re: Got my first appointment...

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" Yeah, but all the drama could get this thread sent to The Drama Corner, which is just a big pain in MY butt, so we've all agreed to let the troll go do her trolling somewhere else!"

She did. She made her own thread and repeatedly got her ass handed to her lol.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" She did. She made her own thread and repeatedly got her ass handed to her lol."</blockquote>



Hmm, I missed that. Link?

<blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" She did. She made her own thread and repeatedly got her ass handed to her lol."</blockquote> Hmm, I missed that. Link?"</blockquote>

I missed it too. I just looked though. It is under her profile. The topic 'Do you agree?'

Quoting Zach&Evan'sMom (5wks!):" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar ... [snip!] ... that. Link?"</blockquote> I missed it too. I just looked though. It is under her profile. The topic 'Do you agree?'"

Yes.
I'd link it, but it's in TDC.

I read the entire thing. Commented a couple times.

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" I read the entire thing. Commented a couple times."

I really wanted to warn you how smurfed up it was before you did, I'm sorry  

But, everyone was on your side as you saw, no one joined her ignorance.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" I really wanted to warn you how smurfed up it was before you did, I'm sorry   But, everyone was on your side as you saw, no one joined her ignorance."</blockquote>



Only a couple of things she said had not been said in my thread, so there was no more hurt. And I don't care about "sides"---it's not a competition. It's about human decency . And I know she has none of that.

Here is a list that I found on another moms Facebook page. I added a few things but some people SHOULD read this.

It's a list of things to do and not to do when dealing with a grieving parent.
1. If they have another child, do not tell them to be grateful for them. They are, but they would like to have kept them all.
2. Do not tell them they can have more children. Some can't and those that do, are not replacing one human being with another.
3. Do not tell a parent who lost a child before birth, at least you did not get to know them.
4. Do not tell them to get over it. They are never getting over it. How long would it take you to stop missing your child? How long would it take you to forget your child?
5. Do lend an ear and shoulder.
6. Do talk to them about their child. It may bring tears to their eyes, but it will warm their hearts that someone else is thinking about their child.
7. Do call them on their child's birthday or anniversary of their death. No matter how long ago it was, there days are always hard for them.
8. Don't tell them things happen for a reason.
9. Don't say you understand their pain, unless you have gone through the same situation.
10. Avoid giving advice unless you are asked.

Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" Here is a list that I found on another moms Facebook page. I added a few things but some people SHOULD ... [snip!] ... say you understand their pain, unless you have gone through the same situation.10. Avoid giving advice unless you are asked."

Fantastic list.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" Here is a list that I found on another moms Facebook page. I added a few things but some people SHOULD ... [snip!] ... say you understand their pain, unless you have gone through the same situation. 10. Avoid giving advice unless you are asked."</blockquote>


Add :"never say, 'I'm sure you'll be fine this time' and related phrases"

AND

"dont even think of saying 'im sure youre worrying for nothing' or anything remotely similar"

to the list and that pretty well sums it up!

Because I love when people tell me I'm gonna be fine this time.  

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" Here is a list that I found on another moms ... [snip!] ... similar" to the list and that pretty well sums it up! Because I love when people tell me I'm gonna be fine this time.  "

Right.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" Here is a list that I found on another moms ... [snip!] ... similar" to the list and that pretty well sums it up! Because I love when people tell me I'm gonna be fine this time.  "</blockquote>

Exactly. Because it gets easier each time  

Quoting Zach&Evan'sMom (5wks!):" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" ... [snip!] ... when people tell me I'm gonna be fine this time.  "</blockquote> Exactly. Because it gets easier each time  "

And after a bunch of losses Karma will clearly pay you back for all the crap thrown at you by automatically giving you a healthy baby!

And because strangers know your future because they know a few facts about you  

She PM'd me and apologized just now, btw.

Apparently whoever PM'd her a list of things not to say to mourning parents FINALLY got through to her.

I don't know what her motivation is or if its genuine or what, but I just don't want to deal with her anymore. I don't know if I believe anything that comes out of her mouth, so I simply told her not to contact me or I'd contact Mara about harassment.

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" She PM'd me and apologized just now, btw. Apparently whoever PM'd her a list of things not to say to ... [snip!] ... if I believe anything that comes out of her mouth, so I simply told her not to contact me or I'd contact Mara about harassment."

Good plan.
Maybe it's pessimistic of me, but I feel like there was an alternative motive.
I just plain out do not like her.