Quoting Coupon Lady:" I was take the gas money and visit her. My 10 yr old dd has a deadbeat dad does not come around very ... [snip!] ... can go visit whenever I go sometimes too, but if he is there its a no go, not till he steps up and makes things right...kwim?"
Yes I agree with you. It's like why are all of us (moms and grandparents) giving our best to these LO's but the BDs have not ever had to give their best? It's not right and I just think that is an influence I don't want my son exposed to.