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Im not sure if this is just hormones talking, But im considering giving my baby up for adoption once again im not sure if it hormones iv been thinking about it alot during my pregnacy, one minute i say i can do this the next im thinking how am i gonna do this ...i got so used to being a single parent to 1 child im not sure if i can handle being a single parent to 2 kids. Im so scared and my family lives in other states so its not like i can just call and say hey can u come take the kids for a couple of hours so i can get this done or just take time for myself. With my 1st if i didn't get tme to myself every once in a while i got really depressed and i don't wanna get like that again

Quoting GOT TWINKIES ?:“ Im not sure if this is just hormones talking, But im considering giving my baby up for adoption once ... [snip!] ... With my 1st if i didn't get tme to myself every once in a while i got really depressed and i don't wanna get like that again”

I think that is your body telling you that you are not able to give a child all it needs and that you want more for your baby. Hormones only enhance what we are already feeling. However, you should NOT feel like you are unfit. You are doing a great job with your 1st. You and only you know what you can handle.

Should you decide to give him up (by the way, I commend your bravery and selfless outlook) you can always do open adoption so that you can hear about how well he is doing.

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ I think that is your body telling you that you are not able to give a child all it needs and that ... [snip!] ... I commend your bravery and selfless outlook) you can always do open adoption so that you can hear about how well he is doing.”

i agree. don't stress over it. just give yourself time t think and you'll come up with whats best for you and your kids

oh honey, i kinda know a little of what you're going through... even though my hubby and i married a few months after i found out i was pregnant there were several times i would just really start doubting everything and thought about giving Aidan up. I was young and scared and so unsure of things and wether its your 1st or 5th its always a huge adjustment.

Hormones play mean tricks on women's brains and make us doubt ourselves sometimes... but just remember what a wonderful mother you are to your first and how strong you have been so far. Mommy's are incredible people and can take on the world for their kids!! Just try to take a few deep breathes, take a step out of everything and think about what you know in your heart you really want. God bless you and I know that this baby will be blessed to have you as a mommy.

p.s. if ever you think you are feeling too depressed about things its a great idea to see someone about it... just having someone to sit down and talk things out with once in awhile can do wonders!!

Quoting GOT TWINKIES ?:“ Im not sure if this is just hormones talking, But im considering giving my baby up for adoption once ... [snip!] ... With my 1st if i didn't get tme to myself every once in a while i got really depressed and i don't wanna get like that again”

I dont know exactly how you feel, but Im nervous about having a third. My family lives in town and I still dont have anyone to help! My husband works out of town. He has been in the Virgin Islands since April 24th and willbe there till the end of June.   I think you will know what to do when the time comes. You seem very smart and caring.

Quoting *Aidan's Adoring Mommy!!*:“ oh honey, i kinda know a little of what you're going through... even though my hubby and i married a ... [snip!] ... great idea to see someone about it... just having someone to sit down and talk things out with once in awhile can do wonders!!”

how do you ...i guess you can say get past the feelings of doubt i never had them with my 1st and im pretty sure it was because i was younger and i knew my mom was there for me if i needed her. and im really doing this on my own with no help im just so confused about it

Quoting GOT TWINKIES ?:“ how do you ...i guess you can say get past the feelings of doubt i never had them with my 1st and ... [snip!] ... my mom was there for me if i needed her. and im really doing this on my own with no help im just so confused about it ”

my family all lives in Oklahoma and my closest friend at the time was about 7 hours away so I was definitely feeling alone... I guess I just kind of tried to step back, take a few breaths and not let any thoughts enter my mind for a minute... I'd get real objective and look at the reality of the situation. For me it was:
Yes, I'm young, I have no clue what i'm really doing and still feel much like a child myself. My relationship is VERY new and I'm not even sure at this point if it's going to last... I can't even balance a check book by myselfand any bodily function makes me nautious. I've never even BEEN around babies other than my sister when I was 8 and have no clue where to begin...

but then I looked at the pros:
This baby growing inside of me is going to be my world. It will change my life but almost certainly for the better. It will all be a struggle but will be one that will make me a stronger person and give me a whole new way to live life. Mom's everywhere do it every day and have been for thousands of years. Even mama cats can take care of 6 babies at a time and know instinctually what to do... if a cat can, I can.

And it was an emotional rollercoaster and still is, but, I'm sure you remember that first feeling you got when you held your baby... the times your baby would smile at you and be so happy and content to fall asleep in your arms... thats what this new baby will be too. At the same time you'll be juggling 20 things at once feeling all alone like you cant do it, well, when I feel like that I think of the futuredays when my children are grown and gone away and I'm sitting quietly at home, waiting for them to call... and thats when I'll REALLY feel alone, so I am so thankful for those crazy hectic I cant do this days because I'll miss them one day and want them back so much...

And thoughts like that are what get me through the crazy ups and downs and the doubt and the tears. Knowing that deep down I CAN do it all and I wouldnt have it any other way.

Quoting GOT TWINKIES ?:“ how do you ...i guess you can say get past the feelings of doubt i never had them with my 1st and ... [snip!] ... my mom was there for me if i needed her. and im really doing this on my own with no help im just so confused about it ”

You just will. Your heart and mind will come together and you will have the right decision and know that whatever you chose is the best. It will hit you out of the blue. Try to let it go for now if you can. If not, look into an adoption agency and see how that makes you feel.

Quoting *Aidan's Adoring Mommy!!*:“ my family all lives in Oklahoma and my closest friend at the time was about 7 hours away so I was ... [snip!] ... crazy ups and downs and the doubt and the tears. Knowing that deep down I CAN do it all and I wouldnt have it any other way.”

lThat made me tear up because its so true ugh i feel like such a baby sittin here ready to cry

Quoting no longer empty arms:“ You just will. Your heart and mind will come together and you will have the right decision and know ... [snip!] ... you out of the blue. Try to let it go for now if you can. If not, look into an adoption agency and see how that makes you feel.”

ill try to think about it and if the feeling doesn't go any where ill look into an adoption agency and see how that makes me feel

Quoting GOT TWINKIES ?:“ lThat made me tear up because its so true ugh i feel like such a baby sittin here ready to cry”

oops! I didnt mean to make you cry, thats just really how I feel when I get so stressed out I want to hide ina closet or something!! lol, its like that song "Don't blink" by Kenny Chesney... or in the song "You're gonna miss this" Trace Adkins where it says

Five years later there's a plumber workin' on the water heater
Dog's barkin', phone's ringin'
One kid's cryin', one kid's screamin'
And she keeps apologizin'
He says "They don't bother me.
I've got 2 babies of my own.
One's 36, one's 23.
Huh, it's hard to believe, but...

You're gonna miss this
You're gonna want this back
You're gonna wish these days hadn't gone by so fast
These are some good times
So take a good look around
You may not know it now
But you're gonna miss this"

ok, that just made me cry reading that and made me wanna go wake Aidan up just to hold him, so now we're in the same boat!!! Everytime Aidan's been screaming and screaming and noones home and theres nowhere to go and noone thereto help I just remember those lyrics and it changes my feelings completely and I cry out of joy and how happy I am to be where I am, its funny sometimes but I think babies bring out what you never knew was in you

Quoting *Aidan's Adoring Mommy!!*:“ oops! I didnt mean to make you cry, thats just really how I feel when I get so stressed out I want ... [snip!] ... out of joy and how happy I am to be where I am, its funny sometimes but I think babies bring out what you never knew was in you”

its ok i know you didnt mean to lol im just so emotional and that song is so beautiful ok now im offcially crying

Quoting GOT TWINKIES ?:“ its ok i know you didnt mean to lol im just so emotional and that song is so beautiful ok now im offcially crying”

here, you have a cyber kleenex... lol, I do make myself cry aaalllll the time, lol and its good to know the stuff that makes me cry works on others too and I'm not just a big baby!!

But I do really hope all this might've helped a little in chainging how you were feeling... I know it helps me out a lot to just kind of look at things from a different angle sometimes and it DEFINITELY helps to have someone to talk to...

Quoting *Aidan's Adoring Mommy!!*:“ here, you have a cyber kleenex... lol, I do make myself cry aaalllll the time, lol and its good to ... [snip!] ... out a lot to just kind of look at things from a different angle sometimes and it DEFINITELY helps to have someone to talk to...”

Thank you so much i truly mean that you don't know how much better you made me feel and your right it does help to have someone to talk to. No your not a baby it feels good to cry out of joy instead of just sadness once again thank you so much can i parantank you ?

Quoting GOT TWINKIES ?:“ Thank you so much i truly mean that you don't know how much better you made me feel and your right it ... [snip!] ... No your not a baby it feels good to cry out of joy instead of just sadness once again thank you so much can i parantank you ?”

I'm so glad it all helped!! And yes feel free to parentank away!! lol, I'm glad you said something so now I can parentank you too... I look on there every now and then and dont realize how many people have parentakned me and I never really think to so I feel bad for not adding them too!! lol!! and it would probably help to keep up with some of their topics and things...