Quoting mommy2noah&crystel:" it might honestly be the fact that her father was abusive to you.. did she witness it? when i was an ... [snip!] ... hit me.. i was exactly the same way your saying she is for the longest time... your gonna just have to let her grow out of it.."Luckily, most of the abuse did not occur around the children. The last time it happened before I finally had the courage to get out was the only time the children have ever been around. That was what did it for me. I honestly think that has a lot to do with it, I just wish there was some way for me to help her, because that can't be healthy.