19 and pregnant, not always a terrible mistake, but a miracl

Look at a story of two sweet old people, lets say they met in High School, loved each other deeply and were entirely best friends, everyone knew they would live their lives happily together and never separate. They had a sweet little baby that they both loved and nurtured together and their entire family loved to death. They live their lives together, their children grow old and they live alone once again in their old age. (this is pretty much the Notebook right?) Now look at the story from a different stage in time... Say you graduated with this couple, say it is the summer after graduating High School and you catch wind that they are having a baby... Why does this change your entire feeling about them? You now cast quick judgement about the young woman and you assume the boyfriend will leave her and you wonder if they are even still together... Humanity has no hope I have quickly learned since I discovered my boyfriend and I are having a baby. We are both very excited, we have lots of support, and we know that no matter what our child will have a wonderful life because we will always be there to love and care and give everything he or she needs. My boyfriend and I are in a very strong very loving relationship, we rarely fight and if we do it is healthy and he is without a doubt my best friend and I am his and it has been this way for the last 4 years of our life. However it is hard for me to be optimistic when I see people give my pregnant belly dirty looks or ask me if I am even still with the "baby daddy" as some have referred. Why does society not think twice before they say things? And it isn't like I have the time to explain to each and every person this story that I have concocted for your understanding of the situation, but on the other hand I should not have to explain to every person I meet, my life and the life my boyfriend and I lead should explain itself right? But people still don't get it, people still judge and people are still hateful, and it is, simply put, depressing.

Babies change smurf in relationships. They can make things worse or they can make the relationship stronger.

Best thing you can do is ignore the dirty looks & prove everyone wrong.

Because of statistics and facts. Most don't end well. Just ignore the looks and do the best you can.

this sounds like a similar post but under a different SN.

anywayz OP if your happy just be happy and dont care what anyone says or thinks simple as that. If your asking for advice or opinions be prepared for that as well,everyone will not agree with you or say what you want them to.

Double post....

<blockquote><b>Quoting J+K=Bri :</b>" Because of statistics and facts. Most don't end well. Just ignore the looks and do the best you can."</blockquote>




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Quoting J+K=Bri :" Because of statistics and facts. Most don't end well. Just ignore the looks and do the best you can."

 

Concocted stories are not reality.

Who cares what other people think? Tell them to mind their own business.

Quoting J+K=Bri :" Because of statistics and facts. Most don't end well. Just ignore the looks and do the best you can."

 

I'd spend less time creating fictional stories for my life and more time focusing on school.

I'm sure every single mom, anyone who has a broken relationship, and anyone living on broken promises has said the same thing. I'm glad you have such a strong relationship, but don't be so neive.

I'm 22 and still get dirty looks and questions. When I was pregnant people use to ask me if I even knew who the dad was, or how my parents felt about rasising another baby, or if I was ever going to finish school (I had already done so).

Such is life. Stand up for yourself and tell those people they are inappropriate questions and don't let it get you down. I hope you two have your happily ever after, but don't try to predict the future - you have no idea what 70-80 years from now looks like.

this literally sounds like my life. I just said screw em, and did whats best for me and my child.

Quoting ~~My Pet Wussy~~:" I'd spend less time creating fictional stories for my life and more time focusing on school."

 

You havent been put through the ultimate test yet, just wait.

Also, you are an adult. You probably are going to struggle more than adults who already have a stable life to provide for their children, but that is all on you.

People are really curious when it comes to pregnancy. Most of the questions are because they are worrying about you. You are still young, so that is bound to happen.

I was 22 and people were still asking me about the father of LO.