Quoting Δ ☮ ∂:" Hmm. Well what do you think? Do you think it's helping more? I think there can be a happy medium. Generally ... [snip!] ... medium. Generally when I'm being impatient that's when I get more assertive and I know for my LO it has a negative effect. "
I honestly think like you said I need to find a happy medium in all of this. He's doing awesome with walking and can now walk about 1000ft in his walker which he refused to do beforehand. But I think I need to stay away from either extreme. I can't be to assertive but I can't go back to get sooo damn laid back. He needs to realize when I say clean your room it means clean your room, same with take a bath, and it's time to eat etc.
I know I can't let him walk all over me ( like I use to) but I know it's going to do nothing if I'm overly assertive. Idk, I'm just stuck. I feel like smurf when I yell at him, but it brings me to the brink of a mental breakdown listening to an 8 year old cry for 30-45 minutes at a time. Idk, I honestly feel lost.
I try to change directions with him and I always resort back to my babying ways. And it's NOT good for him for me to allow him to act like a baby at the age of 8. I mean he still poops and pees his pants JUST because he doesn't want to stop what he's doing to go to the bathroom( he has NO problems with his intestines or bladder), he does it in school to get out of work* ( he hasn't this year knock on wood but last year his teacher had to call a meeting over it and everything). I refuse to let him use his handicapped as an excuse in his life.. So why do I think it's okay for ME to use it as an excuse for him to continue his ways? Idk.
Sorry for unloading all that on you. Lol.
** He would LITERALLY tell the teacher I don't want to do Math.. She would respond with well you have to it's part of the school day. And he would say," Well I'm going to just poop/pee in my pants so I have to be changed and miss it. And sure enough he would IN FACT poop or pee in his pants to get out of it.