The heart breaking decision.

I've made the heart breaking decision. I'm going to terminate my pregnancy. Even though I want this little baby more than anything in the world, And i may never get another chance, i know I don't want her to suffer either. I feel if I had her I wouldn't be able to give her that life that I've always dreamt of giving my children. First and foremost a loving father, financial stability that is definatly secure, a house of my own and love.. Which I can't offer any of that right now.

I feel like a terrible person, very sad and very upset. But I know this is the right choice.

The baby's father is going to come with me when it's time to go. I'll be having it done on Wednesday and I'm just so emotional at the least to say.. But I know this is what's best for her and for me.

I'm falling apart. I feel numb and almost alone.

Has anyone ever felt similar?

I've never had an abotion but I want you to know you are very strong and smart for what your doing. *hugs*

It is going to be okay. You are doing whats best. <3

Good luck sweety.

I've never had an abortion, so I can't imagine what you're going through right now. I just wanted to say that you seem like a very strong, selfless person, for thinking about your babies future and doing what you think is best for everybody. You're not a bad person at all, you're doing what you think is right.

Sorry I can't offer much advice, but good luck with everything and I hope that you feel better soon. Also, feel free to PM me if you need to talk.

I very nearly did a few months ago. I was living with my mum, had a part time job, my partner was addicted to certain substances and the thought of bringing this baby up in this world and environment made me sick. Didn't help that my family made it very clear they would abandon me if I decided to proceed. But I sat there one night and really thought about it. When my mum found out she was 6 months pregnant she freaked. She and her partner were into drugs and Drinking, had no two coins to rub together thanks to my dad, she had absolutely nothing to offer me. Except life. She broke up with my dad, moved away, got a job and brought me up alone, worked her add off every minute of the day and now at 22 I have travelled all around the world and lived one of the most amazing life's! I seriously believe that when it comes to babies people find the strength and find the money and the support that they need. I Did, got two jobs, my partners all cleaned up and working hard, Got a lovely cottage and As I lay in  bed now feeling my baby girl kick me as i talk to her I know that keeping her will be the best decision that I have ever made. 

I'm not against abortion, I'm not Christian so I dont believe it's wrong but I do believe that babies should be given a chance, your situation may not be ideal but your baby won't need it to be ideal they will need you. Perhaps I am biast because I lost the baby before this one but I truly believe you should give it a shot and if things don't go to well or according to your plan you could always give your baby up to a couple or family who would want her and give her the life you believed you couldn't. I wish you the best of luck.

A few (4) of my best girlfriends have had abortions when they accidentally got pregnant, but honestly none of them felt bad about it. They didn't really see it as a future baby- just what it was, cells. And it wasn't remotely the right timing and they have other dreams and goals than being a mother (or never wanted to be a mother anyway, ever) so the choice was actually quite easy.

Certainly they did not feel as bad as you are feeling. Maybe, if you are this upset about it, abortion is not the right choice for you.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ** blue butterfy **:</b>" A few (4) of my best girlfriends have had abortions when they accidentally got pregnant, but honestly ... [snip!] ... they did not feel as bad as you are feeling. Maybe, if you are this upset about it, abortion is not the right choice for you."</blockquote>


It's just not the right time.

No time is the right time. The people who can afford to have babies don't normally have the time and people who have the time normally can't afford it.

Quoting K_Marie:" No time is the right time. The people who can afford to have babies don't normally have the time and people who have the time normally can't afford it.

 
I know this is clearly a very hard decision for you, but you seem extremely torn. Maybe i'm just an optimist, but you seem like such a strong woman, If you want to, you can make it work for you and your child. But you do what you feel you have to. Just make sure you're 100% sure before you do it, you don't want to end up regretting something like this. Best of luck to you momma!

Quoting K_Marie:" No time is the right time. The people who can afford to have babies don't normally have the time and people who have the time normally can't afford it."

i totally agree w/this...... please look into all your options for resourses in your area b4 commiting to termination (when u are so torn about it). There are so many programs available for woman and unwed fathers to be able to keep their babies and make a better life.........

<blockquote><b>Quoting 5 blessings so far....:</b>" i totally agree w/this...... please look into all your options for resourses in your area b4 commiting ... [snip!] ... are so many programs available for woman and unwed fathers to be able to keep their babies and make a better life........."</blockquote>


I respect and value everyone's opinions and views on the issues of adoptions and abortions.
Personally I think all women have a choice and ultimately adoption is not the right thing for me. I wouldn't be able to carry my child for the next 9 months to only have it placed into the loving arms of the would be mum. When the time is right for me, and I've settled down and have the ability financially and emotionally to raise my baby. I don't feel comfortable bringing in a life that I wont be able to cope with.

As selfish as that sounds, I'm not ready to have a baby, nor am I ready to carry one and by ready I mean ready as in myself  

Sunny day, that language and unsupportive behavior are not tolerated here.

I'm not one for abortion, but I believe that you had a hard decision to make and you made it, and that makes you a very strong woman. Maybe someday when the time is right you'll get to be a mother. But it sounds like you made the right decision for what is best with your life <3 Good luck!  

<blockquote><b>Quoting JenFullerton:</b>" I'm not one for abortion, but I believe that you had a hard decision to make and you made it, and that ... [snip!] ... you'll get to be a mother. But it sounds like you made the right decision for what is best with your life <3 Good luck!  "</blockquote>




Thank you so much for the support  
I made the decision and had the procedure done yesterday.. I can feel in myself that it was the absolute right decision.. I feel as of a weight has been lifted off my shoulders   I feel able to stop tossing and turning at night trying to decide back and forth. I can move forward and hopefully yes in the future another baby will bless me when I'm ready   x