WWYD?

This may be long, but I've been pretty hysterical for over an hour. My dog nipped my son a couple times over a couple months so back in February my Uncle & Aunt said they would take him in bc they have the sister to my dog & another dog his size. My Uncle reassured me over many months that it wasn't a permanent situation & I could have my dog back. Manly I gave him to them to take care of bc my youngest was just learning to crawl & pull on things so I thought it was best for him & the dog at the time. They both knew how attached I am to the dog & how hard it was on me that's why my Uncle kept reassuring me I could have my dog back. Well the day after I gave the dog to them to take care of my step-dads mother ended up passing & I ended up out of state for 2 months then home a month & away again for 2 more months to be with family. I wanted him back from the beginning, but was not here to get him. I have visited him when I can & am allowed. I asked for the dog back on Tuesday & they do not want to give him back & my Uncle told me to get another dog bc my Aunt is too attatched to him now. They've had him for 7 months & 2 days. I had him for 3 1/2 years & these last 7 months have been hell on me. My oldest keeps asking when the dog is coming home. What do I do? I never thought they would do this & I am extremely hurt. To me the dog is irreplaceable. It is like trying to replace a human. I love him & want him back. I don't know what to do.

Ugh, thats so rude. Id explain to them how much I want MY dog back & if they can't understand that, then I dunno maybe some legal action? Thats smurffy, sorry hun.

I would just get a new dog... I got rid of my dog the same day she jumped and tried to bite Dean, (we just bought him home from hosp) I gave a hamster to my cousin to watch and even tho I missed him, she was attatched and I would have felt like crap taking him back, I was able to still see him and that helped me.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bam Bam & Peanut's Mama:</b>" This may be long, but I've been pretty hysterical for over an hour. My dog nipped my son a couple times ... [snip!] ... To me the dog is irreplaceable. It is like trying to replace a human. I love him & want him back. I don't know what to do."</blockquote>


Legally he's your dog if you have the purchase papers and registration. If he means that much to you, you could take action against them.

But in all honesty, myself, I'd get a new dog.

I'd sit down and talk to them. Also, I'd pay them for caring for him for 7 months. . . If you actually sit down and try to talk to them you might be able to reach an understanding. It's sad for all sides involved. I mean, they did do you a favor and it sucks to get attached to the animal. However, that doesn't make it right. I'd personally have worked this out already by paying them for their care of your animal for all that time. So at this point I'd just try to talk to them (face to face), and both of them, not just the uncle. If you explain to them how much the dog means to you, they're a lot more likely to hand him over without any further problems if they also care for the dog.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" Ugh, thats so rude. Id explain to them how much I want MY dog back & if they can't understand that, then I dunno maybe some legal action? Thats smurffy, sorry hun."</blockquote>




Yea it is smurffy. I love that dog so much. He was my baby before I had my kids. He's been there for me through everything...both pregnancies with bed rest & all day sickness & other problems. He was here for the 1st 2 1/2 years of my oldest sons life. Why can't they see that whatever attatchment they have to the dog that my son & I have that attatchment & bond x100?

Also, I'd consider getting a new dog. I mean, is the dog happy there? The dog has other dogs his size to play with (it sounds like maybe you have no others?). And if he nipped your son a few times, he may not be the best around young children.

I'd seriously consider whats best for the dog, not just for you. I'm not saying you shouldn't get the dog back, but really try to decide if it's in the best interest of the DOG that you care about. What would give him the best life?

I would leave the dog alone and not get another one.

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" I'd sit down and talk to them. Also, I'd pay them for caring for him for 7 months. . . If you actually ... [snip!] ... the dog means to you, they're a lot more likely to hand him over without any further problems if they also care for the dog."</blockquote>


Yea I have already offered to pay whatever expenses the dog has caused them. We are suppose to sit down face to face this weekend.

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Also, I'd consider getting a new dog. I mean, is the dog happy there? The dog has other dogs his size ... [snip!] ... back, but really try to decide if it's in the best interest of the DOG that you care about. What would give him the best life?"</blockquote>



Everytime I visit him he is extremely excited to see me then barks & whines & tries following me out the door when I leave. It breaks my heart. We also have other big dogs that he grew-up with.

Quoting Bam Bam & Peanut's Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Also, I'd consider getting a new dog. I ... [snip!] ... & whines & tries following me out the door when I leave. It breaks my heart. We also have other big dogs that he grew-up with."

But is he happy where he is? I mean, you have a lot on your plate already, and you have other dogs. I guess I can't understand how, if he is happy and well cared for, and has been there for 7 months, you'd be willing to cause a huge problem with the family to get him back and take him out of the home he's had for the last 7 months.

It seems like a lot of upheaval for a dog.

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" But is he happy where he is? I mean, you have a lot on your plate already, and you have other dogs. ... [snip!] ... family to get him back and take him out of the home he's had for the last 7 months. It seems like a lot of upheaval for a dog."</blockquote>


Bc I am very attatched to the dog & he is to me. He gets very upset when I leave after I visit. I miss him very much.

well I would take the people feelings out of it and think of the dog. it's NOT fair to the DOG to keep getting passed around. leave him where he is as much as it hurts. just go visit. get another dog if it helps to ease the pain a little.

Quoting Bam Bam & Peanut's Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" But is he happy where he is? I mean, you ... [snip!] ... Bc I am very attatched to the dog & he is to me. He gets very upset when I leave after I visit. I miss him very much."

Honestly? You sound selfish. You want what you want. I doubt very much it's about the dog and whats best for him. 7 months is a LONG time for a dog. If he's happy, why not do whats best for him instead of thinking of yourself? What are you going to do if you get him back and he nips at your kids again? Rehome him AGAIN?

My dogs wagged their tails and got excited about visitors too. It didn't mean they were better off living with the other people. It means they're dogs and like other people too. . .

Do what you want, but personally? If the dog is happy and well cared for, try to put the dogs needs first instead of your own wants.

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Honestly? You sound selfish. You want what you want. I doubt very much it's about the dog and whats ... [snip!] ... you want, but personally? If the dog is happy and well cared for, try to put the dogs needs first instead of your own wants."</blockquote>



No I am not being selfish. I am thinking of the dog too. I have actually put my feelings aside & have thought about the dog. It's not just an excited coming to the door greeting. The dog knows who I am & cries & tries to follow me out the door when I leave. I know him & his personality. With visitors he just gets happy & jumps on them & wags his tail. I had him since he was 8 weeks old. No I am not going to rehome the dog again. He will be staying with me & only me. I now know there are obedience trainers that deal with nipping that I did not know about before & the dog will be monitored closely & my sons won't be wandering with food in their hands. 2 of the occasions involved food. The other occasion my son laid on him on the couch. He knows better now that is why it was supposed to be temporary. I don't think they are thinking of the dog at all & they are being selfish & not keeping their word which I never ever expected from them. Everything that came out of my Uncles mouth last night was about my Aunt being attached to the dog. This was a big change considering Tuesday he said he didn't see why I couldn't have him back & that the dog belonged with me & that's the way it should be. The only reason he has changed his mind is bc of my Aunt's wants. I am very hurt by this whole thing & I don't think I'll ever be able to trust or look at them the same again.