Quoting InkDMomma:" I see no issue with it. I go out to the bars for girl nights and he goes out with his friends after hockey. ... [snip!] ... other. If you cannot trust the other person to be able to do smurf by themselves then you shouldn't be married OR together. IMO."
I don't trust nor do i like DH going out to bars without me. But one of the reasons is the guy he wants to go with/who invites him i HATE and i think is an extremely bad influence on him. He hates me because DH has changed since he got with me, and i didn't make him change either, he changed for some reasons for his family and because he wanted to settle down. This guy is married and taking care of his wife's child but still drinks almost everyday and when he asks DH to hang out and when i used to, it was always to drink. Hardly ever any other reason and i didn't like that at all. He constantly bad mouths me to my husband and tries to get him to leave me. DH finally spoke up though and told him to stop. I think DH is afraid of this guy to hate him since they have been friends for a long time, so that's why he didn't speak up sooner. It hurt that he wouldn't speak up and i let him know.
We have had some problems before (no physical cheating) but we have been working on our relationship and it's going very well. So i don't think i'll have a problem with it in the near future.