re: Bible Accountability

darn should have read more before I posted. Forgive me if the relevance of my post isn't there. I will put in my little two cents though. I believe that whatever number of children God wants us to have, we will have. Regardless of what we do. Sounds like a big "duh" moment but let me give an example. After my son's stressful birth and first few months... my husband wanted a vasectomy. Glad he never told me that until he didn't feel that way anymore lol He didn't want any more kids though. I did. I prayed. A lot. I had a lot of trouble coming to terms with it. Well, eventually he caved and said he would be ok with it. Now we're expecting a little girl and he's totally thrilled. He says we're done after her. I don't feel that way. I'm not going to push it though. I feel like 3 MIGHT be our number. I know that my patience and my housewife skills could change but really, I wouldn't be a good mother to a large number of children. I wouldn't be a good wife to my husband anymore. God can change whatever he sees fit to make what He wants happen. He could give me 20 kids if that's what he felt like doing lol I know He won't!   I think maybe part of our "feeling done" might not just be us feeling done. I think maybe God makes us feel done when He truly doesn't want us to have more. That's just speculation. But he can make a man, wanting to sign his baby-making parts away, want another child. I believe He can also make us happy with the kids we have and be done making babies   I honestly will have no problems using condoms when we're done.

Quoting queso +2curdles(21):" darn should have read more before I posted. Forgive me if the relevance of my post isn't there. I will ... [snip!] ... us happy with the kids we have and be done making babies   I honestly will have no problems using condoms when we're done. "

Thanks for the perspective! I was feeling so torn about my IUD before posting this. I can take comfort in the fact that obviously God can do anything he wants, if he can make a virgin pregnant, he can surely override my IUD if he really wants me to have more children, lol. I'm not even going to worry about it anymore. I'm sure if I'm supposed to take it out anytime soon, he will give me a sign.

Quoting Lady GooGoo™:" Her husband had died and Onan was his brother, so he was supposed to help her bear children. But he ... [snip!] ... the special circumstances surrounding it, but idk. It's hard to tell which part angered him. But that's how I interpreted it."

no you're totally right. God was angered by it because the whole point of him emitting on the ground made her incapable of conceiving. Pure disobedience. Unless we feel like God is telling us specifically to have more children, I don't feel as if preventing is disobedience.

Quoting Lady GooGoo™:" Thanks for the perspective! I was feeling so torn about my IUD before posting this. I can take comfort ... [snip!] ... I'm not even going to worry about it anymore. I'm sure if I'm supposed to take it out anytime soon, he will give me a sign."

  Glad you can worry a little less. I hate worrying lol

<blockquote><b>Quoting queso +2curdles(21):</b>" Anybody correct me if I'm wrong but the reason Onan was in trouble for spilling his seed was because ... [snip!] ... to us. In my opinion. That's how I read it. It applied in that certain time for that certain purpose. To that certain man. "</blockquote>


I've learned a lot of things in the bible were meant for specific people at a specific time. Not meant as a rule for the general population.

<blockquote><b>Quoting queso +2curdles(21):</b>" darn should have read more before I posted. Forgive me if the relevance of my post isn't there. I will ... [snip!] ... us happy with the kids we have and be done making babies   I honestly will have no problems using condoms when we're done. "</blockquote>


That makes sense. He puts feelings in my heart all the time that I feel compelled to follow. So if I felt in my heart that I was done that could be him putting it there. I had felt guilty about using clomid after all this crap it caused. But a dr told me inthe hospital when I was breaking down about it "if god didnt want you preg you wouldn't be, clomid or not". So it just made me realize nothing is in control except him.

Ah, birth control. This is a "blah" issue for me because I'm torn. I am on birth control, because it is my husband's desire. I don't think the Bible is 100% clear on this, and I feel it is a heart issue. Because my heart is torn, I feel it is right to be submissive to my husband in this area. By doing that, I'm honoring God.

<blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" Ah, birth control. This is a "blah" issue for me because I'm torn. I am on birth control, because it ... [snip!] ... Because my heart is torn, I feel it is right to be submissive to my husband in this area. By doing that, I'm honoring God. "</blockquote>

That's true. I'm torn in the sense that I don't want any more kids (at least not now). But on the other hand it messes with my body and I don't like that, plus I'm torn about the whole altering gods plan thing. Ugh it's so stressful haha!! But I can see how you made your decision.

I've been listening to Francis Chan sermons on youtube as I'm cooking dinner, and that guy blows me away. Anyone ever read his books? He's a stellar author.

<blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" I've been listening to Francis Chan sermons on youtube as I'm cooking dinner, and that guy blows me away. Anyone ever read his books? He's a stellar author. "</blockquote>




Never heard of him...I'll have to look him up!

Hey ladies. I am back from my break. How are you all doing!?

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting queso +2curdles(21):</b>" Anybody correct me if I'm wrong ... [snip!] ... a lot of things in the bible were meant for specific people at a specific time. Not meant as a rule for the general population."

 


Context is so important! That is why I feel so strongly on reading the Bible for ourselves. And read it completely, as often as you can. I'm very tempted to try the Bible in 90 days. Maybe after I finish this Bible study I'm doing now.

Quoting Mommeee™:" Hey ladies. I am back from my break. How are you all doing!?"

How was your break? I'm doing great. Refocusing on a few things. God's been "cleaning house" in my heart with some things.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" Ah, birth control. This is a "blah" issue for ... [snip!] ... plus I'm torn about the whole altering gods plan thing. Ugh it's so stressful haha!! But I can see how you made your decision."

I understand, trust me. BC doesn't mess with my emotions or body, so I'm lucky there. But it is always in the back of my head. I have to remember that honoring my husband is also honoring to God, and since God knows my heart I have found contentment with that. <3

Quoting The Blissful Six:" <blockquote><b>Quoting grace life:</b>" I've been listening to Francis Chan sermons ... [snip!] ... Anyone ever read his books? He's a stellar author. "</blockquote> Never heard of him...I'll have to look him up!"

Do it! And his Crazy Love book is amazing.