That's childish and shows how ill prepared you are to be a parent. lol. If you can't act like an adult, don't bring a child in the world just to be raised by another child. Ya know? lol

If you have to ask strangers online opinion on TTC then no, you need to wait.

As cute as a baby sounds it really isn't the greatest thing, especially when you are not financially stable.

Do you know how hard it is to be pregnant and working as a waitress? It's horrible.
Finish school and get a career, go on vacations as a couple, relax and enjoy time for the two of you together because its hard to do that when you have a kid, save money and get a house, then have as many kids as you can afford.

You have your whole life ahead of you and have plenty of time to have kids.

I would wait, but then again I didnt..i was 19/20 when I got preg and had my daughter. I also had a step son who was only 6mos old during this time too. I didnt work and my hubby did...40 to 60hrs weekly paid 9 bucks an hr. We didnt have fancy things..only things we needed. We had medicad and food stamps (i was on bed rest and my step son is a special needs child). Life was hard but we chose to get preg. We tried for 6mos. I would really truly understand what will happen once you get preg. Consider everything that could happen from someone losing their job..to being put on bed rest or going into labor early. We just knew we wanted a baby...we didnt think about anything. Granted it did end up good, you just never know.

My SO brings in between $700-$1000/week and we still WITH OUT a child don't have a ton of money left over.

I got pregnant & married at 18, my daughter was born Whn I was 19 & now I'm due again at the end of next month, when she will only be 11 months old..barely. IT'S HARD! Not saying I don't love every second of my life but it is very hard. My husband works, CONSTANTLY, but I'm thankful he works for my dad & my daughter sees him a lot only bc of that. If it weren't for the support of my family I wouldn't be Able to be a stay at home mom. We have Medicaid & food stamps. We live pay check to pay check. In the end you will make your own decisions but a baby is something you can't take back. They're forever & they do get older..start school..constantly grow & need more clothes & shoes. It's a HUGE responsibility to have at any age.

Quoting bearcavefactory:" I'ma waitress. I make around $250-350 every 2 weeks. He makes about $100 more. I know it would be tight, ... [snip!] ... I know it would be tight, but most people are... I plan to breast feed and have already started saving up and buying furniture."

No, no, no, no, no. You two need to be making more than double that. I'm sure the cost of living is less there, but that's just not enough. I'm a waitress and make that in 2-3 days and money is still tight. Get your education done first, there will be PLENTY of time for baby making later  

Quoting bearcavefactory:" We don't plan on actually trying for another year. Erik told me that have have to save up $2000+ before ... [snip!] ... others opinions. We only pay $60 every 2 weeks for rent cause we rent from his parents and they don'y make us pay utilities. "

Do you two ever want to buy a house yourself? $60 every 2 weeks is not a long term cost though, I'm sure $600-1000 is a more realistic figure. I would say 10k would be better, if not more to have saved. I've seen all of my siblings struggle financially because of having children young. My Mom, who had 4 kids, told all of her kids to just wait. Travel, get your schooling done, have fun, enjoy your youth. In the meantime, just practice  

I'm the same age as you but mine wasn't planned, though. I agree it's hard at any age and I don't think anyone is ready at first but it would be a whole lot better to be more financially prepared and live on your own and all that good stuff. I won't judge you, you seem more prepared than me and I'm sure you would be able to get by if you do choose to actually get pregnant. But it is hard... I worry all the time if my boyfriend will be able to get a job and support us. We live with his mom and family and it's really not the best place to be having a baby. I don't know how long we can even stay there. We also don't have much family support which is disappointing... My own parents are too selfish to care. That's just my situation though. The other part is the physical effects of being pregnant. I'm 9 weeks and feel terrible alll the time! Every pregnancy is different and I don't have it too too bad, but it's still hard on me and I don't feel like myself anymore. I feel dizzy and have really bad headaches constantly. I have no energy anymore. I feel like I'm going to pass out if I stand up or walk around without resting in between. I sometimes get nauseous, usually when I move too much so I stay in bed all day and it's been that way for weeks now. Whenever I do go out, I'm miserable the whole time. I couldn't imagine having to go to work while being pregnant. The first trimester really sucks! I wonder how I'm going to get through all of this. I have no idea what to expect, especially when the baby comes. I'm happy in a sense, but I wish I could have been more prepared before I got pregnant. That's just my say on it  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lavender ♥:</b>" I'm the same age as you but mine wasn't planned, though. I agree it's hard at any age and I don't think ... [snip!] ... baby comes. I'm happy in a sense, but I wish I could have been more prepared before I got pregnant. That's just my say on it  "</blockquote>
I've had alot of ur symptoms in my second trimester I was badly dehydrated if u weren't drinking enough water before and not enough now that could be an issue it might not solve everything but ur headaches and dizziness will get better   GL

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lavender ♥:</b>" I'm the same age as you but mine wasn't planned, though. I agree it's hard at any age and I don't think ... [snip!] ... baby comes. I'm happy in a sense, but I wish I could have been more prepared before I got pregnant. That's just my say on it  "</blockquote>




It could also be anemia (low iron). I hve that & that's exactly how I feel when I don't take my iron.

'll just say this. I was engaged when I was 18/19 and i had been with him for 2.5 years. He was in the military and made plenty of money. I had a job and was in college and made maybe $200 a week if I was lucky. Combined we probably made MAYBE $15,000 to $20,000 a year. I am NO LONGER with this guy. But we started TTC when He was 18 and I was 19. We were successful at getting pregnant and then I had a m/c at 6 weeks.

I am SO thankful that the pregnancy didnt work out. I'm 23 now and I was beyond stupid for wanting to TTC at such a young age. He was a great guy, things just didnt work out. But I would have missed out on my late teen years and early 20s. You'll never get that age back. Honestly, it is the time of your life when you're this age. Live it up. You'll never get it back. Enjoy college. Get a degree that you can use to make a ton more money. Enjoy your 21st birthday. Travel, make new friends, move into your own place that you OWN not rent. Babies can wait. You'll always have time to have babies. But get your life settled first. Be financially stable. You owe it to your children to give them everything they deserve and more. Start a college fund for your kids now before you even think about having them.

My financials now are: (this is only my half. my now fiance pays the other half)
rent: $420 /month (i live with my fiance so thats my half)
electric bill: $30
food for the month: $250
car payment $135
cell phone: $80
gas for the month: $180
cable/internet bill: $45
TOTAL: $1,140
I make about $400 a week and thats JUST getting by. I have a savings account for when things just happen out of no where. Such as my car needing repairs. My phone bill is higher than expected. My air conditioning bill may be higher than expected. I might drive more than usual and need more gas. We eat or make more food than planned. THIS IS NOT INCLUDING FUN MONEY! (shopping, drinks, dinners, etc.)

you are NOT ready for this yet. just enjoy your life the way it is. Your young. I'm a completely different person from when I was 19 because of different life experiences I've been through in the last 4-5 years that I wouldnt have been able to go through otherwise. Yeah you've been together for 3 years. But you started dating at 15. You might find once you live together long enough, that you cant stand each other.

Trust me. WAIT.

Quoting Peytin:" 'll just say this. I was engaged when I was 18/19 and i had been with him for 2.5 years. He was in the ... [snip!] ... you started dating at 15. You might find once you live together long enough, that you cant stand each other. Trust me. WAIT."

      

I didnt read the other comments, but what I think you should try doing, is taking a pad of paper and pen and go out to walmart(or whatever) and write down everything you will need to buy for your baby right off the start as well as everything you would need in a month (diapers, wipes, buttcream, clothes, laundry soap, shampoo, etc) and see how that would be month to month for you. I dont know what your maternity leave rules are where you live, but when you go back to work, your daycare alone will likely cost $200 or more every week. You could even set up a new forum on here and ask other moms how much they spend on diapers and stuff per month. Also i should mention that although breastfeeding is a great idea, it does not work for everyone no matter how hard you want it to. Formula is damn expensive. Also you will need to factor in your schooling payments and your boyfriends, gas, car, housing, food & someone else mentioned insurance. Its alot. Just something to really think about. You are right in saying that no one is ever 100% READY for a child, but you are only 19. I got married at 21 and had my first child at 22. now expecting my 2nd at 24 yrs old. We have done our schooling, both have excellent jobs, own our second house and we still struggle sometimes. If i was you, i would just hang tight for a couple years. Do some really fun stuff ( you can still save money for when you do decide to TTC) but do some traveling, be in love, and be a kid. I know you are 19 but seriously, I bet hardly any of your friends are at the same stage that you want to be at and that can be really hard too! I'll stop ranting now, just think you should really think and do some research.  

<blockquote><b>Quoting bearcavefactory:</b>" I'ma waitress. I make around $250-350 every 2 weeks. He makes about $100 more. I know it would be tight, ... [snip!] ... I know it would be tight, but most people are... I plan to breast feed and have already started saving up and buying furniture."</blockquote>




Let me just say. Im a waitress i make around $400/ week.. And its not enough to help me support my kids. I get CS but still-im scraping-and even with my DH's income. Its si hard for us. I had my first at 17. And wish i couldve had time to just be a teenager or a young adult. Wait. Go to college. Get a degree. Get a job where you make more than $600/ month. Bc ill tell you. I spent at least $200/ month. Just on diapers. That doesnt include clothes. Food. And other necesities. You may think its alot of money now-but you cant support a family on that. Besides-being a waitress, income isnt guaranteed.

All my friends my age have kids already. Difference is: I waited til I was done with high school. I know all the expenses and I already have alot of the stuff needed for when the baby first arrives. I understand. Finances. FINANCES! I get it. Every time I have extra money I save half of it and go buy baby furniture or clothes or whatever else.