I don't know how to deal with my son anymore :(

My son is 9 years old and in the 4th grade. He has only been in school a month and already been suspended twice. He is getting out of control and to where I can't handle him anymore. He has a bad attitude!! I have taken away his video games, tv, and I have tryed talking to him. NOTHING WORKS!!! I feel like a horrible mother. I have sole custody of him and his father gets visitations right now. He gets him every other weekend. The Teacher told me that he needs more of a man role model in his life. I understand that and agree with that. But His dad lives 30 mins away from me so there's no way we could do 50/50 joint custody, because of school. His dad suggested that he take him during the weeks and I get him evey other weekend. I hate doing this. I will miss my son so much! He has always been with me since he was born. Plus, I feel like a bad mom because I won't be there for him like I want. But I just can't handle him anymore, he's heading down the wrong path and I don't want that for him...please tell me i'm doing the right thing? has anyone dealt with this before??


I just needed to vent.  

Do you have him in any sports? That could help him a lot, it could get his mind off of things and give him a chance to be around other boys and a Coach.

Quoting Binky ♡:" Do you have him in any sports? That could help him a lot, it could get his mind off of things and give him a chance to be around other boys and a Coach."

I can't get him into sports! I've tryed...and even tryed Boy scouts....but his dad didn't like him doing that so no.  

Sorry you're struggling with your son. It sounds like you love him dearly and want to do whatever you can to make sure he's on the right path. But, it's definitely hard sometimes to know what's best for our kids! As far as advice goes, along with getting some good male role models into your son's life, maybe it would be worthwhile to look into some counseling for him? If his behavior is really out of control, this can often make a huge difference. Of course, I know this can get expensive, so maybe your son's school would have some suggestions to offer you on counseling options? Local churches also often have counseling available, and might be able to help you find some good activities for your son to get involved in. Lastly, I know from my time working at Focus on the Family that the counselors there can also make outside referrals or offer advice for free (1/855-771-HELP). So, just some suggestions that will hopefully be helpful! I'll be praying for you in the meantime...