re: Relationships as a single mom.

Quoting Rice+Beans:" Hmmm, no PDAs in front of my child or alienation of my childin any form. For all my child knew, the ... [snip!] ... meet the right guy, she'll meet him in due time. I'm not trying to rush her into anything. It's her and me for the time being."

I actually disagree with this. What if you marry someone.... no kissing, hand holding, hugging or playful wrestling for the rest of your life?

When I decided to let Novali and SO meet, we were already sure we wanted to be serious. We would cuddle on the couch together and watch TV (the three of us) and she caught us kissing more than once. Now we are living together. I couldn't imagine Novali thinking we were still just "friends" and hiding kisses and hugs every day.

Quoting KNZ.:"   i've been primarily a single mom since i was 16, i'm 24 (and not single) now and learned ALOT in ... [snip!] ... 'n your kids-- taking the time to making sure it's someone who deserves you guys is important. Just pay attention to red flags."

This chick, the guy she married, they had known each other THREE weeks. That's it. ANd that is the longest she's actually been in a relationship. Week before last she met some guy, they got engaged within a week she took a week long trip with him, got home and the very next day they split. THEN that night she had made a date with another guy. Day after their date she announced they were together and has been posting "Daddy and kiddo" pics of him with the kids, in just a week   This is how the past 3 years have gone with her and it's mind boggling.

Quoting Moses.:" This chick, the guy she married, they had known each other THREE weeks. That's it. ANd that is the longest ... [snip!] ... kiddo" pics of him with the kids, in just a week   This is how the past 3 years have gone with her and it's mind boggling. "

Gosh...some people don't have a lot of sense. There's someone i know who will KNOW she's not going to be serious with someone, but still let them be responsible for stuff with her kids, and then gets pissed when they dump her, and starts it all over again, etc etc...and it's just like, WHY.

My main one is that I won't introduce him into my son's life unless I know it's going to be something serious that has a chance of lasting. It wasn't a big deal when he was a baby, but now that he's growing up a little bit it worries me. I don't want him to be upset that some guy doesn't come around anymore if things don't work out between us.

My other rule is to make sure they guy knows that my son comes first. I've had guys get all jealous and upset because I'm "preoccupied" with my son and don't pay enough attention to them. In that situation it usually takes care of itself though because it makes them seem childish and makes me not want to date them anymore.

Quoting Moses.:" In that situation, I wouldn't introduce him to your son on a relationship level, if that makes sense, ... [snip!] ... sure it will work out. He's already met him and knows him. He doesn't need to know he's mommy's boyfriend just yet though, IMO."

That's what I was thinking, I think it might be better to keep my son thinking he is just a friend. Cause with him being so young he could be confused easily.

Quoting Rumpelstiltskin:" I actually disagree with this. What if you marry someone.... no kissing, hand holding, hugging or playful ... [snip!] ... we are living together. I couldn't imagine Novali thinking we were still just "friends" and hiding kisses and hugs every day. "

Though we sort of rushed into dating, we've known eachother for such a long time. He has met my son when we were friends, I just don't know if it is too soon to introduce him as my boyfriendd come October. What is your personal opinion on my situation.

Quoting amc ❤:" Though we sort of rushed into dating, we've known eachother for such a long time. He has met my son ... [snip!] ... don't know if it is too soon to introduce him as my boyfriendd come October. What is your personal opinion on my situation."

I don't think you ever have to use the word "boyfriend". But, you can definitely kiss and be "more-than-friendly" in front of your kid. If the two of you end up breaking up, just explain that your friendship isn't the same.

Kids can handle it, believe me.

My baby boy is just about 9 months and I've been with my 'boyfriend' for 4 months now, first person I have dated since I have had my son. As my son was very young when I started seeing him, it was not an issue introducing him to my son. They way I see it, don't introduce them unless you see potential in a relationship, speak to them about how they feel about you having a child and if they could handle it, if they try to ignore giving you a actual answer and just reply with 'no it doesn't bother me' then they obviously are not serious, or mature enough. If you feel that this boy would be dedicated to you and yourself don't hold back on hugging kissing in front of your child. They don't see it as something bad, you give your child hugs and kisses yes? They just see it as you caring about this person. Follow your heart