re: Fighting in a relationship?

Quoting *frisky2times*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:</b>" We've talked about it before when ... [snip!] ... see things in a different way, those books seem cheesy but if you take them seriously and give it a chance they really do help."

I know we both wouldn't read it. I don't have to or a desire to read   And he's just an ass if I ask him to do any form of self help.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:</b>" I know we both wouldn't read it. I don't have to or a desire to read   And he's just an ass if I ask him to do any form of self help. "</blockquote>



Yeah that's how my so used to be a year ago before I left him, i.left him and moved into his brother and his brothers girlfriend house. I moved all my stuff out, I was gone for two Weeks he begged for me to come back everyday. He promised he would change and treat me with respect, he still has bad days but he does genuinely try everyday to be a better man to me.

But if your truly unhappy you should leave, but ive watched so many of my friends do that and the grass is not always greener on the other side and its really hard to be a single mom. But only you truly know what's best for you, and at the end of the day you need to do what's best for you and makes you happy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:</b>" I know we both wouldn't read it. I don't have to or a desire to read   And he's just an ass if I ask him to do any form of self help. "</blockquote>


Please please please do research on the medication your dr's put you on for your depressants and bi polar medication. I was put on that crap at 14 and it turned me into someone I wasn't you don't feel happy, you don't feel sad, you literally turn into a zombie. I went off of them at 17 and then was put on 4 different things for bi polar when I was 19. It made things worse, I couldn't handle when a difficult situation came up. I continued to need something to help my anxiety. I wasn't helping myself by masking my problems by taking medication. So I threw out everything! I've been learning my triggers, teaching myself to work through my outbursts. I quit meds at 21 and I'm 25 now and haven't taken anything for my mental illness. My sister is actually going rehab to get off her medication, she needs the rehab because the dr's don't tell you the kind of withdrawals you go through on those kinds of medication. I was lucky that my body didn't shut down from all the crap the dr's were giving me. I refuse to ever be on meds again and I won't ever let my kids be on it. Counseling, yoga, mediation, and like I said teaching yourself how to cope. Please be careful!

SO and I used to say those things a lot. Then we realised our relationship was never going to work if we both had one foot out the door.

Quoting Mother of Broccoli.:" How terrible is it to say and think of ending a relationship every time you get into a fight/disagreement? Both people say and think this. Should the relationship end?"

SO and I always say we don't want to be with each other anymore when we fight. It may not be "ideal" but it works and we celebrate our 3 year anniversary next month.

I always want to run in my head. I think it was caused from my mother always running away from every problem. I always have to fight it. I would never leave though and I never utter those word because I think it's unhealthy.