Quoting **Blessed Insanity **:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:</b>" I love porn, SO knows that and doesn't ... [snip!] ... or good looking, and a completely different story if he fantasizes Abbott another person. Out vise versa if I did so."
The thing about demanding, is that I think it causes a parent/child relationship. The wife is checking up on the husband, sneaking around, looking at his history....he's hiding it from her, annoyed by her, ignoring her. Not the marriage I'd want to be stuck in.
I have very strong opinions on pornography in general, and my husband has struggled with this in the past (and it has broken both of our hearts.) But demanding, and acting like his mother is simply not going to work. We have to love our husbands through it - as Christ loves us, and His love is what leads us to repentance (I see you're a christian, which is why I'm bringing it up in this way.) That, in my experience, is the only way to really overcome that entire issue. It can't be some power struggle, everyone loses.