re: Pissed...

I didn't get knocked up, we planned the baby and then he called off the engagement. Yeah It might seem immature but thats the last thing I had to know at ALL what he's doing because he doesnt contact or come see me.

first you should not have been logging into his FB. You had no business doing that and he also doesn't need to give you money while you are pregnant. After the baby is here he should but not while you are pregnant.

Quoting megan003:" I didn't get knocked up, we planned the baby and then he called off the engagement. Yeah It might seem ... [snip!] ... It might seem immature but thats the last thing I had to know at ALL what he's doing because he doesnt contact or come see me."

He doesn't have to. You aren't together anymore. You don't have to know what he's doing because you're not his smurfing mom.

LMFAO yeah , like its okay for a guy to just up and leave after you plan out a life together.

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" He doesn't have to. You aren't together anymore. You don't have to know what he's doing because you're not his smurfing mom."

Hah, I like you.  

Quoting megan003:" LMFAO yeah , like its okay for a guy to just up and leave after you plan out a life together."

Actually, it is.
Those were plans, not reality sweetheart.
Things change all the time.
Get used to it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting megan003:</b>" LMFAO yeah , like its okay for a guy to just up and leave after you plan out a life together."</blockquote>




It's not okay, but smurf happens. Stalking does nothing but gets a restraining order against you

Quoting megan003:" LMFAO yeah , like its okay for a guy to just up and leave after you plan out a life together."

That has nothing to do with his FB password FFS. You're a whiny bitch.

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" And if they don't exchange passwords, their relationship isn't intimate? WTF ever happened to being ... [snip!] ... someone. That being said, I would probably flip my smurf if my husband even hinted that he wanted my password to anything."

That's not what I'm saying at all. lol. I'm just saying that this is clearly how she sees it... as a symbol of intimacy. I can grasp that concept and understand why she's hurt. I don't think she has a right to be angry or to think he's a dick. He's not. But clearly, in their relationship, this sharing of passwords was a symbol of intimacy and trust. Now, that has passed.

Every relationship is different with different indications of intimacy. For example, my husband shares his day at work with me.. frustrations, good moments, etc. If he stopped doing that, it would mean a loss of intimacy (to me).. so if we were to separate, and I stopped getting to talk to him about his day and stuff (as naturally would happen), I would miss that. And if he started sharing that stuff with someone else, it would hurt.

But that's just part of the process of separating and moving on. It sounds silly. I'd sound silly if I cried to my friends that my ex doesn't tell me about his day anymore. lol. (which is why I'd probably keep that sadness to myself).. but I can understand grieving a loss of intimacy, and if you aren't in touch with your emotions, then you could easily find yourself angry at something like this.

Quoting megan003:" LMFAO yeah , like its okay for a guy to just up and leave after you plan out a life together."

It is okay. It's called free will. He moved on, it's time that you do the same. You don't need to be checking up on him, you are not his mother.. you are his EX GIRLFRIEND... and obviously for a reason to. You can't act like he owes you anything. Sorry.

Quoting Devil's Advocate:" That has nothing to do with his FB password FFS. You're a whiny bitch."

 

I am thinking she has some sort of mental issue. She is still overly obsessed with someone who wants nothing to do with her to the point of logging onto his stuff to see what he is doing and who he is talking to.

If the way she is acting on here is any indication of how she is irl she probably scared the poor guy off.

Quoting megan003:" LMFAO yeah , like its okay for a guy to just up and leave after you plan out a life together."

It is okay for that to happen. It doesn't feel okay. It hurts. But everyone always has the option of changing their plans, of moving on.

It sucks really bad for the person who doesn't want out, but the person who does want out can't be expected to stay and remain unhappy just because he already made plans that he no longer wishes to fulfill.

Quoting redneck mamma:"   I am thinking she has some sort of mental issue. She is still overly obsessed with someone who ... [snip!] ... he is talking to. If the way she is acting on here is any indication of how she is irl she probably scared the poor guy off."

I don't think it's a mental issue at all. It's a sign of immaturity and drama. Common at a young age.

And acting like bitches because idk how to handle what he did makes you guys so much better than me right  

Im 20 & he's 25. Mabey thats why Im thinking so messed up about it. Because i actually thought when a guy says something he means it and that I wouldn't have to do it alone.

Quoting megan003:" And acting like bitches because idk how to handle what he did makes you guys so much better than me right ... [snip!] ... messed up about it. Because i actually thought when a guy says something he means it and that I wouldn't have to do it alone."

Smurf happens.

Put your big girl panties on and grow up.