Quoting rachvande:" I guess what I should say is the biggest what if that I have is never knowing if the dad would eventually ... [snip!] ... options im contemplating will forever affect the rest of my life and without him, I wouldn't be having to make this decision"
I understand where you're coming from, you're in a really horrible position.
Regarding support...the court would make sure of that. He's legally liable for any child that belongs to him, so you wouldn't have to necessarily worry about that. If he isn't paying child support the FOC will jail him. So I guess either way he would have to make a choice...pay for the baby or spend time in jail. As I have arrested many for FOC warrants, I can assure you they are not a nice group of people to deal with if you're not paying for your offspring.
There are also programs for paying for children (WIC, etc.) to help you support the baby (should you opt to keep it). It's just a really rough thing to try to decide. There are other options if you're not really set on abortion (Adoption, Open Adoption <which would allow you to stay in the child's life>, etc.). Would these be things you'd be interested in?
As far as dealing with him for the rest of your life, I can understand your mother's stance on the issue...because you don't want to keep someone in your life that is dead weight. It's really a catch 22, my heart goes out to you.
Whatever the decision, you have to live with the results. So make sure it is something you can deal with before you go through with it. The common theme amongst Abortion Survivors is the hard time living with the aftermath. If you're emotionally ready for that, then it will make that decision easier for you. Either way, the one thing that one must always do is look at every angle of the situation before making a decision. That way you're certain you did the right thing and you will never regret your choice.