re: Marriage and bars

Just because you are married, does not mean you can't go out with friends and have a good time.

Bar does not equal cheating??

I see absolutely nothing wrong with it.

Why would that be a bad thing?

I don't think it's wrong. Hell, I stop at the bar for a drink before I go grocery shopping sometimes (the bar and grocery store are right next to each other). That was before I was pregnant of course. Also, I font think it makes you fair game to others. If someone thinks that way it makes it fair game for you to kick them in the balls.

I don't see anything wrong with it unless there is an underlying reason that the trust is not there. I go out with my bestie occasionally, we have drinks, dance, and bs. She is my only girl friend so my SO knows it is my only girl time. He doesn't care if we go. We usually take a couple extra people when we go clubbing though so we have a group, makes me feel safer.

Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:" I don't think it's wrong. Hell, I stop at the bar for a drink before I go grocery shopping sometimes ... [snip!] ... think it makes you fair game to others. If someone thinks that way it makes it fair game for you to kick them in the balls."

Bahaha..best response right here  

I see no issue with it.
I go out to the bars for girl nights and he goes out with his friends after hockey.
If the other person cannot handle being faithful while drinking, then smurf 'em. That is THEIR smurf up.
Like I said though, we do it all the time and we trust each other.
If you cannot trust the other person to be able to do smurf by themselves then you shouldn't be married OR together. IMO.

Quoting InkDMomma:" I see no issue with it. I go out to the bars for girl nights and he goes out with his friends after hockey. ... [snip!] ... other. If you cannot trust the other person to be able to do smurf by themselves then you shouldn't be married OR together. IMO."

I don't trust nor do i like DH going out to bars without me. But one of the reasons is the guy he wants to go with/who invites him i HATE and i think is an extremely bad influence on him. He hates me because DH has changed since he got with me, and i didn't make him change either, he changed for some reasons for his family and because he wanted to settle down. This guy is married and taking care of his wife's child but still drinks almost everyday and when he asks DH to hang out and when i used to, it was always to drink. Hardly ever any other reason and i didn't like that at all. He constantly bad mouths me to my husband and tries to get him to leave me. DH finally spoke up though and told him to stop. I think DH is afraid of this guy to hate him since they have been friends for a long time, so that's why he didn't speak up sooner. It hurt that he wouldn't speak up and i let him know.

We have had some problems before (no physical cheating) but we have been working on our relationship and it's going very well. So i don't think i'll have a problem with it in the near future.

uh.... NO!

he says he don"t mind me going with my friends but if we go to a bar he wants to go with me... thats y he don'r go to bars without me (the fair game thought).. the 3 bars ive been to 2 have been with him and 1 was with my friends saturday night and the 2 i went with him to i was drunk off my ass....

No....my ex went to the bar every night of the week. I didnt care at all. Its not my thing, but it didnt mean he couldnt go.

Nope. Nothing wrong with it. I enjoy meeting friends at the bar without my husband, and never once has it invited trouble in any way. Its not like im getting ass over tea kettle wasted and then going to an after party. not usually.;)I've been approached by men, sure, but a "no thank you" has always done the trick. I get approached by men when I'm alone at the grocery store, and I'm not going to avoid going because of it.

I do not find it's wrong at all...just because 2 people are married doesn't mean they don't enjoy a good time...I've gone to more bars without my husband than with..I like them better than he does....I've met some very interesting people. I've gone to strip clubs without him...I'm more social than he is and I'd hate to no be able to do something I want to..I am my own person with my own wants and desires

there is nothing wrong with it as long as there is trust. I don't mind DH going to bars/clubs because I trust him and we are both still young so its nice to experience some things.