re: Hes driving me INSANE! Help!

Attack of the better-then-thou BG bitches. Sorry that you have to wade through it all to get advice.
Number 1, just because you arent all rainbows and sunshine and enjoying lifes little miracle 24/7 does not make you a bad Mom. There are some days where I LOVE spending time with my kid (most days).. and some days where I start counting down until bedtime at like 10am. You still love your child but you don't have to LIKE them all the time - just like I'm sure you dont like your DH/SO all the time either lol. You aren't a bad Mom. You're only a human being and taking a smurf in peace every once in a while is required for my sanity so I feel you, lol.

About a month and a half ago (when Ds was 5 months) I felt like the exact same thing was happening.. Im not sure about you because I know you said hes been like this since birth.. my DS wasnt but it just started around that age. I was going banana's.. not only because its hard to just have screaming all day non-stop but because I felt like he was never HAPPY, and obviously as a Mom you want your child to enjoy things in life and not be miserable 24/7. I dont have any real suggestions to you, but one thing that I did find he liked was putting him in a highchair right next to me, facing me while I made dinner and talked to him, ect. If he whined or cried he stayed in it because WE NEEDED TO EAT and I knew he was safe and fine - I just stayed there smiling and talking to him and conforting him without picking him up. Once dinner was done I gladly picked him up and I feel like he kind of learned that it was OK if I put him down because I wasn't going to leave him, and he WOULD get picked back up afterwards.
He kind of just grew out of the stage after 3 weeks so I hope that happens for you too! But if not please for the love of god don't feel bad if he cries for a few minutes while you make a sandwhich or go to the bathroom.. As long as he is safe, fed, changed and otherwise taken care of he will not suffer being without you for a minute. And it doesn't make you a bad Mom.

Ma Belle: Oh my gosh thank you so much! This really does help a lot, I really appreciate you for not judging me when I just really needed advice. Im glad that I am not the only one that is having issues like this, I was starting to think I was the only one cuz apparently almost everyone else here is perfect. And yes I do love him to death and I talk and play with him as much as I can, I was just trying to say that I hate that he cries all day (and everybody decided to point out the obvious and say that all babies cry, no smurf but I dare you to watch my child for a day and tell me its normal). And you took the words right out of my mouth when you said you hate that your child is unhappy, thats the worst part, its like I can never make him happy no matter what and that is what makes me feel like the bad mom. I know it will get better its just tough right now. Thanks so much for showing me that not everyone on this damn sight is a "perfect" snobby bitch. You're awesome  
P.S. Your son is freakin adorable!  

Quoting evilekat:" Ma Belle: Oh my gosh thank you so much! This really does help a lot, I really appreciate you for not ... [snip!] ... me that not everyone on this damn sight is a "perfect" snobby bitch. You're awesome   P.S. Your son is freakin adorable!  "

I'm glad you feel better! Any Mom who claims their kid is an angel 24/7 is a damn liar lol. <3

O.O at the rude chicks up in this post.

You're not a bad mommy by any means. The sling thing is a good idea, plus, don't be afraid to let him cry for a few minutes if you need to get something done. He will learn that way.

Maybe he is just super high maintenance... Watch out for the ADHD thing though, Dr.s are medication happy now-a-days. Make sure you get several opinions!
Good luck  

Quoting Autumnal:" O.O at the rude chicks up in this post. You're not a bad mommy by any means. The sling thing is a good ... [snip!] ... Watch out for the ADHD thing though, Dr.s are medication happy now-a-days. Make sure you get several opinions! Good luck  "

Thank you soo much!  

Sounds like my son wow...he is almost 6 months and very high needs....he has days where he plays great and others that he will NOT let me put him down....invest in a moby wrap its the best money I have ever spent I swear. My son also loves to look at trees so when he wont stop screaming its out for a walk we go. I hear it gets better when they can crawl ...im hoping so I love to cuddle my boy but it is hard to get everything done trust me I understand. Best of luck....just think this too shall pass

Quoting Mary Stickles:" Sounds like my son wow...he is almost 6 months and very high needs....he has days where he plays great ... [snip!] ... to cuddle my boy but it is hard to get everything done trust me I understand. Best of luck....just think this too shall pass"

thank you   some days are great and some are just awful, I think it will pass eventually though ;)

He's a freaking BABY. He wants YOU, and that's what you signed up for when you became a parent. Welcome to motherhood. Take him for walks, play with him, you know, things a mom would do with their child. Sounds like he's bored because you're not that interested in playing with him..."

these are the words of a woman who has no clue about dealing with a high needs baby my daughter is at breaking point, the most loving mother you could imagine wanting to give her son the best possible experience - you are ignorant and unless you have been through it you cannot understand. it is 24/7 a child who wants CONSTANT interaction and fun fun fun...she is emotionally and physically drained after five months of this, there seems no way out as leaving the baby to scream is not something she can endure but no human being can deliver single handedly what this child demands. Oh he's a happy baby, full of smiles and love with not a thing wrong with him but he must have it - the up times - all the time. he sleeps a couple of hours out of 24 it really is unbelievable. she is going to sleep clinic soon she has had next to no sleep for weeks and cries in despair. So suck up your useless rubbish which is unhelpful.

and btw bizzybee did you even read the op properly? and actually think about what that mother was saying she was experiencing before your brainless sanctimonious response? try it and maybe you can come up with something more useful next time !

Quoting megxxx:" and btw bizzybee did you even read the op properly? and actually think about what that mother was saying ... [snip!] ... before your brainless sanctimonious response? try it and maybe you can come up with something more useful next time !"

I did before she edited choice bits out of the OP. Was she so butthurt that she had to call her mom in to help her on an internet forum?   Or are you OP pretending to be the mom? Yeahhhh...

Did you know, in the OP, she stressed that she thought her child had ADHD? THAT is why people said something. Her kid does NOT have ADHD, he's a baby! I had a high needs kiddo too. She constantly wanted attention and to be held. I also lived HOURS away from anyone who could help me. 16 Hours away, to be more accurate. I didn't come on here asking why was she crying and OMG I think she has ADHD! No, she was a newborn. Newborns are needy, clingy, and dying for attention.

As she got older, she wanted more and more to do, so much more than other babies I knew. No one here could tell us why. Well, at her 1 year appointment, we got answers. She's SMART. Incredibly so. Talking sentences at 11 months old kind of smart. Maybe if she hadn't been a snob when she got advice, which I admit wasn't the nicest I've said it before, then she would have gotten more of a response.

You didn't read the post she had up originally. It was not worded like what she has up now. I just have enough respect for posters to not copy and paste their whole Original posts, but I may do that in the future so that people like you can see why OPs get the responses they do. It was basically nothing but complaining and saying her kid did nothing but cry and that she thought he had ADHD.

I think you should ask your daughter why she was on here saying her son probably has ADHD before she removed it from the post, instead at bitching at someone who's been in the same situation she was in, and survived, and has a child who's thriving. I think ALL new people should stop and think for a minute, "Hey, maybe these other women aren't just being bitchy, maybe they HAVE been there and they're telling me what I need to hear but don't want to hear."

Quoting ☾BizzyBee♉:" I did before she edited choice bits out of the OP. Was she so butthurt that she had to call her mom ... [snip!] ... women aren't just being bitchy, maybe they HAVE been there and they're telling me what I need to hear but don't want to hear.""

Oh, and my daughter is almost 15 months old now. We survived, I was a wreck until I bought her some toys, but we survived. You and your daughter make it sound like this is an impossible task, to make it with an overactive newborn, but I swear it's not.

Quoting megxxx:" He's a freaking BABY. He wants YOU, and that's what you signed up for when you became a parent. Welcome ... [snip!] ... clinic soon she has had next to no sleep for weeks and cries in despair. So suck up your useless rubbish which is unhelpful. "

Bahahahahah... Im sorry but at 5 months old the kid does not have ADHD. And yes I know about special needs. I have add, my brother has the same, my ex has bipolar and adhd.. THIS IS NOT ADHD.

Ok yall, this topic was posted weeks ago, time to get over it I think. I would hope that you would have other things to do except argue about old topics on bg...Its called a life..get one and also get the stick (or branch) out of your asses, you are NOT better than everyone else. Thanks to the moms who weren't useless and complete bitches. To the rest of you, I dont appreciate all of the rude ass comments. I asked for advice, not to be put down. So once again, pull the stick out of your ass and get over it. This is the last time I even look at this topic, I have more important things to do. Thanks.

Quoting evilekat:" Ok yall, this topic was posted weeks ago, time to get over it I think. I would hope that you would have ... [snip!] ... out of your ass and get over it. This is the last time I even look at this topic, I have more important things to do. Thanks."

YOUR MOTHER brought it up again, apparently!

Tell her you want the dead threads to be dead if you don't want them brought up again.

@bizzybee

"YOUR MOTHER brought it up again, apparently!Tell her you want the dead threads to be dead if you don't want them brought up again."

I am not her mother....!!! LOL that is your assumption. I just saw your post and know what my** actual daughter** ( we live in Australia) is going through which is the same thing and your post infuriated me. And I'm sorry but a baby who's wired all the time does feel like an unnatural phenomenon and does cause carers to wonder about things like ADD. Your post was rude and insensitive no matter how you cut it.