Quoting Devil's Advocate:" And if they don't exchange passwords, their relationship isn't intimate? WTF ever happened to being ... [snip!] ... someone. That being said, I would probably flip my smurf if my husband even hinted that he wanted my password to anything."
That's not what I'm saying at all. lol. I'm just saying that this is clearly how she sees it... as a symbol of intimacy. I can grasp that concept and understand why she's hurt. I don't think she has a right to be angry or to think he's a dick. He's not. But clearly, in their relationship, this sharing of passwords was a symbol of intimacy and trust. Now, that has passed.
Every relationship is different with different indications of intimacy. For example, my husband shares his day at work with me.. frustrations, good moments, etc. If he stopped doing that, it would mean a loss of intimacy (to me).. so if we were to separate, and I stopped getting to talk to him about his day and stuff (as naturally would happen), I would miss that. And if he started sharing that stuff with someone else, it would hurt.
But that's just part of the process of separating and moving on. It sounds silly. I'd sound silly if I cried to my friends that my ex doesn't tell me about his day anymore. lol. (which is why I'd probably keep that sadness to myself).. but I can understand grieving a loss of intimacy, and if you aren't in touch with your emotions, then you could easily find yourself angry at something like this.