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Done sharing........

I just wanted to say good luck.

Do you maybe feel guilty because you know HE doesn't want it? I know my DH would be upset if I had an abortion but ultimately, my health must come fist. Maybe explain to him how hard it would be on you? Whatever you decide, I hope you find peace with it. Best of luck to you.

I can't say what I would do. BUT, the decision should be up to both of you, not just you.

I would say, let the waters settle a bit before jumping to any decision that you'll regret later on....

we are all here and you know that.

I'm so sorry you're going through this with this baby I was thinking along the lines of you I have a 3 yr old, and a now 1 yr old who will be 18 months when this baby is born. I had a lot of doubts, even made the appointment to go to the clinic....but a week before I was supposed to go I realized that even though it would be rough my husband and I could do it. Now I am so glad I didn't, but that was what was best for me. I agree you should take time and talk it out with your DH and seriously think about what you want. Nobody can make the right decision but you good luck! I'm always here if you need to talk

First of all, I just wanted to say you were dealt a smurffy hand and some bad luck. You should probably let it sink in and talk to your DH first before jumping to any choices. But if it's your health at risk, maybe he will understand.

That's a really hard situation, I'm sorry. I would just talk to your husband and agree beforehand to be honest and open with each other about how you each feel without fighting. I completely understand where you're coming from, but at the same time you're partners when it comes to family. I would recommend putting a lot of effort into getting on the same page before any decisions are made. He may resent you if you have an abortion against what he wants just as much as you may resent him for guilting you into a pregnancy that you didn't want. Good luck!

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" I can't say what I would do. BUT, the decision should be up to both of you, not just you."

Obviously it isn't going to be just me making the decision. Thanks captain obvious  

thanks ladies...

Not all pregnancies are the same. This could be an easy one. You REALLY need to talk with DH about what you BOTH want and come to an agreement. Good Luck to you and hopefully you can come to the decision that is best! If this is something you can't agree on it could very well permanently damage your marriage. Are you prepared for that?

Quoting Love my 3 kids:" Not all pregnancies are the same. This could be an easy one. You REALLY need to talk with DH about what ... [snip!] ... best! If this is something you can't agree on it could very well permanently damage your marriage. Are you prepared for that?"

Um, yeah.

But thanks for making it even more obvious.  

Cheese and rice, OP, I just want to say how sorry I am for some of these dumbasses.

Quoting Jude the Apostle:" Cheese and rice, OP, I just want to say how sorry I am for some of these dumbasses. "

Eh, it's okay. I'm just in a bad mood and not handling it well tonight.

Thank you other ladies though!

Good luck OP <3