Am I wrong for this?

So my sons dad is not in his life at this point but his mom and sister make a point to come see him a lot. The issue is every time they come over to see him they treat me like crap. They are so mad at me for not keeping the baby I was pregnant with and that is all they seem to talk about when they come over. His mom told me yesterday that she can never forgive me for killing her grandchild. I don't get how she can't forgive me for that but she's okay with her son being a deadbeat. I'm getting to the point where I want to just cut all ties with them but everybody is telling me that she has a right to be angry with me and it wouldn't be fair to my son if I cut ties. Am I wrong for feeling like I don't deserve to have this thrown in my face every time I see them?. Or should I suck it up and let my son continue to see them?.

I would let them continue to see him. I understand why you don't like hearing what they say, but I see where they are coming from. If they are pro life, they will never forgive you and there is nothing you can do about it.

I would not let her talk to me like that. The choice that you made was what was best for you and your other child in that situation. I would let her know that you value her relationship with your child but that if she keeps acting this way on her visits she will not be invited over. I surely hope that she is not saying these terrible things in front of your child.

I would talk to them about it. Tell them that if they cant respect you and let the past go then they will not be a part of you and your sons life. Its not healthy for him to see you talked down to, and if they cant get over it they may try and influence him later in life. You have it hard enough raising one alone, cant they see that?

Quoting khigh:" I would let them continue to see him. I understand why you don't like hearing what they say, but I see ... [snip!] ... I see where they are coming from. If they are pro life, they will never forgive you and there is nothing you can do about it."

They dont have to forgive her, they need to let it go. Its not fair to anyone involved to bring it up time and time again. They should be spending time with the grandchild they do have instead of harping on what will never be. Not forgiving her isnt going to change the outcome. Her son does NOT need to hear them bash mommy.

Quoting khigh:" I would let them continue to see him. I understand why you don't like hearing what they say, but I see ... [snip!] ... I see where they are coming from. If they are pro life, they will never forgive you and there is nothing you can do about it."

I'm confused as to where they are coming from? How can you be pro-life but non-forgiving? That does not even make sense. The decision I made had nothing to do with her and if she was so concerned about her "grandchildren" then she should be angry with her son for being a piece of smurf.

You should tell them her that if her son wasnt such a deatbeat POS maybe you would have been able to afford 2 kids, its hard enough with one. And then tell her that if she mentions it one more time you will have no choice but to cut them off because its not fair to you to have to listen to them complaining about a choice YOU made about YOUR life because it was what was best for YOU.

I'd talk to them and lay down some ground rules. Tell them they have made their opinion clear, you understand but they need to stop now. It's over and done with now, continuing to harp on it will only create bad feelings and that's not going to make for a good relationship between all of you in the future.

Quoting Mommy&Noah:" I'm confused as to where they are coming from? How can you be pro-life but non-forgiving? That does ... [snip!] ... with her and if she was so concerned about her "grandchildren" then she should be angry with her son for being a piece of smurf."

She could be directing her anger in the wrong direction. Mad at the whole situation and taking it out on you. Which is not fair. She should be encouraging her son to step up and provide for her grandchild.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy&Noah:</b>" I'm confused as to where they are coming from? How can you be pro-life but non-forgiving? That does ... [snip!] ... with her and if she was so concerned about her "grandchildren" then she should be angry with her son for being a piece of smurf."</blockquote>



She should be mad at her son, also. However, for a pro life person, they believe that abortion is murder and murder is unforgivable.

Quoting 3 little monsters:" I'd talk to them and lay down some ground rules. Tell them they have made their opinion clear, you understand ... [snip!] ... harp on it will only create bad feelings and that's not going to make for a good relationship between all of you in the future."

I have tried to talk to her so much. She's the same woman that denied that my first son even belonged to her son and now she's all concerned. I keep trying and trying to explain my decision and she doesn't understand. She even goes as far to say that I am a bad mother to my son for having an abortion because that makes me heartless.

Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy&Noah:</b>" I'm confused as to where they are coming from? ... [snip!] ... be mad at her son, also. However, for a pro life person, they believe that abortion is murder and murder is unforgivable."

Well I hope anybody who feels that way isn't prolife because they are christian. Because murder is supposed to be forgivable.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy&Noah:</b>" I have tried to talk to her so much. She's the same woman that denied that my first son even belonged ... [snip!] ... She even goes as far to say that I am a bad mother to my son for having an abortion because that makes me heartless."</blockquote>


Your just going to have to be firm with her. Don't yell or be mean but tell her to stop or visits will be cut back. And if you say that follow through with it. Just remember that you have the power in this situation. If they are making you uncomfortable you don't have to see them.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy&Noah:</b>" Well I hope anybody who feels that way isn't prolife because they are christian. Because murder is supposed to be forgivable."</blockquote>




Isn't murder against the ten commandments? I'm not Christian.

They are likely pro life and will never change their opinion of you. If you cannot listen to it anymore, it might be best to cut ties.

Quoting khigh:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommy&Noah:</b>" Well I hope anybody who feels that way isn't ... [snip!] ... likely pro life and will never change their opinion of you. If you cannot listen to it anymore, it might be best to cut ties."

Yeah and so Is lying so every Christian is going to hell if that's the case. It might be best I'm done with being the nice guy. I'm going to start being the heartless person they think that I am.