mixed emotions ..:(

I've only known for literally a couple of days that I'm pregnant, and these have been the most emotional couple of days and I know it only will get worst. I am so paranoid. Im afraid to do anything due to the fact I think I might hurt my baby. I've had one mc and it has really taken on toll on me. Im scared about how I lay, what I do, what if I'm breathing wrong ?..idk! My first mc was due to a blighted ovum, so naturally there was nothing I could have done, but this time I'm hoping that's not the case and if not I want to do anything I can to prevent any other potential harm that could be done. Im not as happy as the first time I found out I was pregnant my feelings are manipulated by what has happened prior. I feel like I'm already super emotional and on top of everything my boyfriend doesn't really understand ! He pist me off and I broke into tears and even then I felt like I was doing something wrong to the baby. I hope my feelings change and I can calm down and enjoy my pregnancy and prepare myself to be a mother. Sigh......

Do you want the baby? Does the dad want the baby?

You have a lot of anxiety.  

Just talk to an OB about your concerns. They will explain more and possibly make you feel better.

I debated not replying due to my story, because I do not want to worry you any more.. But I just want to say you won't do anything wrong to hurt the baby.. Just try not to stress too much over it.. I have had three blighted ovums.. So I know exactly how you are feeling! With my second pregnancy I wanted to be happy and hopeful but I knew I should hold off on any hope until my first ultrasound.. And when I had that first ultrasound I knew right away it was happening again.. Oh man, it was so difficult for me.. By the third one it was almost like a routine for me.. I took a loong break from pregnancies.. And finally got pregnant with my son in Dec '10.. And the pregnancy went beautifully! No complications and a healthy full-term baby boy at the end!   With all this being said I just want to inform (or remind) you that multiple blighted ovums and/or recurrent miscarriages are VERY rare (1 in 100 women will have 3 or more consecutive miscarriages, that's only 1%!) So try not to worry too much (I know how hard that is..) I also have a couple questions if you don't mind.. When was your miscarriage/how long ago? And did you have a D&C?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvon [♥]:</b>" Do you want the baby? Does the dad want the baby? "</blockquote>


Yes ! I want nothing more than to be a mother and my baby's father is excited he just doesn't have any real concerns like I do ...or atleast that's how I feel

<blockquote><b>Quoting Rachel♥sJon:</b>" I debated not replying due to my story, because I do not want to worry you any more.. But I just want ... [snip!] ... is..) I also have a couple questions if you don't mind.. When was your miscarriage/how long ago? And did you have a D&C?"</blockquote>




Thank you for your kind words.. and congrats! I do have hope..and I did not have a dnc I just let it happen naturally ..if it happens again I will though.

Quoting Lucky_Charms:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Rachel♥sJon:</b>" I debated not replying due to my story, ... [snip!] ... and congrats! I do have hope..and I did not have a dnc I just let it happen naturally ..if it happens again I will though."

Your welcome! I'm always trying to support anyone I see going through this because I know how emotional it is.. And that is good that you did not have a D&C!! I had a D&C with my first two and that is why after my last loss I decided to give my body a long break from all the pregnancies and surgeries before I tried again.. (I had three pregnancies in less than a year!  )

ive had many losses & surgeries, so i thinks its normal for anyone whos been through a loss to have alot of anxiety in the begining. i did & i didnt start to feel happy until i hit the halfway mark with this one. i hope it goes well for u.