re: PORNOGRAPHY!!!

Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" How would that work exactly? I mean you can see someone out in public and fantasize about them or someone on tv unless you put blinders on you will interact with the opposite sex."

Look around BG.... "My SO mentioned to his friend that his GF was hot, how dare he look at her! I'm the only female he should be looking at! Wahhhhhhh"

I know exactly what you mean.
Dh & Myself don't watch it.
One because of religious reasons.
Two because we don't feel the need or urge for it.
We find out pleasure in each other and have no needs for Porn.

If a couple wants to watch it then that's all good, That's THEIR relationship, BUT just because WE don't doesn't make our relationship a bad, jealous, or insecure one. It's personal choice and everyone should respect that.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I love porn, SO knows that and doesn't ask me not to watch it. He doesn't like to watch it... oh well. ... [snip!] ... demand that their spouse never watch it or look at other woman.... talking about it and demanding are two different things. "</blockquote>



I have every right as his wife to demand he not watch it..as far as looking at other women, its one thing to find someone attractive or good looking, and a completely different story if he fantasizes Abbott another person. Out vise versa if I did so.

Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Twin's Mommy:</b>" I agree with this. It should be discussed ... [snip!] ... Exactly..along with many other things that many couples these days really don't discuss before they get married."

Well, that's something they'll have to discuss after the fact then. My fiance & I both watch it. We don't watch it because we want to masturbate to it or whatever... We watch it & laugh at the funny parts... We normally have a house full of people when we watch. I am starting a list of things to ask before he & I get married, but that won't be on there. Did you ask about porn pre marriage? What was the answer? And was it one of the "reasons for divorce" that also should be discussed? Or was it just him saying "no, I won't watch it anymore" kind of deals?

Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I love porn, SO knows that and doesn't ... [snip!] ... or good looking, and a completely different story if he fantasizes Abbott another person. Out vise versa if I did so."

I agree on that part. You can look at a woman and thing they are good looking WITHOUT fantasizing about them.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katie. [♥]:</b>" I know exactly what you mean. Dh & Myself don't watch it. One because of religious reasons. Two ... [snip!] ... WE don't doesn't make our relationship a bad, jealous, or insecure one. It's personal choice and everyone should respect that."</blockquote>




Exactly a relationship doesn't need porn in it to make it healthier or more exciting..for some it spices up their sex life and that's great for them for others it can make their sex l life none existent

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Look around BG.... "My SO mentioned to his friend that his GF was hot, how dare he look at her! I'm the only female he should be looking at! Wahhhhhhh" "

My fiance & I always tell each other when we think someone is hot, whether we're out in public or they're on tv.

I would rather my man look at porn than cheat with another woman.

But I see what you are saying.

Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I love porn, SO knows that and doesn't ... [snip!] ... or good looking, and a completely different story if he fantasizes Abbott another person. Out vise versa if I did so."

The thing about demanding, is that I think it causes a parent/child relationship. The wife is checking up on the husband, sneaking around, looking at his history....he's hiding it from her, annoyed by her, ignoring her. Not the marriage I'd want to be stuck in.

I have very strong opinions on pornography in general, and my husband has struggled with this in the past (and it has broken both of our hearts.) But demanding, and acting like his mother is simply not going to work. We have to love our husbands through it - as Christ loves us, and His love is what leads us to repentance (I see you're a christian, which is why I'm bringing it up in this way.) That, in my experience, is the only way to really overcome that entire issue. It can't be some power struggle, everyone loses.

Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I love porn, SO knows that and doesn't ... [snip!] ... or good looking, and a completely different story if he fantasizes Abbott another person. Out vise versa if I did so."

You have every right to demand something because you are his wife??  

<blockquote><b>Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ღ.ღ.ღ:</b>" How can it be harmful? I do agree ... [snip!] ... because you broke trust within your marriage...and for some it can become an addiction which is harmful in many different ways."</blockquote>


Very true, when it comes to addiction I always think back about the movie fireproof.

I'm just glad myself and DH have the same views on it  
Makes it that much easier lol.

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I would rather my man look at porn than cheat with another woman. But I see what you are saying. "

I think thats sad that people have that mentality.

Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I love porn, SO knows that and doesn't ... [snip!] ... or good looking, and a completely different story if he fantasizes Abbott another person. Out vise versa if I did so."

If you demand he not watch... It's only going to make him want to more. If something is taboo, it's more desirable.

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" I would rather my man look at porn than cheat with another woman. But I see what you are saying. "

Meh, If a man has to look at porn not to cheat I wouldn't want him anyways IMO.