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I am sorry you are feeling this way. You made the best decision that you felt was right at the time. Try not to beat yourself up and ignore your family's rude comments.  

every single day since it happened 7 years ago.. I don't cry all the time like I used to but it's still a sore spot which is why I don't talk about it. It wasn't MY choice I didn't have a choice maybe that's why. If it would have been MY choice that child would be here with me right now..

You're not heratless mama. You did what you felt was right for the family you have now. Don't let people bring you down.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy&Noah:</b>" Anybody who has gotten a abortion did you regret it?. I had one and recently its been crossing my mind ... [snip!] ... people that know about me not keeping the baby keep asking me how I could be so heartless and its just making me so depressed."</blockquote>




Then don't be around them, it was your decision. If you know deep down it was the best decision then it was, the others are just guliting you because they don't understand. I would stay away from then, you need support right now. Best wishes mama.

Personally, I would cut out everyone who is saying those things. It's stupid to waste time and energy and emotions on people who bring you down instead of supporting and uplifting you. I've never had an abortion, but I do not judge those who do. You did the right thing for YOU.....YOU were the one who would've had to raise it, so tell all those negative people that unless they were going to raise the baby for you and help with your expenses, not to mention go through the pregnancy for you, then they can STFU.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crazy one:</b>" every single day since it happened 7 years ago.. I don't cry all the time like I used to but it's still ... [snip!] ... MY choice I didn't have a choice maybe that's why. If it would have been MY choice that child would be here with me right now.."</blockquote>




How did you not have a choice??? Of course you did, it is your body.

I sometimes do but overall I still think it was for the best. I was way too young and idk if adoption would have been easier like I had though back then. You made the decision you felt was best. Do not let people drag you down now. You have to think about your baby that you have now and your guys future. Just try to move forward and ignore the people who do not support your decision.

I regret mine, I feel horrible about it years later.
BUT I also realize I really wasn't able to handle a baby at the age I was (I was 15)
I'm turning 21 in a week, and I still have mixed feelings about it.
I always feel horrible too when I tell people I've been pregnant twice, then catch myself realizing it's actually been more. IDK...I still don't know how to feel about it.


ETA: My husband and I are the only ones that know, it's hard enough dealing with it without everyone on your ass about it

I just wish people would forget about it so I could forget about it. They make it seem like it was the easiest decision for me to make. I know I shouldn't of put myself in a smurffy situation but I did.

Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Crazy one:</b>" every single day since it happened 7 years ago.. ... [snip!] ... would be here with me right now.."</blockquote> How did you not have a choice??? Of course you did, it is your body."

yeah my body would have ended up on the street. I wasn't going to have a place to live anymore and I already don't have any family/friends being the naive girl I was i did it & i did beg and cry but nobody gave a smurf.

Yes. I regret it every single day of my life.

I however also am aware that I could NOT have handled two babies on my own, because I knew SO was going to leave me at that point. DD wasn't even 2 yet, and I just couldn't see doing it alone since I was already doing it alone with DD and barely making ends meet.

Quoting O ♥ G:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Crazy one:</b>" every single day since it happened 7 years ago.. ... [snip!] ... would be here with me right now.."</blockquote> How did you not have a choice??? Of course you did, it is your body."

& you might say why didn't I seek help?.. I grew up not knowing people could get help I never knew anybody that needed help or even talked about so I had NO CHOICE. If I would have known about help back then I would have went right away! I never knew there was help until I was about 21 so 3 years later and I only found out because I worked at a reource center and everybody there was needing help.

I had an abortion 5 years ago.. For at least a year or more afterward, I deeply regretted my decision. Unlike you though, there were only a few people who knew and most of them had just swept the entire ordeal under the rug. A couple others talked to me about it on RARE occasion, but not negatively.

I am truly sorry that you have people in your life making you feel guilty for what you chose. Abortion is hard enough without all of that.. We are hard enough on ourselves. If it were me, I would probably be distancing myself from those people for a while. It is just making it harder for you to cope.

It's a long road to gaining peace with this kind of decision, if you ever do.. I hope that you are able to get there someday. Just try to find comfort in the fact that you did the best you knew at the time. Try to remember those reasons you had for doing it. No one else can say whether they were enough but you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Crazy one:</b>" & you might say why didn't I seek help?.. I grew up not knowing people could get help I never knew ... [snip!] ... I was about 21 so 3 years later and I only found out because I worked at a reource center and everybody there was needing help."</blockquote>




Gotcha, I understand now. I wasn't judging you. I thought you meant someone tried to force you at first.