re: not another repeat

I agree with other posters... Sounds like you had a really difficult time last time, and going thru with it again sounds like it would be very difficult for you. Ultimately this is your decision to make. As another person mentioned, the Pell Grant is available to men with families/children. I think it's up to $12,000 per school year, and it's cash for living/school expenses. There are also other grants that only men and women with dependents can qualify for. I know time is a factor, but I would definitely look into all options before making a final, irreversible decision. Good luck.

Thanks everyone. I think we are going to try and make it work. I;m terrified, but that's a given. I'm going to see him this weekend and we're hopefully making the final decision and I have a doctor's appt/sonogram next wednesday

Don't think of it as giving up your hopes, dreams, goals, etc. You just need to make a new plan to accomplish them  

Quoting Rd.:" Don't think of it as giving up your hopes, dreams, goals, etc. You just need to make a new plan to accomplish them  "

I know, I tell my boyfriend that. It's definitely hard and an adjustment, and it's going to be very different and I hope he starts seeing that and understanding we can just do these things later.

Quoting Sam H.:" I know, I tell my boyfriend that. It's definitely hard and an adjustment, and it's going to be very different and I hope he starts seeing that and understanding we can just do these things lat

When anyone gets pregnant whether married, dating or engaged ppl always have this feeling of not being able to ( do it ) and that's just because this is something new and unknown. I have had a previous abortion before becoming pregnant with my now 4yr old son. I thought I wouldn't be able to do it either, but when there are two ppl its a whole lot easier. And like another OP said....your dreams and aspirations can still be reached if you are determined to get there. Look at it this way....you were determined enough to do what needed to get into college, you did what was needed to stay in college and if you decided to keep this child you will do what you need to take care of him or her and to finish school. I have a friend that got pregnant with twins like 2 weeks after we started college....she did have to put school on the back burner for a yr and a half or more, but she went back and finish with twins....and she just last yr had her 3rd and just started school this past semester to further her degree. She will be 25 at the end of this month....I think she did pretty darn good. I have one child and haven't even went back yet; and thats not due to my child....thats do to my very low determination level and or the fact that I come home to my own place/car etc and it keeps me in this comfortable zone when I know deep down I need to be in a classroom somewhere! My point its about YOU and how determined you are to get your degree no matter what. All things are possible if YOU let it be! Getting it done on time doesn't matter ( traditional graduates are outta college by 21-22 ) but just getting it done period does!

Based of everything I've read it sounds like the op had such a difficult time with her last situation and I'm sorry things were so awful last time *hugs* don't look at it as putting of your goals and dreams, its just a detour, a different path you're taking, you're still going to get to where you are headed but your just taking the scenic route. Good luck op!