BD surprised DS!!

Yesterday BD told me he was flying out to surprise DS. He went to his Taekwondo class to see him and surprised him. DS was sooo happy to see his daddy after 4 months! He told me, "I am so proud that daddy is here". In his words, that just means that he is really excited. We all went shopping together and he really wanted mommy and daddy to hold him so we could walk like a family. It make me so sad that we really aren't but happy that he at least gets that from time to time.

BD hasn't been the greatest dad and I honestly thought my son didn't even miss him because he doesn't really talk about him. But today his dad wanted to go to the men's section of the store while I stood with DS looking for his clothes and he started to cry. He really misses him...I feel really bad for moving away now. I feel like he will think of me as the bad mom because I took him away from daddy. But I know if I stay there he would realize daddy isn't so amazing.

Aw, that's sweet of your BD. And strong of you! Your son will understand one day why you do the things you do for him. He may not always, but he'll get there and know that you're doing what's best for him in the long run.

Glad he enjoyed himself.

Quoting Keyboard Warrior.:" Aw, that's sweet of your BD. And strong of you! Your son will understand one day why you do the things ... [snip!] ... may not always, but he'll get there and know that you're doing what's best for him in the long run. Glad he enjoyed himself. "

Thanks! I really do hope so...he loves Florida now, I just don't want him to feel like I prevented him from having a closer relationship with his dad.

Quoting Mommy2Kay:" Thanks! I really do hope so...he loves Florida now, I just don't want him to feel like I prevented him from having a closer relationship with his dad."

The thing about that is if his dad wants a relationship, he'll work with you to make it happen. Distance sucks, but if he truly wants a relationship with his son, he'll make it happen. Your son will understand that some day, too.

Quoting Keyboard Warrior.:" The thing about that is if his dad wants a relationship, he'll work with you to make it happen. Distance ... [snip!] ... sucks, but if he truly wants a relationship with his son, he'll make it happen. Your son will understand that some day, too."

That's very true! This is really just how I always blame myself for his dad not being there. I will just keep reminding myself that it would happen if he really wanted to...