Quoting vivalacandy:" well I have always been a codependant type person, never been single...so it kinda scares me. then the ... [snip!] ... withouth having to "lower my standards" seems impossible since i have 2 kids (not just 1)..I may or may not be making sense."
It is not an impossible task. As much as it seems. I have two kids and am now expecting my third and am once again a single mother. Some how with having gone to school full time and then working three jobs and being a parent I was able to have a relationship and almost get maried and end up pregnant. Then I found out he was not a good guy :/. So As much as being a single parent and having kids and trying to date is scary, It is Possible, just dont sell yourself short and get with a guy because you are tired of being lonely or go back to an ex because its comfortable. Always remember an ex is an ex for a reason, I am good friends with my daughters father and everyonce in a while I start to think about him and I, I have to remind myself we can be friends but are horrible as a couple. Just because I am lonely I'm not going to go there, that was my mistake with the last, he was the first in years and I was stupid.