Quoting Jamiee Flathers:" okay well get this im not saying its not his fault he was going to test positive for a pill his step ... [snip!] ... she thinks he is mentally scared from the death of his mother and sister and is trying to make a life for me and our baby."
Actually no, it IS your fault (not yours personally but 'you' as in both of you). Neither of you should be taking prescription medication that isn't prescribed to you, but ESPECIALLY when you are on probation and are constantly drug tested. So its not "nobodies fault" it is your fault. End of story. I would love to see the judges reaction when your excuse is "it wasnt my fault". Unless he was tied down and force fed the pill then yes, yes it was.
My husband is in law enforcement so I will tell you right now, she doesn't "hate" him she is doing her job. Her job is literally to keep control of CRIMINALS who are usually pathological liars, and, well, criminals. How many times do you think there have been people in her office saying "I didnt know" or "I didnt do it" or "it wasn't my fault!" and lying about it? How many family members have done the same?? Almost all, I'm sure. And she doesn't know you, she has no reason to just automatically assume you are telling the truth. She needs to be a 'bitch' or tough, if she isn't she will be manipulated and walked over and possibly even lose her job. You need to see outside of the bubble you are in right now and look at the big picture.
I know you don't see him as a criminal, because you know his heart and all that jazz. You're right, we aren't all perfect.. but not everyones imperfections land them in jail or on probation or in rehab, you know? If he's been comitted of a crime he is a CRIMINAL. And you need to not baby him, and push him to stand up and handle the consequences for the things he has CHOSEN to do, KWIM?
As far as councelling goes... That kind of sounds like a traumatic situation. Even if he isn't ACTING like hes hurt/upset/mentally twisted from what happened doesnt mean that he is just fine!! That is something that hurts EVERYONE no matter what age or walk of life and I think getting help for it is a very good thing.