Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" is this what you mean? http://biblearchive.com/blog/2010/apologetics/to-train-up-a-child-an-examination-of-the-pearl-method/"thats the right author, but those are excerts, that are taken out of context, (just skimmed it, but was only seeing a few sentences disected from paragraphs i had read in the few chapeter excets online). ive gotten off the link i was reading, and cant find it. i looked on amazon but there is no excert to read. i like the aspects of a child listening to the parent, and doing what they are told, ect, but dont like the spanking aspect.
Quoting Keyboard Warrior.:" That's the title? Lol. I wouldn't have even picked it up. I don't like the word "train" when it comes ... [snip!] ... as well. I guess I'm just not the type to look for books and things on subjects like that. Blah, I'm rambling now. Good luck!"yes, very lame title, and i dont agree with how they get the outcome of the well behaved childen, i def think children need to listen to mom and dad, but dont think a switch is the way to get there. i know, some kids need their butt whipped but not the young ones. im just trying to figure out how to teach good values and displine. my son is only 13 months old, and he is a sweet little boy, that knows when he is doing something he should do, ie, playing with the cords plugged into the wall. he will look at me, as if to say "i know i shouldnt be doing this, but are you going to say something?" and i do, i calmly say, "no no baby, dont touch" and most of the time it works, he resists, but he is a baby, and sometimes doesnt, so i go over, and say again "no no baby, dont touch" and distract him with something else. but, being a first time mom, im nerves. i see 8 and 9 year olds in walmart acting nuts and out of control, and i dont want that for my family, so i figure start figuring out how to do this now, and hopefully wont have monsters later! haha. wishful thinking right?
Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" I've heard of these crack pots and I'd throw their book in the fire if it were me. http://news.yahoo ... [snip!] ... I like the today's parent magazines / or family circle that sort of stuff ."
Quoting Mandy Evans:" yikkeess!! i didnt read the book, just a few chapters, and it didnt really go into details about the ... [snip!] ... but i still dont think i could spank. my son is only 13 months old tho, ask me again when im dealing with a teenager! haha"
Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" Yeah I read a bit of it too and honestly these people sicken me. I see your son's close to my son's ... [snip!] ... bath toys and hates them lol so I had some old shampoo bottles and a water jug he loves to fill them up and pour them back out."
Quoting Mandy Evans:" yes, very lame title, and i dont agree with how they get the outcome of the well behaved childen, i def ... [snip!] ... so i figure start figuring out how to do this now, and hopefully wont have monsters later! haha. wishful thinking right?"
Quoting Keyboard Warrior.:" For me, spanking isn't an option. I'm firmly believe that I can teach my kids things without being physical. ... [snip!] ... that. Rambling again. If you ever need advice or anything, PM me! I'm always willing to talk and give advice, if I can "Thank you very much!!!! manners, kindness, all big things in my book. all things my parents taugh us, but i was young and have no idea how they taught it to us! lol. i ask my mom and she says "hunny, that was almost 30 years ago, i dont remember!" haha!!! thank you for the info, tho! much appricated!
Quoting Elizabeth 0315:" It would be easier if the came with a how to book hahaha . I had those same worries at 18 with my first. ... [snip!] ... but mostly it's trial and error. Does Nanny 911 have books out? the show is really good I bet they'd have tons of good advice."i love that 80-10-10!!! such a good, simple concept!! thank you! im glad im not the only one that has worried they are doing something wrong, im sure my confidence will grow the longer im a mom. i have never seen nanny 911, but have heard of it, thats the show with the british women right? and i agree, life threatening yes, which is one of the few times i have smacked his hand, when he was attempting to pull the flat screen off the stand, scared the hell out of me, and he hasnt tried it since thank god. i want to have a big family, but also want to make sure im rasing the kids right. sigh, something tells me i will always worry though! how old is your son that says pees and tanks (sooo freaking cute)!! i say it to my son all the time, but so far, all he says is "dog" and "dilk" (milk). we play the "thank you" game tho, where we hand things back and forth while i say "thank you". so im hoping he will start repeating it back to me soon!