re: Should i reduce to 2?

Man, a certain someone sure is nosy and judgmental when it comes to something other than her food stamps. Some quotes   "How about you mind your OWN business and don't worry about what someone else" is doing with their own uterus. "You must feel so high and mighty on your white stallion, there. (;"

I'm suprised to not see more people thinking about how the baby's would react after growing up all their life knowing only each other to find out there was one more of them, but they'd never have the chance (or even choice) to meet their other brother/sister because mommy and daddy decided it was best for for the babys to reduce. All they need is l o v e, not undivided attention! If you were blessed with three the world with bless you with the strength, will, and smarts to care for them, if you are willing to man up and accept what you've been blessed with. I feel for you, I really understand where you are coming from... But my mind is boggled as to how quickly people can have a such precious creation being weaved to their own measure, unlike any other creature to ever have been born taken away for their own human purposes. There is a bigger picture. To be blunt I think it is a selfish decision. At the very least give, it up for adoption to mothers who cannot bear their own beauties!

Quoting LynMarie.xo:" I'm suprised to not see more people thinking about how the baby's would react after growing up all their ... [snip!] ... I think it is a selfish decision. At the very least give, it up for adoption to mothers who cannot bear their own beauties!"

bahahaha....

really?

Quoting LynMarie.xo:" I'm suprised to not see more people thinking about how the baby's would react after growing up all their ... [snip!] ... I think it is a selfish decision. At the very least give, it up for adoption to mothers who cannot bear their own beauties!"

Actually, babies require money as well. If all my daughter needed was love, she'd be living in a mansion by now. lol But I agree with you, I dont know how I'd be able to decide which one or what to tell them when they got older that I either aborted one or gave one up. Personally, I think there are just too many variables for anyone to really decide on this matter unless its OP herself.

Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" bahahaha.... really? "

I read that as "beat their own beauties." I need to go to sleep  

Quoting Jas ♥:" I read that as "beat their own beauties." I need to go to sleep  "

lol. Go to sleep woman! lol.

OP good luck. Personally i wouldn't ever judge someone that decided to terminate one of the triplets. I know its in TDC but i thought i would say good luck on whatever you decide, anyways.

That would be a really hard choice to make. I've always been against abortion, and usually say try adoption. Both are hard, but at least the baby would live. In this case, with 3, I don't know what I'd do in the situation.

Raising three babies would be extremely hard. I understand that. But, its a gift. Im honestly not really religious. I dont go to church like I probably should. But I do believe God wont give you anything you cant handle. But he might be giving you the choice to handle having three, or losing one or more. Just because he gave you triplets doesn't mean that's what you're meant to have.

In your case, already having preterm labor with a single pregnancy, I understand the risk would be extremely high with all three. If I were you, I'd talk to your doctor more about risks and pro con stuff. Also with your husband. You and your husband have to choose whats right for you. I am against aborting one in less its absolutely necessary, but in your case it might be. I'd also be scared of losing all of them. If its possible to carry at all, I would consider the option of adoption. BUT, like I said, it is your decision, especially if the health of you and all three babies is in question.

Don't listen to people on here who think they know it all. You are not being ignorant by exploring your options, no matter what people say on here, and nobody has the right to attack you the way some of them have. Just follow your heart, and do what you think you can live with.

Quoting LynMarie.xo:" I'm suprised to not see more people thinking about how the baby's would react after growing up all their ... [snip!] ... I think it is a selfish decision. At the very least give, it up for adoption to mothers who cannot bear their own beauties!"

and there is a possibilty, that if she doesn't reduce, all 3 die. She had her first at 34 weeks, and her doctor told her, the babies stand a better chance if she reduces.

I don't necessarily agree with abortion, I understand that you are in a hard situation as it is though. I may not agree with your choices, but I wish you the best for finding a resolution to the unfortunate situation that you found yourself in. So, yeah. I wish you the best  

Quoting LynMarie.xo:" I'm suprised to not see more people thinking about how the baby's would react after growing up all their ... [snip!] ... I think it is a selfish decision. At the very least give, it up for adoption to mothers who cannot bear their own beauties!"

Babies need a hell of a lot more than love and there are other reasons behind her thinking about terminating one.

Quoting shes.so.vain:" Actually, babies require money as well. If all my daughter needed was love, she'd be living in a mansion ... [snip!] ... one up. Personally, I think there are just too many variables for anyone to really decide on this matter unless its OP herself."

I don't understand why people seem to think she'd have to tell the other two that she aborted one if that is what she decides to do. It's none of their business and she doesn't have to tell them.

Quoting Milk Monster:" I don't understand why people seem to think she'd have to tell the other two that she aborted one if that is what she decides to do. It's none of their business and she doesn't have to tell them."

My mother was pregnant three times before me, all were aborted for reasons I'm not too sure about. I didn't know until we were meeting with a family counselor and it was required for her to give this as essential information, my being present was pretty much the only reason I found out. =/

I honestly don't know if I would have wanted to know, I guess I can see reasons why someone in my shoes may want to. And reasons as to why those abortions were probably best for my mother to keep to herself..

Just giving a possibly relevant input.

I kind of hate myself for reading all of this bullsmurf. So sorry that the smurfs came out in full force on your thread, OP. Best of luck with whatever decision you make.

Op you gotta do what you gotta do.

The only concern I would have by reducing is losing all 3 of them.

Good luck with whatever you decide.