17 year old NEW MOM. Can i get some support and answers.

I am due in a month and a half with my First babygirl. I am stoked to be a mommy but then again, I am not sure if i am ready for a baby. I could never do an adoption cause i would so regert it, But i am super scared. My mom keeps telling me to suck it up, Cause she had 5 kids so she knows alot About all this but not very supportive As to me being 17 and having a baby she is trying to be there but I need some one to tell me its going to be okay. I would do anything for my child but i am so scared of actually having her in my arms and i AM SUPER SCARED OF LABOR, Like what are the things that i should and shouldnt do, During labor. My mom did it natural with all 5 of her kids but i think the epidural is something i am gunna want. I have some questions Some one reply. Or another teen mom that has the same mixed feelings. I am ready to be a mom but my nerves and i am scaring myself so badly, that i am just frightened.

I think a lot of people have those feelings, not just teen moms. If you need an epidural, get one. Not everyone can go through labor without pain meds. Having a baby will be hard, but you can do it. A lot of the nerves will go away once you have your baby and get used to taking care of her.

i think she is telling you to "suck it up" because you are already pregnant, and there is no going back at this point. I know that doesn't seem supportive and i'm sorry. I'm not a teen mom, but being a new mother in general can be scary. Good luck and welcome to BG.

Every new mom is scared. I was 19 when I got pregnant and 20 when I had my baby. I was completely terrified the whole time.

As far as labor goes, this is what I tell people: Yes, it's going to hurt. It will probably be the worst thing you've ever felt up until this point. But you're a woman. You are literally built for making babies. There is nothing you can't do, whether with or without an epidural. With labor, it really is best that you just "suck it up". The more you relax and accept it, the better it goes.

I definitely wasn't ready for a baby. But I just take it a day at a time. That's really all you'll have to do. There are a lot of young moms out there, and if you dedicate yourself to making a good life to your baby, it'll come more naturally than you think.

I was 15 when i got pregnant with my son and 16 when i had him. I was 19 when i had my daughter and im 20 now. Everything will fall into place, just relax! During labor just remember to breathe and relax as much as you can. EVERYTHING WILL BE OKAY! Good luck!   If you need anyone to talk to you can message me, i've been through it.

I think we all have those fears. When DD was born they put her on my chest screaming and I was like   WTF am I supposed to do now?!?!?

It gets easier each day. You'll be fine.

it doesnt make you a bad mom to get pain meds well in labor, and as soon as she's in your arms you'll know what to do, and if not you can always come onto BG And ask all these lovely women what there experience with what ever your dealing with was like, because trust me, if your thinking of asking, someone a) Already has and B) will answer you because they've gone through it too  

Some people can handle labor better, some people arent in labor long. It just depends on the person. If you want an epidural then get one, or if you feel you need one. One piece of advice is even though you will be a mom soon, you still need to do things for yourself. I dont mean leave your baby at home and go party, but once in a while have someone watch your baby so you can go out lunch with a friend, or go see a movie, whatever you like doing. Definately dont stay cooped up. Your mom doesnt sound super supportive but hopefully that will change when she meets her grandbaby. Sleep when baby sleeps even if its in the middle of the day, if you are caring for the baby alone you can get very exhausted.

One of the most important things I learned in our Prepared Childbirth classes was the Fear>Tension>Pain cycle.

The more fear you feel, the tenser your body will become, the more pain you will feel. If you have to get an epidural, go for it. It's your decision. In the meantime during contractions and pains, try to do some deep breathing or look up relaxation techniques because it will help, rather than rejecting the contraction or trying to fight against it.

EVERY single mom feels the way you do now, whether she's 15 or 40  
Labor sucks hands down, but it's all worth it once you have your baby in your arms  
As for learning about pregnancy and labor, stick around BG. Go into the pregnancy issues forums, and the labor and birth forums. Read other mamas questions and answers. There's so much to learn! You won't get it all in just one thread lol

Good luck with everything! Feel free to PT me and if you ever have any specific questions feel free to ask  

I'm 18 and I was super scared to be a mum, but trust me, it will come naturally to you, once you have your little one in your arms you will do anything you can for her. And it will be hard at first with sleepless nights and everything but it does get better!! And if you try to establish a routine with your baby in the eary weeks it can be a lot easier.
As for labor. Your body knows what to do. I'm not going to lie, it does hurt, but it's only a day in your life. Focus on your breathing and trying to relax as much as possible.. Have support people there that know what helps you stay calm. And if you need an epi, just get one!

Quoting Jays*Mama:" Some people can handle labor better, some people arent in labor long. It just depends on the person. ... [snip!] ... Sleep when baby sleeps even if its in the middle of the day, if you are caring for the baby alone you can get very exhausted."

This.

I don't go out drinking all the time even though I just turned 21, but sometimes my mom will literally take the baby and tell me to leave for a few hours. This happens every few weeks. I'll go to the store just to look, or I'll go have` coffee with a friend. Sometimes I just take a nap. It's good to have a few hours to yourself a week, and it keeps you from getting overwhelmed. Don't be afraid to ask for help!

It's very, very, normal to be scared, at any age.

I think it would be kinda weird if you weren't scared!

I was 29 when my daughter was born and I was scared smurfless to give birth. And also very scared about being a mommy.

Are there any prenatal/birthing classes you can take? I know time is short for you now but you could take a look and see.

Or just use this website as a resource! Just ask anything and you'll get a ton of replies (don't worry about any rude ones you come across, this is the Internet so you have to expect that sorta thing!)


Just remember, everyone you ever see or have ever known got here the same way: their mothers gave birth to them. And you can do it too! Your body was built to do it. Keeping this in mind really helped me stay calm as labor approached.

you poor thing. just take each day as it comes, and dont worry about labor, just let it happen and deal with that as it comes. if you feel you need the pain relief just accept the epidural. your body will let you know what you need to do. and after that.. your motherly instincts will kick in. youll be just fine

Quoting Blythe.:" I think we all have those fears. When DD was born they put her on my chest screaming and I was like   WTF am I supposed to do now?!?!? It gets easier each day. You'll be fine. "

lol Yep! same here.