How long does it take a baby to forget?

Ok, so I'm not with my son's father anymore. I live with a woman who used to be my foster mother as a child. Well I have a job and she takes care of my son MOST of the time. I'm 18 and she lets me go out if I want to. She tells me to be a teen. Well today the woman I'm living with went grocery shopping and left my son with me. He cried most of the time she was gone. Then when she got back he stopped crying when she held him.
Well here's where the delema is. My NOW bf wants my son and I to move in with him, 2 hours away. I haven't told her yet. My baby is 8 months old. How long do you think it'd take for him to forget about her?

i think at 8 months it would be devastating to take your lo away from this woman who seems to be taking care of him a lot.

Quoting Elliot Grace's Mommy :" i think at 8 months it would be devastating to take your lo away from this woman who seems to be taking care of him a lot."

 

So your son has become very attached to a woman who has cared for him "most of the time" and you want to take him away from her? I don't know how long it will take him to forget her, but I don't think he should have to. Jmho

The way you wrote this made me think that your not taking care of your son very much.
"The woman I'm living with went grocery shopping and left my son with me" sounds like you babysat your own kid.

Don't move in with this guy your son needs the woman you live with more then you need to live with your boyfriend. It's kind of like taking your son away from his Mother.

How long have you been with this guy that you want to move in with? Maybe you should spend more time with your kid and he should spend less time with this woman so that he's not so attached to her and the move won't be so difficult for him.

Why would he forget about her? Do you not plan on having her in his life anymore. Have you addressed why he is more attached to her than you. Its great that she is there to help you and support you but if you're still going out and acting like a teen whats gonna happen when you have no one to watch him. Are you ready to be on your own. How long have you and the BF been together. Is it best for your child to be moved away. All things you need to ask yourself.

That's pretty selfish. I think you need to move out and start taking care of your child yourself, and wean him off the woman actually caring for him. Otherwise that's pretty traumatizing for both your child and her caretaker.

What about your job and stuff? I would be hesitant to leave esp since your son is very attach to your foster mom.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy 2a Prince & Princes:</b>" The way you wrote this made me think that your not taking care of your son very much. "The woman I'm ... [snip!] ... own kid. Don't move in with this guy your son needs the woman you live with more then you need to live with your boyfriend."</blockquote>



   

Quoting Jennybananna:" Why would he forget about her? Do you not plan on having her in his life anymore. Have you addressed ... [snip!] ... How long have you and the BF been together. Is it best for your child to be moved away. All things you need to ask yourself."

Good questions.

i would make the transition easy...slowly start taking care of him more until one day youve taken care of him all by your self and had no issues. hes not going to forget just like that, it wont be so much of who the person is, its more of things such as smells, touch and the things they do.

There's no set time. How long have you been with this "now boyfriend"?

He's only with her most of the time because I work a lot. And really, I don't go out that much. My son still spends time with his father and when I move, we'll be doing an every 2 weeks thing. And I'm taking him away from her because of the fact that he's gotten attatched to her. I'm his mother, she's not

Quoting Gretle311:" He's only with her most of the time because I work a lot. And really, I don't go out that much. My son ... [snip!] ... weeks thing. And I'm taking him away from her because of the fact that he's gotten attatched to her. I'm his mother, she's not"

That's your fault, so why are you punishing the innocent?