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Well until it goes through court, you don't have to agree to it.

Just keep doing what you have been doing and see what the judge thinks

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" Well until it goes through court, you don't have to agree to it. Just keep doing what you have been doing and see what the judge thinks"

this whole situation has made me sick. I've been bending over backwards to make sure they have a good relationship and this is what happens...

I HIGHLY doubt a judge would agree to that seeing as he lives two hours away. They do what's best for the child - upsetting her routine and driving back and forth 4 hours a week is NOT in her best interest and he hasn't exactly been a star parent to endear himself anyway seeing as they had to garnish his wages.

They MAY do something like give him summers or something, but I highly doubt they would allow a 3 year old to go back and forth every week.

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" I HIGHLY doubt a judge would agree to that seeing as he lives two hours away. They do what's best for ... [snip!] ... like give him summers or something, but I highly doubt they would allow a 3 year old to go back and forth every week. "

I hope so! that's the way I see it but he says I'm being selfish and just trying to keep her to myself.

The judge will look into the situation, he won't get custody if he can't look after her, the traveling will favour you as well, I reckon he will get advice and realise its a loosing battle

My husband and I went through a similar situation with his daughter. We had moved out of state and the court had granted his summer visitation with his daughter. her mother on the other hand wanted nothing to do with it and after one summer away from her she tried to take him back to court to get his visitation taken away. In order to avoid that we made the decision to move back to NY. We live in the same town and Bella attends the same school and we share the responsibility of getting her to and from her activities. We have had joint custody of her for 3 years now. she spends two weeks with us and then two weeks with her mother. In your case, due to the distance between you and the fact that she is involved in activities and has a routine i don't think the court would grant his request especially looking at the future when she starts school. If he wants more time with her or thinks he should have joint custody he needs to make the effort to be closer to her so it doesn't inturrupt her routine. If it is that important to him he should consider moving closer.

Quoting ♥ Crabigail's Mom:" I hope so! that's the way I see it but he says I'm being selfish and just trying to keep her to myself."

I mean, if he is serious and he does take it to court, they would likely up his time, but likely not THAT often, there are other ways of doing it besides shipping her off every other week. My son is 3, too, and if his sperm donor ever tried that crap, I would be pissed - I'm sorry he's being that way. It's not easy.

<blockquote><b>Quoting LolaMcKitten:</b>" I mean, if he is serious and he does take it to court, they would likely up his time, but likely not ... [snip!] ... son is 3, too, and if his sperm donor ever tried that crap, I would be pissed - I'm sorry he's being that way. It's not easy. "</blockquote>




Nice to see I'm or the only person that referes to there dad as the sperm donner

I'm in a similar situation  
My BD just sent me papers for visitation, and wants to take the twins (two years old) six hours away to a different state every other weekend.

Quoting Captain Jack (mega kink):" <blockquote><b>Quoting LolaMcKitten:</b>" I mean, if he is serious and he does take ... [snip!] ... way. It's not easy. "</blockquote> Nice to see I'm or the only person that referes to there dad as the sperm donner"

LOL - that's all he is, really. He hasn't seen my son since he was 3 months old and I'm pretty positive he doesn't even know what state we live in. I called him a few times to get medical information and he has yet to call me back or be useful in any way.

Quoting Captain Jack (mega kink):" The judge will look into the situation, he won't get custody if he can't look after her, the traveling will favour you as well, I reckon he will get advice and realise its a loosing battle"

I hope so!

Quoting Captain Jack (mega kink):" <blockquote><b>Quoting LolaMcKitten:</b>" I mean, if he is serious and he does take ... [snip!] ... way. It's not easy. "</blockquote> Nice to see I'm or the only person that referes to there dad as the sperm donner"

LOL - that's all he is, really. He hasn't seen my son since he was 3 months old and I'm pretty positive he doesn't even know what state we live in. I called him a few times to get medical information and he has yet to call me back or be useful in any way.

Quoting SuperOvulator;♥ ;]:" I'm in a similar situation   My BD just sent me papers for visitation, and wants to take the twins (two years old) six hours away to a different state every other weekend."

O_O

I don't see that one happening, either, honestly.

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" O_O I don't see that one happening, either, honestly. "

I hope not.
I have never not once kept the twins from him, I've told him that him AND his family are more than welcome to come down ans visit the twins WHENEVER they want. he says "it's not fair his family only sees them twice a year," which is not my fault that the go to pennsylvania all the time but can't drive to North Carolina.