melt down RANT

I'm soo mad and sad and angry.
My two year old saw her dad today. He hasnt seen her since Aug 24th and that time plus the time before that I was there so she had me to make her feel better.
Well today He asked to take her to the fair.
She completely FREAKED OUT when she realized i would be leaving she flipped. Clung on to me for dear life. Was crying. Saying she was afraid of him.
And he had the smurfing nerve to say I was 'babying her'.. Um.. excuse me.. She doesnt even KNOW you. Hes like a stranger.
I flipped. His girlfriend was there and I made it a point, to in front of her, tell her how I felt. She didnt say anything.. Which she shouldnt have, cause that woulda made it worse.
I'm so pissed. If he actually came around consistently she wouldn't be afraid of him. but HE chooses not to and then expects her to be fine with it because she came from his sperm. He has no respect for me or her or our feelings.
And then he had the smurfing nerve to drop her off almost 2 hours early. Knowing I had made plans.. uhh.

I'm sorry to hear that, my DD is the same way when she see BD. I hate dead beat dads