My boyfriends ex wife drives me crazy. I KNOW it shouldnt or its none of my business, but damn.
My boyfriend doesnt say or do anything about it because he thinks its giving her what she wants by him talking to her.
She gets $800 a month for child support. Which my BF has NO problem paying, but she refuses to work because she knows it'd be lowered. She and her THREE OTHER kids live on that as well. She has no job. My BFs son gets clothes from his older brother. He needs glasses but his sister broke them and she wont buy him new ones. Like my bf says, he should have everything he needs.
I'm NOT saying he shouldnt have to pay and yes, SOME of that money should go to rent/utilities and stuff but it should also go to HIM as well. like new shoes. That my bf bought to send back with him. Along with basics he needed.
his son has told us stories about how when his moms bf gets off work, if the house isnt clean they wake him up at 3am and make them clean it and how when his mom gets mad, she HOLDS them on the floor. Which i find totally inappropriate.
His ex also invited my BFS other son to come see her when he went to visit his mom. The ex told the courts she didnt feel comfortable having my bf move back into his moms house so my bfs mom could help with the son while he worked because the other son (of my bf) was gay.. yet, its ok for my bfs son to come visit??
I get so frustrated that he doesnt say anything to her. he says nothings gonna change and his son may get in trouble/be punished if he says something but damn.
thats the problem. She moved out of state. theres NO way to prove it. He doesnt have any bruises when he comes for vacations.
And like my bf says, if we tell her we know, he could be more abused for saying something.
I'm just frustrated.
Also, my bf says CPS doesnt consider that abuse. When they were married his step daughter at the time, came home beaten by a belt by his dad and they said that was ok.