if you need anything i am here because i know how heart breaking it is sometimes to be in love with an addict and constantly being scared

Okay then i will do one thing grown up and delete this smurf because honestly all i wanted was smurfing support not everyone saying oh he has an addiction oh it was his fault. so there is that i shall remove myself from the equation because i get smurf talked on me enough by my family i dont need people i dont even know being ass holes about something either so let that be said. thank you becky for being one who talked to me for a minute or two. and excuse me everyone for doing what little research i was able to really quick about klonopin and being to stupid to know smurf.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ma Belle:</b>" Actually no, it IS your fault (not yours personally but 'you' as in both of you). Neither of you should ... [snip!] ... That is something that hurts EVERYONE no matter what age or walk of life and I think getting help for it is a very good thing."</blockquote>



This is perfect.

I feel like he's one of those guys that feels like to be 'tough' you can't let your emotions show. OP, I really think counseling would be good. Hell, counseling is good for people who don't even have issues!

Quoting Little Pea's Mommy:" Ive been here. if you ever need anyone to talk to. please feel free to come talk to me. me and my fiance ... [snip!] ... anything i am here because i know how heart breaking it is sometimes to be in love with an addict and constantly being scared "

thank you i am deleting this post in a mintue so if you want to private message or add me feel free(:

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" Okay then i will do one thing grown up and delete this smurf because honestly all i wanted was smurfing ... [snip!] ... excuse me everyone for doing what little research i was able to really quick about klonopin and being to stupid to know smurf."

You have to take off the blinders you have on. He DID make mistakes. He's making bad choices. If you thought you'd come on here and get a bunch of "fuqq da po-leeeece" responses, you're wrong. The stories don't add up and whether he's being dealt a crappy hand or not, he has to face the music. Like Colleen said, I hope you guys do some growing up- you're bringing a baby into this world and you can't make excuses anymore.

Quoting Becky☮Will:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ma Belle:</b>" Actually no, it IS your fault (not yours personally ... [snip!] ... emotions show. OP, I really think counseling would be good. Hell, counseling is good for people who don't even have issues!"

yes he doesn't like to show his emotions a lot and its very rare when he does but i told him when he wants counclong just tell me and we will find someone who is not court ordered to him ad he feels like he can actually talk to. you how like when you get the feeling of talkingt o someone and they go and repeat everything else to someone well he feels really uncomfortable about it private message me and i will tell you why

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" yes he doesn't like to show his emotions a lot and its very rare when he does but i told him when he ... [snip!] ... go and repeat everything else to someone well he feels really uncomfortable about it private message me and i will tell you why"

You can edit your posts but you can't delete the thread.


Just take this as a lesson learned, don't take smurf you know nothing about. Educating yourself (and NOT just in school) is pretty damn important if you're going to be a parent.

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" Okay then i will do one thing grown up and delete this smurf because honestly all i wanted was smurfing ... [snip!] ... excuse me everyone for doing what little research i was able to really quick about klonopin and being to stupid to know smurf."

Noone supports you making excuses for him.

get over it.

Quoting tinana +2:" You have to take off the blinders you have on. He DID make mistakes. He's making bad choices. If you ... [snip!] ... Colleen said, I hope you guys do some growing up- you're bringing a baby into this world and you can't make excuses anymore."

im not saying he hasn't made anymistakes i know he isn't perfect at all and no i didn't think i was going to come on here he get smurf the police. im NOT stupid for all you who think i am

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" im not saying he hasn't made anymistakes i know he isn't perfect at all and no i didn't think i was going to come on here he get smurf the police. im NOT stupid for all you who think i am"

I don't think you're stupid... gullible, perhaps. I think that you're young and you love him- so you're willing to believe pretty much anything.

Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" im not saying he hasn't made anymistakes i know he isn't perfect at all and no i didn't think i was going to come on here he get smurf the police. im NOT stupid for all you who think i am"

Your posts give off a much different impression.