re: go with my heart or no?

Just because he doesn't go to the dr app doesn't mean he doesn't care about hte baby. DH only went to about 2 maybe 3 appointments for each of our kids. Doesn't make him a bad father. Nothing happens at them anyway except listening to the heartbeat. (He did go to the first one for that and the ultrasounds)

im almost 27 weeks and hormonal as hell and i believe your hormones may have to do with the reason you feel he isnt there.but most man dont like doctors in the first place and really there is no reason for them to go and be miserable unless your high risk and theres problems....just curious what infection did you get?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawn Moore:</b>" my names chelsea, im 18 going on 19 in oct. im 27 weeks pregnant with a little boy. my sons dad wants ... [snip!] ... however hes leaving for the navy. so im not sure what to do. i love him but i dont have feelings for my sons dad anymore :/"</blockquote>




Why would you marry someone you dont love or want to be with ? If brings home an std then blames you he's a dick tell him to smurf off if you marry him you are asking for years of heartache and are on your way to a divorce

If you dont love him, dont marry him. thats just setting yourself up for failure..
Hope your perspective is wrong and that he isn't a smurffy dad, that sucks that he doesnt act like he cares.
They say that a mother becomes a mother when shes pregnant, and a father becomes a father when they see they're baby for the first time.
Good luck.

Stupid question IMO.
And, my SO wasn't interested in appointments and he wasn't really intofeeling her move like I was until the very very end.. didn't wanna take me to the hospital when I thought I needed to, etc.
But ever since the moment she was born he's on board 100% and is a great father.

he went to one appointment, and that was to see i was pregnant, never went to ultrasoounds. but yea i understand what your saying, dads dont become fathers til the baby is born.. but it just upsets me and yes it could be my hormones. and he gave me chlamida or however you spell it... my dr found it.. and hes been my dr way before i was pregnant, so he knew i was a virgin and didnt have anything like that.

Quoting Chelsea Dawn Moore:" i mean he acts like he doesnt care. he wont go to drs apps, but my former bf jumps at the chance."

From what i have seen, the guys that jump at being a dad so young are usually the ones who are just caught up in a fantasy part of parenting.
Im 35weeks pregnant and my husband has gone to two ultrasounds and one appt..He rarely asks if things went ok. He usually only asks if he knows i have had some issue. We have two other kids together and he is a hell of a dad. He just trusts that if anything is wrong that i will tell him. If you bd is so good with other kids, maybe he knows that nothing much goes on at appts . Give him a chance. You dont have to be with him but give him his right to be a father. I think you may be a little distracted by this other guy. Try to put things in focus.

Quoting Chelsea Dawn Moore:" he went to one appointment, and that was to see i was pregnant, never went to ultrasoounds. but yea i ... [snip!] ... my dr found it.. and hes been my dr way before i was pregnant, so he knew i was a virgin and didnt have anything like that."

You had the unprotected sex with him and as long as he didnt know he had it, you cant blame him for it.

Quoting Chelsea Dawn Moore:" "

Could have killed the baby how? If you didnt get proper prenatal care? What said he didnt care? He cant take it back. You did lay there with him. You should have had him get an std before you slept with him.