changeing a child 's name

Do you ladys think its ok or they should beable to change a child name when they are adopted after being took away from there parents or at all?

If so what age do you think it isappropreitto change the childs name?

I am asking thisbecause my sister in law was just adopted, she in 9 years old and dose not want her name changed andI do not think it isright for them to change her name. She had been going by Jazmine Thomas here hole life and was just recently taken away from her parents and is nothandling it very good and nowthey are trying to change her whole name.

Quoting ♥ Mzs me3 me3:“ Do you ladys think its ok or they should beable to change a child name when they are adopted after being ... [snip!] ... was just recently taken away from her parents and is nothandling it very good and nowthey are trying to change her whole name.”

her WHOLE name? like first and last??? no that is NOT okay.... last... maybe... but i think they should ask the little girl her opinion, she is old enough to decide that.

Quoting ♥ Mzs me3 me3:“ Do you ladys think its ok or they should beable to change a child name when they are adopted after being ... [snip!] ... was just recently taken away from her parents and is nothandling it very good and nowthey are trying to change her whole name.”

I'm just a little confused, but ok... Since she is 9 she really doesn't have a say in what they do, although she can change her name when she is 18... her last name they can change and I don't see anything wrong with that.

My friend did it because she had all of her kids before she married their father. 11 years later she did marry him and had all their last names changed...it's hard on a child to do that.

First name, absolutely not, if she wants her second name, they should hyphenate it.

YesI think her 1st name should stay and they should hyphenate the last name not change it all.

I wouldnt change a childs name that they like and have had for years.

Quoting ♥ Mzs me3 me3:“ Do you ladys think its ok or they should beable to change a child name when they are adopted after being ... [snip!] ... was just recently taken away from her parents and is nothandling it very good and nowthey are trying to change her whole name.”

Wow, I personally don't think they should, she's too old at 9 yrs of age to do that to her. If she was say 1, or 2 or maybe even 3, then you can kind of get away with it, but 9? Her last name, I can understand, since she's being adopted and all into a new family, but not her first name! At that age, she's already begun establishing her identity among her friends & children her age and she's gotten used to her original name since she could remember, so I just think that's wrong/unfair to do that to her.
If, on the other hand, she hated her name, and she was all forthe name change, then of course that'd be a different story. I'm just worried that they're going to add so much more additional confusion in her life, along with all the changes that an adoption already brings into a child's life....Good luck with that...!

Also do you think it's right to not let the family of a child adopt befor letting someone esle?

If she was a young baby, then I don't see an issue, but not at age 9. Talk about identity crisis. Sounds like this girl is on a solid track to joining the emo community.

Quoting ♥ Mzs me3 me3:“ Also do you think it's right to not let the family of a child adopt befor letting someone esle?”

Absolutely.


In the US they ALWAYS look to the family if a child has been removed from the parents care.


They will NOT adopt to the family though if they don't think the child will be safe...which includes keeping the child away from his or her birth parents if that is warranted.