Not doing things on her own

Does anyone else's toddler do this?

She does do things on her own sometimes, but a lot of the time she wants me to do them for her.

For example: I made breakfast this morning. Sat her and her brother down with a bowl. She DOES know how to use a spoon. She's not proficient at it, but she can use it. But, she won't feed herself. She'll get up, come all the way to the other room where I am, grab my hand and lead me to the table and want me to feed her. Sometimes I'll scoop a little on her spoon and say "you eat". Or I'll feed her "hand over hand" so she's still kinda doing it. But if I just say no, she has a mini melt down and keeps pulling me back to her bowl.

Same with other things. Puzzles. She knows how to put the pieces in, and sometimes she does, but other times she'll come pull me over and make me put them in. Like, she'll put the piece in my hand, and then guide my hand to the spot where it goes.

Or with drinks. Again, most of the time she'll do it herself. But sometimes she'll put the cup in my hand and want me to "feed" it to her. Like a you would feed a baby a bottle. And the same mini-melt down if you try and get her to do it herself.

Does anyone else's kid do that? How do you help them understand that they can/should do it on their own without having a fit? Or do you just oblige?

Ayanna does this, but mostly with playing.  

She'll want to play with blocks, so I'll get them out for her, and she'll want me to "build a house" for her. I'm like... yo.... you play with the toys, I'll play with you, but I'm not playing for you! haha

I usually tell her she's got to do it herself and I'll sit next to her and do it with her, so she doesn't get too frustrated about doing it "alone".

My daughter is 2 1/2 and she wants me to feed her. Hold the cup up to her mouth so she can drink too. She can do both those things, and well. So I oblige. She eats better when I'm feeding her. I don't worry about it.

Maximus is great with puzzles, and drinking. but he does not feed himself.

I encourage him BIG time, we make a huge production about what a big boy he is and when I give him somethig easy to spoon up, i leave him at the table while Im in the kitchen and say 'feed yourself, you're a big boy'

Maybe you should just stop doing things for her. I know it will give her breakdowns, but maybe over time, with lots of encouragement she'll get it??