re: Home birth kit.....

Quoting PhukinA!:" With number 3 EMTs cut the cord as soon as they got there (they weren't needed but I let my husband ... [snip!] ... say IF baby did need a little assistance with breathing,as long as the cord is pumping the baby is receiving oxygen rich blood."

That's what we are going to do too. What I have read is that it can take 1/2 to 1 hour for it to stop sometimes and turn white. Which is a good time to cut because it isn't messy. My only other concern is how long do you keep the clamp on? But yep lucky me a 4th son, so we plan on having his circ done later at his doctor visit.

Quoting * MRS KING *:" I am praying for you.. Id like to know about your home birth, when it happens. It sounds very scary, ... [snip!] ... I wouldnt ever be able to do it, but i admire you for your strength. I will be praying everything goes safely for you and LO. "

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very empowering..it will give you new inight on unassisted births

Quoting Ashley Mike Boren:" That's what we are going to do too. What I have read is that it can take 1/2 to 1 hour for it to stop ... [snip!] ... is how long do you keep the clamp on? But yep lucky me a 4th son, so we plan on having his circ done later at his doctor visit."

I don't agree with circ at all so I won't address that part.
If you wait until the cord stops pulsing you actually don't need to tie it or clamp it you only need to clamp if it is still pulsing to restrict blood flow, but if you do most people keep the clamp on 24 hours.I know in the hospital they will sometimes remove them before discharge which can be anywhere from 1-3 days after birth.How long you actually keep it on really is more of a judgement call then anything else.
I have some clamps but really only ordered them to appease my medically mainstreamed husband.

Quoting PhukinA!:" I don't agree with circ at all so I won't address that part. If you wait until the cord stops pulsing ... [snip!] ... call then anything else. I have some clamps but really only ordered them to appease my medically mainstreamed husband."

I feel for you on the husband front. Mine is that way too. But I understand his feelings and have been educating him on everything and letting him decide what he likes with me. Which he is all about letting the cord stop pulsing. I just got done reading another article by a physician saying that they did a study and found that cords for SURE should be left for 3-6 minutes. If you have the ability to go longer you should. But cord cutting so quickly isn't good, and it is JUST for hospital convenience. SADLY...... So my husband is all about leaving it.

Quoting Ashley Mike Boren:" I feel for you on the husband front. Mine is that way too. But I understand his feelings and have been ... [snip!] ... cutting so quickly isn't good, and it is JUST for hospital convenience. SADLY...... So my husband is all about leaving it. "

Normally in hospitals the cord is cut within about 30 seconds of birth,so any amount of time longer then that will benefit the baby.It also makes me wonder how many newborns who had issues right after birth would have benefited from having their cords intact.
I honestly don't get my husband sometimes.I brought up the conversation about delayed cord cutting and he was 100% against it, for no reason what so ever.I eventually got him to watch a video and he agreed to wait a little while.I am however waiting until the cord is not pulsing.He also thinks if we don't clamp it that the baby will get an infection lol he is so misinformed.But my husband is the type if you try to inform him with facts you are just being "rebellious".Needless to say there are alot of things we don't agree on.He doesn't get anything that may be outside of the norm.

Quoting PhukinA!:" Normally in hospitals the cord is cut within about 30 seconds of birth,so any amount of time longer ... [snip!] ... to say there are alot of things we don't agree on.He doesn't get anything that may be outside of the norm. "

I agree, but I was pointing out articles to my husband showing him how home deliveries are on the rise. Not saying unassisted are, but more and more are researching it. Another article I was just reading said that one day women man prefer home births because of the comfort and the safety. Hospitals should only be used for problems, and once people see that doctors are charging you an absurd amount to poke at you and do what's best for the hospital it may change people's minds. Either way I believe it is someone's choice and whatever they are comfortable with. I know our family and I am sure a lot of friends don't agree with this, but that is fine they aren't going to be here. For me this is what I want to do and feel most comfortable doing. Plus my husband knows all the horror stories that I have seen, and witnessed from working at the hospital.

Quoting Ashley Mike Boren:" I agree, but I was pointing out articles to my husband showing him how home deliveries are on the rise. ... [snip!] ... comfortable doing. Plus my husband knows all the horror stories that I have seen, and witnessed from working at the hospital. "

I definitely agree.Homebirth is a safe option for women with uncomplicated pregnancies.It would be wonderful if insurance companies would start paying for midwives, so that more women would feel they had more options.
I'm all for a woman birthing how she wants (even if I don't agree with the method) the option to have a midwife paid for through insurance should be available.
I'm actually apart of a UC group on FB there are far more women who UC then people actually know about.

Quoting PhukinA!:" I definitely agree.Homebirth is a safe option for women with uncomplicated pregnancies.It would be wonderful ... [snip!] ... should be available. I'm actually apart of a UC group on FB there are far more women who UC then people actually know about."

That's neat. Yeah with my second that midwife actually DID do homebirths. But we had to do it in the birthcenter. Tricare wouldn't cover her at our house, and the gate guards were being jerks when I tried to talk them into it and getting her a open ended pass to come in for that SPECIFIC reason. But 2 months before I had my son my neighbor and dear friend had a unassisted home birth in her house, it was hush hush so the military wouldn't find out. I was shocked and I tried to get my husband on board but my ex was not going for it at ALL. But my new husband is loving the idea. He has said he has always loved how passionate I am about my children and doing whats best for them, and how on top of everything I am about any little detail. So he trusts my judgements and wants to try. Considering I am not tricare anymore and my new husband isn't military, I am blessed to have more options but sadly no midwife. But I am feeling more and more empowered by the Birth Without Fear website I have been looking on now, and the unassistedhomebirth.com website.  

i need to find some good simple sights for my hubby to read....
i want to have a home birth... but my husband is sooo well what if something happens.. and thinks we need a hospital..were 10 mins away if i do need one lol!

he just soo medically mainstream he has know idea.. even when i try to explain things

your lucky yoour husband is open minded.. he says its my choice i just wish he would be more on board and educated

Quoting Ashley Mike Boren:" That's neat. Yeah with my second that midwife actually DID do homebirths. But we had to do it in the ... [snip!] ... and more empowered by the Birth Without Fear website I have been looking on now, and the unassistedhomebirth.com website.   "

Have you checked out unassisted birth videos on youtube?
They are pretty much the only birth videos I can watch, hospital birth videos seriously freak me out lol

Quoting Abigails_Mommy_222:" i need to find some good simple sights for my hubby to read.... i want to have a home birth... but my ... [snip!] ... things your lucky yoour husband is open minded.. he says its my choice i just wish he would be more on board and educated "

Do you want to go with a midwife or unassisted?

Quoting Abigails_Mommy_222:" i need to find some good simple sights for my hubby to read.... i want to have a home birth... but my ... [snip!] ... things your lucky yoour husband is open minded.. he says its my choice i just wish he would be more on board and educated "

Talk and talk about it, that's what I did. Then I showed him the two sites. I told him how nice it would be and rewarding to try homebirth. Which I told him to have his cell phone right there and our emergency response is quick here, and council bluffs isn't horribly far away they can get me in, in no time! But I also told him there is SO many home births, and not ALWAYS are they planned. So to me I got him on board with just agreeing to be prepared then when I showed him his duties and what we needed he got more interested and decided that it was best to stay home after all. We have a class with a local OB charge nurse in a week and we will talk to her about our emergency plan and get more info for him. Plus we do see a regular midwife as normal and have ultrasounds done at every appointment to make sure everything is on track. I think men get overwhelmed with it, and think there is way more to it then what there actually is. Plus they have that guilt that everything is on them, if somehting goes wrong it is on them. With that just the ease I put in my husband calmed him over time!  

Quoting PhukinA!:" Have you checked out unassisted birth videos on youtube? They are pretty much the only birth videos I can watch, hospital birth videos seriously freak me out lol"

I have watched the videos! I loved them so much different than a hospital. My husband watched like 20 of them and he was freaked out more by the hospital ones. He thought we fit the home births. You said your in the UC group right? I am looking it up.

Quoting Ashley Mike Boren:" I have watched the videos! I loved them so much different than a hospital. My husband watched like 20 ... [snip!] ... out more by the hospital ones. He thought we fit the home births. You said your in the UC group right? I am looking it up."

It is called "unassisted childbirth and parenting" it is on FB.

Does everyone seriously have to say " Your not having a Midwife" You at least should have a midwife!" keep you opinions to yourself she didn't ask for it she asked a question. There is an awesome Facebook page called Unassisted Birth/Free birth and there are hundreds of women who would love to talk/answer questions! I too am having a unassisted birth feel free to PM/PT me! Good luck!