re: First Time Miscarriage -- need advice

I wasn't trying to scare her, just telling her what happens... She asked! Geeze.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Peyton's~Mom:</b>" I was talking about it MAY cause infections depending how long it would take it to pass naturally. I ... [snip!] ... was a guarantee that you'll get one. That's why they offer D & C.. To make sure that get everything out w/ out risking it!"</blockquote>



D&C is a surgical procedure meant to be used when a natural miscarriage is not possible. I've had 4 miscarriages where in carried 3-6 weeks past the point where baby passed and had no infections. It is possible to monitor for infection with symptom checks and ultrasounds if you want to avoid a D&CS without risking an infection!

You think introducing foreign objects into the vagina doesn't have an equal risk of infection?

D&C is a great thing for women who have retained tissue after a natural miscarriage, but with missed miscarriage it has the SAME level of risk to wait it out while being monitored as having a surgery---but one has a much higher risk of futer fertility issues than the other.

Please know your facts.




OP---if you're bleeding already, everything will probably be over within 48 hours and your doc will do an ultrasound to verify that you have passed everything (and possibly do HCG betas to be sure).

If you can't handle waiting it out, you can definitely schedule the D&C. Although I've heard the recovery is harder with a D&C, do the pain and bleeding may be similar duration either way.

Quoting Not tellin:" I went natural with all 5 of mine. The D&C is great for saving a woman from infections and what ... [snip!] ... to protect it. If you aren't religious, you can go from the medical standpoint but, I took great solice in my "theory". ~hugs"

Thank you so much for that thought --- I share it, too. I know there wasn't anything I could have done differently and I did everything I should have... so I know it was God's way of saving us heartbreak later on and less pain for our little one as well. We are not as religious as we'd like to be, but we do have enormous faith in God and his plan for us. I know he has something even better planned and that both our dads are keeping our baby safe in their arms  

Quoting Peyton's~Mom:" I wasn't trying to scare her, just telling her what happens... She asked! Geeze."

What happens? Have you ever even experienced a loss?

Quoting Daesey:" Thank you all for your input and condolences. My husband and I have told very few people --- we're still ... [snip!] ... about medicines doctors may prescribe to help that are less invasive than a D&C --- anyone have experience with that?"

I don't know much about the medication, so someone can correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure it is used to help your body start the process.. which is what your body is already doing. But again, don't quote me, I could be wrong.

Quoting Vindictive:" What happens? Have you ever even experienced a loss?"

Let's keep that out of this thread ladies... take it else where.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Daesey:</b>" Thank you all for your input and condolences. My husband and I have told very few people --- we're still ... [snip!] ... about medicines doctors may prescribe to help that are less invasive than a D&C --- anyone have experience with that?"</blockquote>



I work in a hospital as a PCT too. With one i was about 6wks and had to work it was like a heavy period and used lots of pads...but if you can take time off emotionally for yourself and then go back.

I wasn't trying to scare her.. She asked! Geeze.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" Let's keep that out of this thread ladies... take it else where. "

I'm not trying to be a bitch or anything. I'm all for everyone informing OP of the risks and such. But to flat out say it's going to cause a ton of infections. Come on now. No one wants to hear something like that, especially if it's false.

OP, I apologize if I've said anything out of line.

Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Peyton's~Mom:</b>" I was talking about it MAY cause infections ... [snip!] ... the D&C. Although I've heard the recovery is harder with a D&C, do the pain and bleeding may be similar duration either way."

Thank you, that is all very helpful --- I am going to discuss this with my husband tonight before we go in tomorrow. I appreciate the info  

<blockquote><b>Quoting Daesey:</b>" Thank you all for your input and condolences. My husband and I have told very few people --- we're still ... [snip!] ... about medicines doctors may prescribe to help that are less invasive than a D&C --- anyone have experience with that?"</blockquote>




Once spotting started it has taken between 8 and 40 hours for mine. Less time significantly once I was really bleeding.

The pain of a 6 week loss isn't awful. A couple of extra strength Tylenol will knock it out (my doc gave me Percocet for my 9 and 15 week loss and it helped a lot).


Once baby passes, you'll bleed kind of heavily for 12-24 hours and then it'll be like a period.


Just watch for signs of infection (fever, pain, etc) and rest. I definitely wouldn't work (my sis is a CNA, so I'm familiar with the workload) until baby passes at least.

Quoting Vindictive:" I'm not trying to be a bitch or anything. I'm all for everyone informing OP of the risks and such. But ... [snip!] ... now. No one wants to hear something like that, especially if it's false. OP, I apologize if I've said anything out of line."

I said I've heard that it can cause infections, which is.. A fact. I wasn't saying anything negative. What was so wrong about saying that? Grow up.

Quoting Vindictive:" I'm not trying to be a bitch or anything. I'm all for everyone informing OP of the risks and such. But ... [snip!] ... now. No one wants to hear something like that, especially if it's false. OP, I apologize if I've said anything out of line."

No, don't worry... Vindictive or Peyton's Mom --- I know both of you are sincere in your comments and I'm not scared by the comments. I can see all points of view and I did asked for them, Peyton's Mom ---- and I also appreciate your sensitivity to my situation and emotional state, Vindictive.

It's a horrible thing for anyone to go through and emotions run high long after it's over. No harm, no foul for either of you. We all want the same thing -- happy, healthy babies. Thank you for your support  

Quoting Daesey:" No, don't worry... Vindictive or Peyton's Mom --- I know both of you are sincere in your comments and ... [snip!] ... over. No harm, no foul for either of you. We all want the same thing -- happy, healthy babies. Thank you for your support  "

Glad I haven't upset you.

Sending you lots of healing vibes.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Vindictive:</b>" I don't know much about the medication, so someone can correct me if I'm wrong, but I'm pretty sure ... [snip!] ... to help your body start the process.. which is what your body is already doing. But again, don't quote me, I could be wrong."</blockquote>



The meds are cytotec---I was offered this with my 15 week loss. There is some (fairly rare) risk of uterine rupture. It is usually used before the body begins the process (I discovered baby passed at 11w and carried to 15w before I even began bleeding, so my doc recommended it for me). It makes the miscarriage very fast (2 pills take orally 12 hours apart) but also more painful.

OP---if you go this route, ask for methergine in case you begin to hemorrhage (higher risk, but not common) and Percocet or other pain meds!!!