re: Friend dying/slowly losing someone close to you

<blockquote><b>Quoting CourtyyBugg:</b>" Sorry if I repeat anything someone else has said, I don't have the time to read the replies. I haven't ... [snip!] ... her know how much you care. I'm sure she'll appreciate anything at this point in time.. Best of luck to you and your friend. "</blockquote>


Thank you. Those are some great ideas.

I am so sorry you are going through this! And your sweet dear friend!  . I lost my little sister 13 yrs this month to Lukemia at the age of 21.  . I feel like you! She never had a chance to live. No wedding, no babies, the list goes on and on! It was the hardest thing I have ever had to go through! My son who is now 16 was 3 when she passed and I can remember telling him that 'Bamber' here name was Amber had left and gone to Heaven and wasn't sick anymore. I don't know at that age if he truly understood, but it was the only way I knew to tell him. He still to this day talks about and remembers her. He woke up one morning and told me that Amber had came to visit him while he was asleep.  . Cancer is such an ugly disease and does not discriminate! I truly hope your friend lives what time she has left as comfortable as possible! I am so sorry everyone involved is going through this!

<blockquote><b>Quoting A Williams76:</b>" I am so sorry you are going through this! And your sweet dear friend!  . I lost my little sister 13 ... [snip!] ... your friend lives what time she has left as comfortable as possible! I am so sorry everyone involved is going through this!"</blockquote>


Have u seen my most recent post? I'm looking for ideas to tell my dd today that she is sick and will die. Did u say anything to your son ahead of time when u knew it was the end? Or just when she passed? My dd hs hs experience with death so she does know more than some 4-5 yr olds should ever have to know.

My son was aware of here being sick. I never told him that she may die, because I honestly didn't think that she would. She was up and talking 12 hrs before she left us...sick, but still able to function. Everything went downhill very quickly! My suggestion would be to explain that your friend is sick to your DD, that way when she does pass it isn't so unexpected. Just sit down with DD and put it on her level. Death is hard, but a sudden death is even harder in my opinion.

My chest is literally heavy reading that. Your poor friend. So tragic my god so young.
I've never been through anything like this, I haven't lost anyone close to cancer. I don't have any suggestions on how to tell your daughter, I just wanted to tell you I am sincerely sorry that your friend is going through this and sincerely sorry that you have to lose someone like this.
I hope her and everyone close to her finds peace in her end.
 

Quoting A Williams76:" My son was aware of here being sick. I never told him that she may die, because I honestly didn't think ... [snip!] ... so unexpected. Just sit down with DD and put it on her level. Death is hard, but a sudden death is even harder in my opinion."

thats what I dont want to happen. I dont want her to be in shock thinking shes finend then all of a sudden dead. I want her to be prepapred for it to happen. My cousins death was completely unexpected and even though she was not close to my cousin being as she lived far away she was still impacted greatly by that. So I feel it will be worse with a close friend that we hang out with a lot and shes with a lot.

Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" My chest is literally heavy reading that. Your poor friend. So tragic my god so young. I've never been ... [snip!] ... and sincerely sorry that you have to lose someone like this. I hope her and everyone close to her finds peace in her end.  "

thank you so much. its just terrible not knowing when, but comforting knowing that we can make the most of the last time we do have with her. Everyone in my family has died so sudden and unexpectly that ive never got that time with someone.

I agree in that it's wonderful what you are doing for your friend. Do you have a favorite picture of the two of you? I have suggested this time and time again as it is such a wonderful memorial and I have bought them for myself as well as for friends. They are flat pendants that have an image of your choosing engraved onto the face of the pendant. They have the same as well that will hold cremated ashes but the other ones might just be a gift idea that you can give her or for each of the five of you when the time passes as a way to keep her with you. I will include the link at the bottom. I am so sorry for what you're going through - have been through similar with my grandmother and it's so incredibly hard.
photo engraved jewelry.

<blockquote><b>Quoting laxmommy:</b>" I agree in that it's wonderful what you are doing for your friend. Do you have a favorite picture of ... [snip!] ... what you're going through - have been through similar with my grandmother and it's so incredibly hard. photo engraved jewelry."</blockquote>

Thank you. Tht would e a wonderful gift for them. Thank you for the link