When to call him "DAD"?

This is kinda a post 'n run. But i'll try not to make it one.

My question is, if you had a child before you ended up with whoever you ended up with, what age were they/did they ever, call that person dad? Or maybe a better question is: where were you in your relationship (marriage?) that it started.

Did it make a difference if you had more children with the person who then of course called them dad?

My son is 7 years old and has never had his bio-dad in the picture and has never called any man "dad".
My daughter's father (she's 2) and i are expecting again, and recently my son's shown interest in calling him 'dad'.
I'm cautious, cos, well, obvious reasons- but i also plan to be with this person for the rest of my life.

It clearly is hurting my son's feelings now that Clara calls him dad and he calls him Jason.

I'm really just looking for other's who have been in a similar situation and what you ended up doing!   thanks!

I think if he wants to call him dad and feels comfortable enough with that term, you shouldn't be too nervous. I think it's sweet.  

I've never been in this situation so this is purely my opinion but if it doesn't freak your so/DH out then whenever your kid is ready.

If Carter and Jason feel comfortable with it let him go for it!

Quoting [[Breezy]]:" I think if he wants to call him dad and feels comfortable enough with that term, you shouldn't be too nervous. I think it's sweet.   "

I dont know why i have SUCH a hard time grasping the idea! Like, Jason's always wanted it, and now Carter's wanting it, and i obviously do too-- i mean, ya know. It's just gonna take some getting used to!

I think every situation is unique. I mean, I think after a couple of years and if you were SERIOUS about him (had no intentions of leaving) it would be okay if that is what your son wanted, you know?

if u plan on being with him and he doesnt mind it and loves him as his own i dont see problem. .i dont have my real dad n picture much but i have a step dad and always called him dad never affected me in negative way . .been more postive for me in my life having someone as a dad there kept me outta alot trouble having someone turn to. .but its up2 u completely im not telling u what do or judging u

Quoting KNZ.:" I dont know why i have SUCH a hard time grasping the idea! Like, Jason's always wanted it, and now Carter's ... [snip!] ... wanted it, and now Carter's wanting it, and i obviously do too-- i mean, ya know. It's just gonna take some getting used to!"

Yeah that's totally understandable, especially with everything that's happened in the past like, two months -- just all so fast.

Quoting Carol  :" I've never been in this situation so this is purely my opinion but if it doesn't freak your so/DH out then whenever your kid is ready."

Oh no, he's always wanted it- haha. I've just always been cautious, cos i know how relationships can go, and i'd never want my son to lose a 'dad' if he could just lose a 'jason'. ya know?
but now that we're "100% in this" 'n such, i feel alot more comfortable with the idea.

My daughter call my husband dad because he's the only dad she's ever known. However, he came into her life when she was 5 months. She is now two. I think as long as your SO and your son are both comfortable with it, I'd say go for it.

If your SO feels comfortable with it I see no problem. I mean it may make him feel left out since Clara calls him dad but Carter doesn't.

Quoting P3RvYmCp3rv:" If Carter and Jason feel comfortable with it let him go for it! "

It makes my ears tingle when i think about it haha. It's just such a new 'term' to have come out of Carter's mouth.

Sorry, that's got to be tough. I got with my DH when my LO was 2 (he's 9 now) and he just calls him by his first name, but my oldest son's bio-dad has always been around. We have 2 children together and the third ones on the way.

Quoting Let's Go To The Mall:" If your SO feels comfortable with it I see no problem. I mean it may make him feel left out since Clara calls him dad but Carter doesn't. "

It's exactly that.
And Clara, at 2, already teases carter. She's give him "the look" and goes, "MY dada. MINE." she just knows it gets him upset, not what she's actually saying, but it makes me feel so bad for him!

<blockquote><b>Quoting Let's Go To The Mall:</b>" If your SO feels comfortable with it I see no problem. I mean it may make him feel left out since Clara calls him dad but Carter doesn't. "</blockquote>


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